WHY DO WE ALWAYS JUDGE EVERYONE?! Have you ever judged someone? Have you ever made assumptions about someone’s character based on their appearance? We’re going to be honest… WE HAVE. Back when we were a lot more judgemental and much less confident in ourselves. But don’t be too hard on yourself, because it’s human nature to sometimes put people in boxes. However, today we’re going to talk about why we need to be a little bit more self aware before we starting judging everyone else.

[2:18] Why Do We Judge Others? Let’s be real… talking badly or judging others can make us feel better about ourselves when we’re insecure or unhappy. We share our own experiences from when we used to be Judgemental Queens.

[6:17] Let’s Talk About Some Psychology Behind This. There’s a term in psychology called “attributions” and how we make judgments of others based off of situational or personality attributions.

[11:42] How We Judge Others Is A Reflection of Ourselves. Our lack of self love can be seen in the way that we judge others. That hurts, right?

[13:29] How Do We Stop Being So Judgy? We’re going to share some tips that have helped us become a little more self aware.

• Stop & Observe - ask yourself where this is coming from. [14:05]
• Build A Space to Understand [15:35]
• Practice Empathy & Acceptance - Nina shares her own experience of her faith journey & how she’s seen others judge others based off of ‘rules’ [17:00]
• This Is Why You Shouldn’t Gossip. Words hurt, guys. [22:10] 

We hope this episode resonated with you...and helps you become a liiiiiiiittle less judgy with others. We never know what someone else is going through and making these preliminary judgements not only hurts others, but ourselves as well. We’d love to know your thoughts! You know where to reach uuuusss.

Books/Resources Mentioned: 

• “Why We Judge Others” by Elizabeth Dorrance Hall Ph.D. from Psychology Today : https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conscious-communication/201805/why-we-judge-others 

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