You know that exhausting loop where you question whether you're good enough, smart enough, skilled enough to do the thing you want to do? Yeah, that shit ends today.

This episode breaks down the difference between being proficient at something and being sufficient as a human being. Confusing these two is what keeps you stuck in that "not good enough" spiral.

Here's the truth: You are inherently enough simply because you exist. Period. Your fundamental sufficiency isn't up for debate — it's already at maximum level.

What you're actually dealing with: Skills gaps. Just because you're not proficient enough at something doesn't mean you're not good enough as a person. It means you have some work to do if you want to develop that skill.

When you say "nothing is working": You haven't defined what "working" actually looks like. We're getting specific about goals, metrics, and what success means to you.

That impulse to over-explain yourself: It's often a trauma response, and it's backwards. When you think you need to convince other people, you actually need to convince yourself.

How to build real confidence: Stop trying to get others to believe in you so you can believe in yourself. Start doing things that make you proud, and watch your self-esteem grow from actual evidence.

Your new approach: Instead of "Am I good enough?" ask "Do I have the proficiency required to do this thing?" If yes, go for it. If no, decide if you want to develop that skill or focus elsewhere.

Ready to put this into practice?

Get my free FAFO Method Workbook — a step-by-step guide to designing experiments that build the skills and confidence you actually want.

Listen to episode 2 "The FAFO Method — Why and How to F*ck Around and Find Out in Your Business" (https://fckyeahpod.buzzsprout.com/2198615) for more details.

Prefer video? Watch the video version of this episode on my YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@kristenkingcoaching

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I’m Kristen King, and I’ve been a coach for pretty much my entire professional career — since the early 2000s after my first solo business hit six figures less than 2 years out of college. Now, I teach humans from all walks of life how to shift from "fuck me" to "fuck yeah" so they can thrive in work, business, relationships, health, and more.

Over the last 15+ years, I've worked in for-profit and non-profit organizations across multiple industries, earned an MBA and a master's in publishing, given countless presentations and trainings for groups ranging from 4 to 6,000, and supported clients — both individuals and organizations — on four continents.

This isn't my first rodeo. In fact, there's been a lot of rodeos. So saddle up, friend, because we're about to go on an awesome ride together. I'm so glad you're here.

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