Hosts:

Cinthia Varkevisser (Mystic) & Michelle Walters (Mind Power)

Guest:

Narelle Shehan, Life Coach, Director, and Creator of Not a Nurse or a Purse

Episode Overview:

In this episode of Mind Power Meets Mystic, Cinthia and Michelle dive into the world of dating with special guest Narelle Shehan. Narelle shares her personal journey from post-divorce dating to the creation of her popular dating philosophy, Not a Nurse or a Purse. She emphasizes the importance of being specific about what you want in a partner, learning from past relationships, and standing firm in your boundaries.

Key Topics:

• The concept of Not a Nurse or a Purse: A guide for women (and men) to avoid slipping into caregiving roles (nurse) or being financially used (purse) in relationships.
• Narelle’s unique dating journey: From surviving a difficult divorce to dating 100 people as a way to rediscover what she wanted in a partner.
• The power of making a list of 100 things you want in a partner. Narelle explains how this practice helped her find someone who checked 99 of her 100 items.
• Why dating should be treated like a part-time job: It requires effort, intentionality, and perseverance.
• Online dating tips: Be honest in your profile, set clear boundaries, and don’t settle for someone who doesn’t align with your values.
• The importance of finding a partner who meets your emotional and practical needs, and learning to stand by your non-negotiables.

Memorable Quotes:

• “People are so nice. I talk to anyone, and everyone’s my friend until they’re not.” – Narelle Shehan
• “Dating has to start where you have the most anxiety, otherwise you’ll never get over it.” – Narelle Shehan
• “Write a list of 100 things you want in a partner, and don’t compromise on what truly matters to you.” – Narelle Shehan
• “If they don’t have the same music or literary references as you, they’re probably not the right person.” – Narelle Shehan

Tips & Takeaways:

• Be specific: Create a list of 100 things you want in a partner, and don’t be afraid to ask for what you really want.
• Online dating honesty: Don’t lie about your age, height, or appearance. It sets the wrong tone from the start.
• Boundaries are key: Know when to say no, especially when it comes to paying for dates or being expected to take on caregiving roles in relationships.
• It’s okay to prioritize your needs: Whether it’s financial stability, emotional health, or physical compatibility, your needs are valid.
• Treat dating like a part-time job: Be committed, focused, and willing to put in the effort to find the right partner.

About Narelle Shehan:

Narelle is a life coach, director, and creator of the dating coaching program Not a Nurse or a Purse, where she helps women and men navigate the dating world with clarity and confidence. She offers a three-month dating group where participants focus on self-awareness, healing past patterns, and renewing their approach to relationships.

What’s Next for Narelle:

Narelle is launching a free monthly masterclass in the new year, along with her signature three-month dating group, which focuses on helping individuals identify their dating blind spots and create lasting change in their relationship patterns.

Connect with Narelle:

• Instagram: @NarelleShehan
• Website: www.narelleshehan.com
• Email: info@narellesheehan.com

• Cinthia Varkevisser: