In June I'm re-posting the most popular episodes from the show while I take a step back to look at the big picture (because my monotropic brain has trouble doing that while also pumping out new content).

What do AuDHDers need (beyond the obvious needs all humans have)? And why do those needs matter?

This episode covers some important ones:

• Being able to engage with our interests (in a particular way)
• Executive Function support, without trying to make the hardest things easy or enjoyable
• Autonomy
• True rest
• The narrow path of just enough stimulation
• Processing time
• To be witnessed in just the right way
• Recognition that our needs vary quite a bit day to day
• Coming to terms with disability
• Space and time throughout our self-discovery journey
• Safe enough spaces to explore what it means to be ourself

1. Executive function test post if you want to ask Qs or share your experience
2. Executive Skills Questionnaire Revised (ESQ-R)
3. Unmasking Autism book (affiliate link)
4. Experimenting Your Way to an Extraordinary Life (course)

Crisis Resources:

• USA-based anonymous crisis chat
• International crisis lines
• Various types of crisis resources in about 10 countries

Resources:

1. Like Your Brain community space
2. Transcript Doc
3. Email Newsletter

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In June I'm reposting the most popular episodes from the show while I take a step back to look at the big picture (because my monotropic brain has trouble doing that while also pumping out new content).

Mentioned in outro:

Experimenting Your Way to an Extraordinary Life

AuDHD = autism + ADHD... and also I experience it as its own neurotype, and not simply two "disorders."

Here are the sets of questions I asked in the episode, if you'd like to take time with them on your own:

1. Do you feel like advice almost never works for you? Not only NT advice, but even advice from autistic OR ADHD people? That your brain either instantly knows advice won't work for you, or tries it and feels really disappointed because you did have a lot of things in common with the person who gave it to you but somehow still it felt like your body or brain were just not clicking with it?
2. Are the internal parts of you always fighting? Do you feel like the things your body and brain want are often in complete opposition and that it's literally impossible to get your needs met, because different parts of you want such different things to feel safe, regulated, and cared for?
3. Have you managed to build some modicum of success in an area through anxiety and adrenaline? This could be school, work, a creative pursuit, relationships. Have you received external validation for doing this thing well, all the while being absolutely terrified that it's all going to fall apart and you have no idea how to handle how your life feels and it all feels extremely precarious and painful at the day-to-day level? Do you feel the need to hide how much you're struggling, and/or if you've disclosed your struggles have they not been taken seriously?
4. Is your energy quite cyclical, where when you feel like your brain is working you'll push yourself really really hard, and then be totally exhausted and need time to recover? And without adequate recovery time, Is burnout, or burnout-like depression (they can be similar) a frequent experience for you? Or do you live in fear of it?

Thanks to Hanu Dixit for permission to use the song A Sitar Story.

Full Transcript here

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Time the body needs to transition, meet needs, rest and recover is NOT wasted time! I don't know that it's even possible to "waste time" outside of ableist capitalist structures.

If you still have ableist thoughts, that's okay. We all do! It's worth resting anyway.

Resources mentioned:

1. Neuraluxe's post about parentification
2. Car fundraiser for DV survivor (my sibling)
3. When your abuser threatens suicide article

Note about that paid Substack link:

"If you are in an abusive relationship or other crisis and truly cannot afford to pay for a paid membership—not just would prefer to get content for free, but actually cannot pay—I offer no-questions-asked paid access to anyone who emails me. Please email zawn@zawn.net, and put “Substack scholarship” in the subject line. If you use any other subject line, I may not see your email. You do not need to tell me anything specific—just that you cannot afford to pay! Please note that subscription applications can take several weeks to process."

1. Transcript Doc
2. Email Newsletter: Nothing Wrong With Us
3. Like Your Brain community space (Patreon)

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