In this unforgettable episode, we broke new ground by podcasting face-to-face—no Zoom required. Lara and her special friend, Grant Trevarthen, visited Tom and me for a few days, and we had the privilege of having Grant as our very first guest.

Lara and Grant, both living in the ALS Beyond, shared their experiences and insights with deep sincerity. Being in their presence was truly an honor. I've recorded many episodes across this podcast and "This Caregiver Life," but I have to say, this one touched my heart the most. It stands out as my absolute favorite.

Much love, Lara & Mar

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Check out Lara's blog: Tom's Troops

Check out Mar's Etsy shop: Cottage at Marehaven

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In this episode, we’re embracing new horizons. One of us has been on exciting adventures, exploring both nationally and globally, while the other has been discovering the beauty and challenges of staying local. Join us as we share the lessons we’ve learned and reflect on how our lives are evolving.

To our beloved ALS Caregiver & Beyond community, thank you for being with us on this journey. Your experiences and stories inspire us every day.

Much love, Lara & Mar

P.S. We’d love to hear from you! Drop us a note and let us know how you’re doing.

maryhahnward@gmail.com

laragarey@yahoo.com

Check out Lara's blog: Tom's Troops

Check out Mar's Etsy shop: Cottage at Marehaven

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The first quarter of the year is wrapping up and it's been a whirlwind for both of us. We share where we are in this caregiver life (Mar) and where we are in the Beyond (Lara). There has been lots of growth for both of us. As always there isn't a minute of our conversations that we do not enjoy thoroughly. No one sees us more clearly than those who know ALS.

We talked about Mel Robbin's podcast episode: The #1 Menopause Doctor: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better, & Stop Suffering Now with Mary Clare Haver, MD

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maryhahnward@gmail.com

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Check out Lara's blog: Tom's Troops

Check out Mar's Etsy shop: Cottage at Marehaven

In this episode, Mary and Lara discuss the strategies they have learned and continue to practice to help ease the ALS caregiver and survivor journey. Both Mary and Lara discuss how they came to these practices at a time that was right for them. They both still struggle with their journey, but having something to lean into when the journey becomes too hard has been the key to finding their paths forward. We hope that by seeing how differently we both came to mindfulness and meditation it is never too late or too early to find peace in the chaos of this ALS life.

Check out Lara’s latest blogs, Ending 2023 with gratitude and Finding peace just outside my door regarding how she feels she is transitioning from deep grief to healing:

https://tomstroops.com/2023/12/31/ending-2023-with-gratitude/

Check out Mary’s Cottage at Marhaven Etsy shop.

This Caregiver Life podcast episode: Give Your Mind a Rest

Guided Meditation by Tara Brach

This time of year, the holidays, can be a challenge for us in the ALS community, now and in the afterlife. We do our best to figure out ways to make it palatable. Sometimes we succeed. Sometimes we don't. It's very individual to know what will work for you. Lara and I agree that staying away from Social Media for a few days before, during, and after a holiday can be helpful.

Several years ago, when I was fully engaged in co-hosting the podcast "This Caregiver Life" I interviewed Lara. Lara shared her strategy for getting through: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thiscaregiverlife/episodes/E18-Upside-Down-Holidays-e8j029/a-aqktp0

Check out Lara's latest blog post: https://tomstroops.com/

Check out Mary's Cottage at Marehaven Etsy shop.

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Mary's email: maryhahnward@gmail.com

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Lara and Mary dig into their experiences when sympathy from others produces big feelings that are not always positive. Lara says "It's the look" and it is, isn't it? They also share some big laughs when Mary shares the crazy things Tom says! With each podcast, it is easy to see how this concept can be applied to them: To be listened to is healing. (The Covenant of Water, Abraham Verghese). If you are struggling, please find someone who will listen you without judgment.

Check out Lara's latest blog post: https://tomstroops.com/

Check out Mary's Cottage at Marehaven Etsy shop.

Have some thoughts you'd like to share:

Mary's email: maryhahnward@gmail.com

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Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ALSCaregiversandBeyond

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Mary & Lara chat about finding grace and its value to their life. They have each discovered in their own way that grace frees them from the constraints of feeling guilty, encourages them to be kind to themselves, and gives their hearts relief.

Have you found the gift of grace? Please let us know and we will share it on the podcast.

We enjoyed another Pema quote this episode:

From the very beginning to the very end, pointing to our own hearts to discover what is true isn't just a matter of honesty but also of compassion and respect for what we see.

Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

Check out Lara's latest blog post: https://tomstroops.com/

Check out Mary's Cottage at Marehaven Etsy shop.

Have some thoughts you'd like to share:

Mary's email: maryhahnward@gmail.com

Lara's email: laragarey@yahoo.com

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ALSCaregiversandBeyond

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Lara and Mary explore the need to belong, the loss of belonging, and the uncertainties of future belongingness and how they feel about it. This may resonate with ALS caregivers and those living the beyond life. Their belongingness tends to be in lanes they didn't seek out or expect. The Science Behind Our Need to Belong - Insights into the history, present, and future of belonging research

Brene Brown's book Atlas of the Heart

Mary's new craft shop can be found: cottageatmarehaven.etsy.com

Lara's blog: https://tomstroops.com/

Lara's email: laragarey@yahoo.com

Mary's email: maryhahnward@gmail.com

Their Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/ALSCaregiversandBeyond/