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Have you ever wondered why chaos seems to erupt the moment you step away from your responsibilities? The answer might lie deeper than you think.

During this revealing conversation, I explore with Dr. Jenni how we unknowingly create codependent environments in our work and personal lives. After returning from a relaxing cruise to find disorder waiting for us, we recognized a pattern worth examining: the belief that "if we're not overseeing the ship, everything goes awry."

This episode takes you on a journey through the psychology of needing to be needed. I vulnerably share my struggle with deriving self-worth from being the problem-solver, the hero who swoops in when others can't handle situations. We uncover how common beliefs like "if you want something done right, do it yourself" actually program our reality to reinforce these patterns.

The most fascinating insight emerges when we discuss what we call the "Patrick Swayze Technique" – the ability to step back and allow others to solve problems their way, even if it means watching them struggle through the process. This approach, inspired by a scene from Roadhouse, challenges the superhero syndrome many of us suffer from.

Perhaps most eye-opening is our discussion about how gratitude can become twisted with ego, creating a cycle where we become "thankful" that people need our help rather than grateful for what we have. This subtle distinction reveals how even our positive emotions can feed unhealthy patterns.

Ready to break free from exhausting codependent cycles? Listen now, and join us at www.themerccenters.org to learn how we can help you identify and transform similar patterns in your life.

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