In today's episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush unveils the true condition of being stuck, offers questions to help you uncover why you’re feeling stuck, and shares the most effective ways to get unstuck. 

[02:07] Introduction

[03:12] The True Condition of Feeling Stuck

[06:44] The First Step to Getting Unstuck

[09:41] Reasons Why Your Clients Are Feeling Stuck 

[13:48] My Top Five Coaching Questions to Getting Unstuck

[16:28] Bible Verses For Overcoming Fear 

[18:49] Parting Thoughts 

The Real Condition of Feeling Stuck

What is being stuck and how can it happen? When it comes to being stuck, here's something that you might not have considered. First, all of us will feel stuck on something at one point or another. The truth is, though, that someone is never actually stuck. Yes, you might be feeling impatient or frustrated, but being stuck is not a real thing. As soon as you say to yourself that you are stuck, that's precisely how you'll feel. So be careful what you allow yourself to think and what you say to yourself. 

Feeling stuck comes from a gap in time when not much is going on. We begin to feel anxious when we think that things should be otherwise. So when you get down to it, being stuck is just a thought in our brain. It's the way we have chosen to perceive this period of our lives. Once we recognize this, we can manage our thoughts and reconsider what we're making this mean so that we struggle less. 

The First Step to Getting Unstuck 

One of the times that we may feel the most stuck is when we're waiting for an answer from God, or a sign on the direction we're supposed to take. We’ll wait for everything to be just perfect and pray for God to give us a sign. Unfortunately, God has His own timing and it may not be the same as ours. The more impatient we get, the longer it seems to take, as though God were stretching us.

Remember, God orders the steps of the righteous. If we are here, it's because we're supposed to be here. We can't control what life brings; only God can do that. So when we acknowledge that we can't control our lives, we gain more peace, and that’s an important part of becoming or remaining unstuck. 

Links & Resources

Get your own copy of "the" Christian Coaching textbook, Dr. Bush’s ground-breaking Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook: https://amzn.to/3cNgsml

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe: pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass: pccca.org/getcertified

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In today's episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush breaks down how self-awareness on the part of the coach is crucial and how it will optimize your skills and / or a step-by-step coaching plan.

[01:02] Introduction

[02:12] Why Christian Coaches Should Be Concerned About Self Image

[05:00] How to Make The Shift From Wearier to Warrior

[08:29] The Importance of Christian Coaches Knowing Their True Self

[10:59] You Owe it to Your Clients to Work on Your Self Image 

[14:01] The Benefits of Taking Care of Your Physical Self

[16:40] Dr. Bush’s 60+ Pound Weight Loss From Her New Self Image
[20:15] The Bible Discourages Excess

Why Christian Coaches Should Be Concerned About Self-Image 

Christian coaching is all about improving the lives of others. So why should we, as Christian coaches, be concerned about our self-image? Well, primarily because how we look at ourselves impacts how we look at everything else. It filters our thoughts on everything and determines whether we will react with courage or shrink back. 

Unfortunately, when determining our self-image, many of us get caught up with false standards and judge ourselves based on intelligence, wisdom, health, experience, age, gender, talent, or righteousness. But here's the thing; focusing on your self-image is neither selfish nor egotistical. Yet it's sad to see so many of God's people walk around without really understanding who they are. 

Dr. Bush believes that the only way to become an influential coach is to become completely aware of who you are. Also, understand that improving your self-image is not a one-and-done process. It's something you'll have to do for the entirety of your life. And if you haven't given it much thought, now's a good time to do so. 

The Benefits of Taking Care of Your Physical Self

Taking care of our self-image will naturally lead to taking good care of our physical selves. And there are three major reasons for this. First, if we don't feel good, then it's going to be difficult for us to perform our work with excellence. Second, if we don't maintain our grooming and appearance, how will we gain the respect of others who would follow our lead? And third, if you had a choice to do business with someone, would you choose a well-groomed, neat individual or a sloppy, unkempt person? This is just practical. 

All this ties neatly into how we dress and being mindful of what we eat. We need to make sure that we consume a balanced diet. If you're unhappy with your weight, you can do something about it. Dr. Bush understands how hard this can be. But after her 60-plus pound weight loss over the last 18 months, she knows how to achieve this. And you, too, can achieve this because God will support you, as His ambassador. That said, your attempts may be in vain unless your self-image supports the new lifestyle and eating habits of a slender person. And this begins with our thoughts, which define our self-image.

Links and Resources:

Shake Off the Snake: Making the Shift from Wearier to Warrior by A. J. Rubano  https://amzn.to/3cMFVMF

Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook by Leelo Bush, PhD: https://amzn.to/3cNgsml

Spirit-Led Marketing program: pccca.org/slm

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe: pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass: pccca.org/getcertified

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In today’s episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush takes on how to avoid pursuing the wrong goals, how to identify if you are on the right or wrong path, how to course correct, and how to help others choose the right path.

[01:08] Fear of uncertainty

[02:37] Are we chasing the right goal?

[06:06] Importance of having goals

[07:28] 3 signs you are chasing the wrong goal

[12:44] How to set the right goal

Choosing Faith Over Uncertainty

It’s not unusual for people to find themselves afraid to set goals due to a fear of uncertainty, not knowing that God has a destined plan already planned out for them. The moment we are born, God already made a unique path for each one of us to follow. This path was made in reflection of His love for His creation and fulfillment of His purpose. Fearing uncertainty should not stop people from crafting their goals as the outcome of how you get to your goal was already predetermined by God. Taking a step back and praying for God’s guidance will aid in overcoming the fear of uncertainty.

Signs that You’re Chasing the Wrong Goal

1. You are unhappy in the process of doing your day-to-day tasks in the hopes of achieving your goal
2. You are following goals seeded by external influences
3. You are following goals out of fear

Having the Right Goals

The idea of identifying if you have the right goal stems from God’s blueprint crafted before each of us are born. Given that all of us are unique, the journey to achieve goals is different for each individual. It’s important to know that having a goal will help you navigate a path without going in circles and feeling lost.

There are many ways for us to set and reach our goals. Dr. Bush has some tried and true methods for you in this episode.

Resources:

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe: https://pccca.org/tribe/

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass: https://pccca.org/getcertified/

Want more biblical coach training?

Get your own copy of Dr. Bush’s Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook: www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

Today Dr. Leelo Bush shares the unique storytelling gifts of Dani Johnson to create a deeper understanding of talent and abilities. The goal is to understand one’s God-given gifts and by doing so, increasing our confidence in what we can accomplish.

[01:55] Parable of the Talents

[03:04] Useful Reflections on the Parable

[05:51] The First Servant’s Success

[08:45] The Optimistic Second Servant

[11:19] The Fall of the Third Servant

[17:17] Personalize conclusions from the Parable

Talents are Gifts from God

The discussion on abilities and talents stems from the idea that these are God-given gifts one receives once they are born. While some are gifted with many talents and others with just one, the important lesson one needs to take away from this is how well can one utilize their gifts. The idea of fear, rejection, and failure are some of the driving factors to why individuals fail to shine with their God-given abilities. Only with the spirit of encouragement, and the trust you have in God in utilizing your gifts, will make you a more capable and confident person.

The Parable of the Talents

The perfect example of proper utilization of gifts is the Parable of the Talents. Here, 3 servants are given various talents each according to their abilities. With a spirit of excellence and diligence, the first 2 servants, despite having different talents, managed to find success in utilizing what they are given. The same cannot be said for the third, who opted to hide their talent due to the lack of trust and personal insecurities. The parable teaches listeners that despite the number of talents you receive, how you maximize it will be the determining factor whether you succeed in the future. For 2 of the servants, being hardworking, having the right attitude and confidence were the key to success. This is the key takeaway to what the parable wants listeners to get from today’s episode.

Resources:

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe: https://pccca.org/tribe/

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass: https://pccca.org/getcertified/

Link to the featured book, Spirit Driven Success by Dani Johnson:  https://www.danijohnson.com/spirit-driven-success/

Want more scripturally-accurate coach training?

Get your own copy of Dr. Bush’s Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook: www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

In today’s episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush talks about self-love and unconditional love and why both are essential to you and your coaching practice.

[01:50] Coaching with self-love

[05:48] Unconditional love and self-love

[10:55] Distortions about love

[16:02] How do we love ourselves?

[21:29] 20 Days to Self-Love Coaching Questions

Choosing Unconditional Love

You might find that some people are harder to love than others. But God has commanded us to “love your neighbor as yourself”. To practice unconditional love, we must first begin with our thoughts. The way we think affects our feelings. Be intentional with your thoughts as described in this episode and love will always be readily available to you.

How to Cultivate Self-Love

As children, some of us may have developed distorted ideas about love because of our personal experiences. It’s important to keep in mind that other people or external situations don’t define you. Instead, remember that you are a beloved child of God. We have value not because of our good works, but because we have been saved by His grace.

Self-love is not just an optional feeling, rather it’s an obligation to take care of ourselves. Our body is the temple of God, so we must care for our health in all aspects. We must also learn to let go of unnecessary guilt and shame. These can be barriers to self-love. God has already forgiven our sins, so we must do the same. Always strive to cultivate healthy self-love, without letting it turn into boastfulness or entitlement.

The 20 Days to Self-Love Coaching Questions List

(answer 1 each day within your journaling and review past question answers)

1. What are some positive ways that I have changed over the last three years?
2. What are self-care activities that bring me feelings of joy and calm?"
3. What is something I need to get rid of?
4. What current habits are destructive to my feelings of self-love?
5. What is something I love about my body that is not related to looks?
6. What am I proud of myself for?
7. What makes me unique?
8. What's an action I can take right now that my future self will thank me for?
9. What do I need to start saying yes to?
10. My best personality trait is...?
11. What three achievements am I most proud of?
12. What are three lessons I have learned from experience?
13. When did I last step outside my comfort zone? What happened?
14. How would those who love me describe me?
15. What bold step would I take if I knew that I couldn't fail?
16. What is a sacred time in my life when I won't allow interruptions?
17. What does my ideal day look like?
18. What are three things I want in my life that don't depend on anyone but me to happen?
19. What can I do today to share joy with someone else?
20. In what ways do I feel different now, from when I started this exercise?

Resource Links

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe:  pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass:  pccca.org/getcertified

Get Dr. Bush’s book:

Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook: www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

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In today's episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush tackles the dos and don'ts of coaching and helping victims of abuse.

[03:48] Abuse and Domestic Violence in Today's Society

[04:11] Understanding the Different Types of Abuse

[07:09] How Coaching Can Improve the Life of an Abuse Victim

[10:10] What is the Cycle of Abuse?

[14:59] The Abuse and Domestic Violence Coaching Process

[18:55] Self-Care for Coaches Helping Abuse Victims

[21:40] Parting Thoughts 

How Abuse Survivors Can Benefit From Coaching

Domestic abuse is a traumatic, life-altering experience that, unfortunately, most people in today's society have lived through personally. The number of domestic abuse cases has been rising these past few years, yet the number of people seeking help is on a frustrating decline. And while recovering from abuse takes time and demands ongoing support, there is help. Reach out to a coach who will support, educate, validate, and empower you on your journey to healing.

Survivors of domestic abuse can be in a fragile state, and it can be challenging for outsiders to empathize with them. But if you are a coach, this specialty can be full of landmines, and if you're not trained, you can do more harm than good. 

Disclaimer, do not try to coach on this topic if you are not properly trained.

Domestic Abuse is More Than Just Physical Abuse

When the word abuse is mentioned, most people automatically think of physical violence. And while physical abuse is what's common in most relationships, abuse is so much more than just physical. It can be physical, emotional, verbal, financial, or sexual. But the most important thing to understand is that no form of violence is more or less important than the other. As long as somebody is getting hurt, then something needs to be done. 

If you are in a place where you are experiencing any abuse, please reach out for help. Yes, all types of abuse are different, they are all heartbreaking, and no one ever deserves to experience them.

And if you feel called to coach others in this specialty, reach out to Dr. Bush and express your interest in this training by emailing admin@pccca.org

RESOURCES:

Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook:  www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

Spirit-Led Marketing: pccca.org/slm

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe: pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass: pccca.org/getcertified

In today’s episode of the Christian Coaching School Podcast, Dr. Leelo Bush teaches about how to avoid some common pitfalls and detours to our destiny as a coach.

[01:20] Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook

[05:07] Avoiding detours to your destiny

[08:15] New Age coaching 

[13:42] Why exclusively study and practice Christian coaching?

[23:54] Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) and hypnosis

[26:21] Uncompromising values and faith

The error of combining faith and worldly methods

As a young believer in her 20s, Dr. Leelo thought it made sense to take the best parts of both coaching practices and apply them. But this only resulted in frustration, for Dr. Leelo could not progress until she understood the divine truth: that all answers can ultimately only come from God.

Secular coaching encourages people to believe in what feels natural. All teachings are equal. There is no one right way to do things. This line of thinking is dangerous, leading us down a path of moral relativism. 

Spirit-led coaching, marketing, & business

No matter what man does, his methods will never be greater than God’s. For this reason alone, we need to turn to God for inspiration. By patronizing new age or secular / humanistic courses and materials, Satan’s deceptions are being forwarded creating confusion, deception and ambivalence toward God’s plan.

Instead, we should remain steadfast and uncompromising in our faith. We must remain committed to Christian coaching so as not to confuse clients. Be vocal about your disapproval of worldly teachings and be honest in promoting your services and business. God has given us our talents to serve Him. When we do, we will bear much fruit.

Resources and Links:

Comprehensive Christian Coach Handbook:  www.amazon.com/Comprehensive-Christian-Coach-Handbook-Second/dp/0692853634

Spirit-Led Marketing:  pccca.org/slm

Join the Courageous Christian Coaching Tribe:  pccca.org/tribe

Free Christian Coaching Masterclass:  pccca.org/getcertified