Today's episode features Artemisia de Vine's theory of sexual fantasy. Artemisia is a sexual fantasy expert, sexologist and author who uses fantasy not as a source of shame and guilt, but as the key to unlocking our deepest motivations and desires. Artemisia and I discuss prevailing theories of sexual fantasy, the three paradoxes we seek to rectify through sex, and the origin of airborne penetration of pastry products.

REFERENCES:

deVining the Erotic (free) Substack: https://substack.com/@artemisiadevine

Artemisia de Vine’s website: https://www.artemisiadevine.com/

Follow Artemisia on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/artemisia-de-vine-780847184/

Follow Artemisia on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/artemisiadevine/

Follow Artemisia on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ArtemisiadeVine

Free mini course! The Celeb Swoon Technique: Uncover your own unique erotic narrative with this simple exercise:
https://MyFantasyIs.com (also found at https://www.artemisiadevine.com/CelebSwoon).

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:30) - Introducing Artemisia de Vine
• (02:51) - Sex is in everything we do
• (06:55) - Theories of sexual fantasy
• (10:29) - A human-centered theory of sexual fantasy
• (13:57) - The first paradox in sex
• (19:14) - The second paradox in sex
• (22:32) - The third paradox in sex
• (26:35) - Resolving the paradoxes
• (30:28) - Changing state of consciousness
• (35:33) - Improving your life by understanding your fantasies
• (40:43) - Why do we feel shame at fulfilling our fantasies?
• (44:52) - The spirituality of smut
• (48:42) - Fantasies are not necessarily about trauma
• (52:41) - How to find Artemisia de Vine on the internet
• (55:46) - Show closing
• (58:02) - Closing credits