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Sheila Heti
About this listen
Reeling from a failed marriage, Sheila, a 20-something playwright, finds herself unsure of how to live and create. When Margaux, a talented painter and free spirit, and Israel, a sexy and depraved artist, enter her life, Sheila hopes that through close - sometimes too close - observation of her new friend, her new lover, and herself, she might regain her footing in art and life.
Using transcribed conversations, real emails, plus heavy doses of fiction, the brilliant and always innovative Sheila Heti crafts a work that is part literary novel, part self-help manual, and part bawdy confessional. It's a totally shameless and dynamic exploration into the way we live now, which breathes fresh wisdom into the eternal questions: What is the sincerest way to love? What kind of person should you be?
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Critic reviews
Unreadable
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Stupid book
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not interested. too solipsiistic
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Self-conscious, indulgent and humdrum - author is a hack?
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Vapid, insufferable navel gazing
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Not the next Henry Miller
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Raw, bold, and deep.
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Heti Succeeds by Writing What She Knows
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Also the voiceover artist was really difficult to follow. Her voice was annoying and without proper inflection. Her efforts to do other voices was unsuccessful.
The Worst Language and Story Line
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Baaad "Performance" Hard to listen to.
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