You’ve done everything right. The career. The family. The checked boxes. But you still feel… unfulfilled. A little numb. Like something’s missing, and you can’t name what.

In this episode, we explore what happens when high-achieving women realize they never really learned how to want, they only learned how to please.

We’ll unpack why this happens, how it shows up, and what it looks like to gently reconnect with your desire, without guilt, without proof, and without needing to justify it.

What You Will Learn:

• Why high-achieving women often feel unfulfilled, even when life looks “good” on paper

• How early conditioning around approval and performance disconnects us from authentic desire

• The subtle ways perfectionism and people-pleasing show up in everyday decisions

• Four practical strategies to gently rebuild your relationship with wanting, without guilt or justification

• How to begin honoring your preferences in low-stakes moments to restore self-trust

Feeling bored? Whether it’s during a long meeting, another round of pretend play, or a whole season of life that feels a little flat—this episode is for you.

We’re unpacking the belief that “I shouldn’t be bored” and exploring why it feels so hard to just be still. You’ll learn how boredom is often not the problem, but what we make it mean—and how allowing it (instead of fixing it) can actually be one of the most useful emotional skills you can build.

We’ll also talk about why our fast-paced lives make boredom feel like a crisis, and what it really means when you’re craving constant stimulation.

• Why we’re conditioned to believe boredom is a problem and how to spot that conditioning in yourself

• What buffering is, why we do it, and how it sneaks into your day without you realizing it

• How to allow boredom without guilt or urgency, and why that’s an emotional strength

• How to notice the thoughts that add shame and pressure to an otherwise neutral moment

• What to do when you’re craving action or change—but might actually need rest and stillness

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Do you ever look in the mirror and wonder, “Where did the old me go?” In this episode we unpack the brain-and-hormone remodel that’s quietly reshaping ambitious moms—and prove it means you’re upgrading, not unraveling.

You’ll learn a neuroscience-backed pause-and-label trick, craft a bridge thought that melts “I’m losing myself,” and run a one-sticky-note experiment that turns everyday moments into solid evidence of your evolving strengths.

By the end you’ll walk away with a calmer mind, concrete proof you’re still every bit as capable (just calibrated for a new season), and a clear micro-action plan you can start today.

What You Will Learn:

• How to spot the “identity-shift” fog and understand the hormone-plus-brain science behind it (nothing’s wrong with you!).

  Pause and label sneaky thoughts like “I’m losing myself” so they lose their power.

  Channel each body-breadcrumb—tight chest, snack-bin obsession, spreadsheet boredom—as data for building your new identity, rather than treating them like emergencies.

  Run the C-T-F-A-R + bridge-thought combo to rewire unhelpful stories into kinder, truer ones.

• Test one tiny action a day to gather real-world proof that the new you is already emerging.

  
  

  Want to Go Deeper Into Your Mindset?

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