“We don’t repeat toxic relationships by accident. We do it to finish a story that never had an ending.”

For years, Anton believed he was just “unlucky” in love.
Until he realized he wasn’t choosing partners—he was choosing patterns.

In this raw, unflinching memoir-meets-manifesto, Anton Volney unpacks how we unconsciously chase emotionally unavailable people not out of desire, but out of damage. Raised on conditional love, many of us learn to equate intimacy with suffering. Permission to Be Powerful explores why we keep running the same love story—with different names—and what it actually takes to stop.

From gaslighting to ghosting, idealization to emotional starvation, this book walks you through:

• Why “fixing” your partner is really a subconscious attempt to fix your past

• How childhood wounds wire us to seek out the same pain in adulthood

• What emotionally unavailable people actually trigger inside of us

• How to rewire your nervous system to stop craving chaos and start receiving real love

• The exact inner work it takes to break the cycle—for good

With brutal honesty, Anton shares his journey through heartbreak, trauma bonds, and spiritual awakening. No sugar-coating. No blame games. Just the raw truth of what it means to love yourself enough to stop chasing people who won’t choose you.

Whether you’re stuck in a toxic relationship, fresh out of one, or terrified to love again—this book will show you that the most radical thing you can do is choose yourself.

Stop repeating the story. Start rewriting it.
This is your permission slip.

🖤 For fans of Attached, Women Who Love Too Much, Radical Honesty, and The Body Keeps the Score.