Summary

In this conversation, Adler and Finn discuss the importance of self-love and valuing oneself. They use the analogy of a violinist who is celebrated in one room (Madison Square Garden) but tolerated in another (the subway) to illustrate the concept of being valued in the right environment. They also talk about the impact of external validation and how it can affect one's self-perception. Additionally, they touch on the importance of limiting access to oneself and surrounding oneself with people who genuinely celebrate and support them. The conversation explores the importance of surrounding oneself with people who celebrate and support them, rather than tolerating them. It emphasizes the need to define one's own identity and not allow others to define it. The hosts discuss the significance of having a small circle of trusted friends and family who genuinely love and support them. They also touch on the importance of celebrating oneself and others, and the impact it can have on personal growth and relationships.

Keywords

self-love, value, validation, environment, relationships, growth, celebration, support, identity, friendship, love, growth

Takeaways

• It is important to value and love oneself, and not settle for relationships or situations where one is not treated with respect and kindness.
• External validation should not be the sole determinant of one's self-worth. It is important to recognize one's own value and not rely solely on others' opinions.
• Limiting access to oneself and surrounding oneself with people who genuinely celebrate and support them is crucial for personal growth and well-being.
• Being in the right environment can greatly impact how one is valued and celebrated. It is important to seek out environments where one's talents and contributions are recognized and appreciated. Surround yourself with people who celebrate and support you, rather than tolerating you.
• Define your own identity and don't let others define it for you.
• Value and prioritize the relationships with a small circle of trusted friends and family who genuinely love and support you.
• Celebrate yourself and others, as it can have a positive impact on personal growth and relationships.

SoundBites

• "You have to go to where you're celebrated and not just tolerated."
• "Patient experience happens naturally when you allow organic conversation, organic care being presented to somebody who needs it genuinely."
• "Everyone that you fight isn't your enemy and everyone who helps you isn't your friend."
• "If I treat every single person the exact same and not every single person has the same level of loyalty or values me in that same regard then I'm subjected to getting an emotional attack."
• "You get to set the rules, you get to set the limits, you get to set the table on who you really truly are and you can't allow other people who don't think like you, who don't believe in you, who don't know the type of work that you're putting in to define who you are as a person."
• "Once you realize that this is not the type of room for you, you immediately just remove yourself. It's easy as that. You don't have to stay anywhere that you don't feel loved or tolerated."