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Cristelle Ledroit
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Mona Chollet
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Harcèlement, humiliations, insultes : nous sommes bien averti.es de ces fléaux de la vie en société et nous nous efforçons de lutter contre eux. Mais il y a un cas de figure que nous négligeons : celui où l'agresseur, c'est... nous-même. Bien souvent résonne dans notre tête une voix malveillante qui nous attaque, qui nous sermonne, qui nous rabaisse ; qui nous dit que, quoi que nous fassions, nous avons tort ; que nous ne méritons rien de bon, que nous présentons un défaut fondamental. Cette voix parle particulièrement fort quand nous appartenons à une catégorie dominée : femmes, enfants, minorités sexuelles ou raciales...
Ce livre se propose de braquer le projecteur, pour une fois, sur l'ennemi intérieur. Quels sont ces pouvoirs qui s'insinuent jusque dans l'intimité de nos consciences ? Comment se sont-ils forgés ?
Nous étudierons quelques-unes de leurs manifestations : la disqualification millénaire des femmes et, notamment, aujourd'hui, des victimes de violences sexuelles ; la diabolisation des enfants, qui persiste bien plus qu'on ne le croit ; la culpabilisation des mères, qui lui est symétrique ; le culte du travail, qui indexe notre valeur sur notre productivité ; et enfin la résurgence de logiques punitives jusque dans nos combats contre l'oppression et nos désirs de changer le monde.
Table des matières :
L'ENNEMI INTÉRIEUR. INTRODUCTION
Le " réglage par défaut " de nos esprits
Qui mange vos tartines ?
" UNE MALTRAITANCE COLLECTIVE ". LE POIDS DE L'HÉRITAGE CHRÉTIEN. PROLOGUE
L'erreur de saint Augustin
Plutôt coupable qu'impuissant.e
1. " ET TU NE SAIS PAS QUE ÈVE, C'EST TOI ? " ÊTRE UNE FEMME, LA FAUTE IMPARDONNABLE
" Il n'est pas absurde d'avoir l'air menacée quand la réalité est menaçante "
Injonctions contradictoires et noms d'oiseaux
Le tour de passe-passe de la classe savante
" L'après-viol est un combat entre toi et toi "
La prosternation devant le droit du plus fort
" Les femmes sont toujours moins croyables que les hommes "
Une fourberie congénitale
Les représentations, armes fatales
2. UNE INJONCTION DE NON-VIE. DE LA DIABOLISATION DES ENFANTS
" Le premier rapport de domination "
Le châtiment précède la faute
Le refoulement, une " fée perfide "
" Avec quels yeux observe-t-on ? "
Génies du mal en culottes courtes
Un trouble intolérable
Supprimer l'empathie
Une vision " de Bisounours " ?
Un arbitraire décomplexé
Entériner l'ordre du monde
Une culture de l'humiliation
" Chacun.e son tour ", le pacte implicite
La démocratie familiale, cette horreur
Les ogres se portent bien
3. " CETTE PHRASE DANS TA TÊTE :"TU L'ABÎMES.' " LA MATERNITÉ, PASSEPORTPOUR LE DOUTE PERMANENT
Une gangue de conformisme
" Vous voulez un bébé au cerveau endommagé ? "
" De la jeune écervelée à la Madone à l'enfant "
Une injonction à l'oubli de soi
Un levier répressif
" On m'avait retirée du monde "
4. MARCHE OU CRÈVE. LA PRODUCTIVITÉ COMME MESURE DE NOTRE VALEUR 165
La vie, ce contretemps fâcheux
Quand Madame Hamster doit descendre de sa roue
Le souffle glacial du calvinisme
" Les portes du temple de la sieste sont ouvertes "
" Ne lui laisse pas ses aises, je te dis "
Les voluptés douteuses de l'exploitation d'autrui
La chasse aux " fainéants ", cette escroquerie
Notre tyrannie envers nous-mêmes
Apprendre à ignorer son corps
La révolution de Simone Biles
" Vous ne briserez pas mon âme "
En finir avec la logique sacrificielle
5. NOUS SOMMES TOUTES DES FÉMINISTES EN CARTON. LE MILITANTISME COMME SURVEILLANCE DE SOI ET DES AUTRES
La " peur de soi "
Une frénésie de jugement
Étendre la palette des attitudes possibles
" La fidélité au devoir est une trahison de soi "
Midge, Susie... et moi
La honte d'aller mal, la honte d'aller bien
Le bonheur n'est pas un pied de nez
" Une vision qui intègre le risque, l'erreur, l'échec "
La mare saumâtre de l'individualisme
" On ne peut pas se changer soi-même entièrement "
Le " pouvoir du consommateur ", vraiment ?
Le souffle de la conflictualité
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