Note: This episode was recorded on October 27, 2024, before the JD Vance interview with Joe Rogan. We’re intrigued to see that many topics we discussed were also covered. Share your thoughts below!

We’re encouraged by a Republican Vice President candidate addressing LGBTQ+ issues, aligning with our call for organizations like Human Rights Campaign to prioritize impactful legislation like the Equality Act. This act would affect 13 million LGBTQ+ Americans, and we believe it should be the focus, rather than niche issues.

In this Coffee with Gays episode, Blaine and the crew return from their summer break to tackle what truly matters in election season. They discuss online bullying 🗣️, the "Boys in Girls’ Sports" debate 🏅, HRC’s focus on gender care for minors 🏳️‍⚧️, and why bipartisan support, as seen with the Respect for Marriage Act, is crucial.

Tune in for an honest, insightful take on why LGBTQ+ advocacy needs to focus on broad legislation over divisive niche topics.

[00:00:00] 🎙️ Intro: Blaine, Ryan, and Reed reflect on past episodes and introduce Reed’s new perspective.

[00:07:02] ☕ Show Update & Matt's Story: The team previews an upcoming series on their friend Matt, outed after 35 years in the closet.

[00:15:23] 🗳️ Election Season & LGBTQ+ Issues: Blaine examines how LGBTQ+ rights are used in politics by both sides.

[00:20:29] 🤯 Online Bullying & Cancel Culture: Blaine discusses Mama Tot’s experience with online bullying after Hurricane Helene.

[00:28:00] 🏳️‍⚧️ HRC’s Focus on Gender Care: Blaine critiques HRC’s priorities, emphasizing a need to focus on broader issues like the Equality Act.

[00:35:00] ⚖️ Equality Act’s Impact: Blaine explains the Equality Act’s protections and its importance for 13 million LGBTQ+ individuals.

[00:40:49] 🏅 Texas HB 25 - "Boys in Girls' Sports": The team discusses HB 25, which restricts sports participation based on birth certificate sex.

[00:46:00] 🏛️ Respect for Marriage Act: Blaine highlights bipartisan support for marriage equality protections.

[00:50:00] 🏳️‍🌈 Co-opting LGBTQ+ Symbols: Blaine shares his frustrations on pride symbols being used in unrelated causes.

[00:58:00] 🎮 Game - Donkey or Elephant?: The team plays a guessing game with political quotes from Democrats and Republicans.

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🌈✨ In this episode of "Coffee with Gays," Blaine, Adam, Ryan, and our special guest hottie Reed open up about our coming out journeys, emphasizing the crucial step of coming out to ourselves before friends and family. These heartfelt stories are filled with challenges, triumphs, and humor. Get ready to laugh and be inspired as we share our unique experiences. Don't miss the fun game segment and the deep reflections on what it means to come out and live authentically. 🌈✨

Show Notes with Timestamps:

[00:00] 🗣️ Introduction: Blaine opens the episode and introduces the topic.
[00:23] 🔄 Re-Recording: Blaine explains the re-recording of the episode and renaming it to "Coming Out to Ourselves."
[01:17] 📅 Upcoming Episode Teaser: Adam and Blaine discuss an upcoming two-part episode featuring their friend Matt's dramatic coming out story.
[02:12] 🎬 Chely Wright's Documentary: Adam shares the story of country music artist Chely Wright's coming out journey and her documentary "Wish Me Away."
[06:23] 🎤 Impact on Careers: The group discusses the impact of coming out on careers, especially in conservative environments like country music.
[10:22] 🎲 The Game - This or That: A fun game segment where the hosts choose between options like "short or tall" and "cats or dogs."
[20:00] 👤 Coming Out Stories Begin: Adam starts with his coming out story, discussing the challenges and realizations he faced.
[29:39] 📖 Ryan's Story: Ryan shares his experience of coming out, including the support from his family and the journey of self-discovery.
[38:05] 💬 Blaine's Story: Blaine talks about his coming out journey, his religious upbringing, and how his family eventually accepted him.
[44:57] 🌟 Reed's Story: Reed discusses his coming out, including the initial conversations with his family and friends.
[50:00] 👫 Discussion on Preferences: The group humorously discusses their preferences and experiences related to roles.
[54:12] ✨ Closing Remarks: The hosts reflect on their stories and the importance of coming out and self-acceptance.

Resources and Support:

• PFLAG: Offers support for LGBTQ+ individuals and their families. Visit PFLAG.org 📞 1-202-467-8180
• The Trevor Project: Provides crisis intervention and suicide prevention services to LGBTQ+ youth. Visit TheTrevorProject.org or call 📞 1-866-488-7386.
• It Gets Better Project: An online platform where LGBTQ+ individuals share their coming out stories and offer encouragement. Visit ItGetsBetter.org

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Dive into a thought-provoking discussion on the "Peter Pan Syndrome" 🌈 that seems to pervade not just the gay community, but society at large. Join Blaine, Ryan, and Adam as they explore the allure of eternal youth, the balance between fun and responsibility, and the impact of this phenomenon on relationships and personal growth. From circuit parties to life decisions, and a candid look at their own lives, this episode of "Coffee with Gays" Season 3 Episode 16 offers a mix of humor, introspection, and revelations that'll make you ponder, laugh, and maybe even see a bit of Peter Pan in yourself. 🚀💭

Summary:

• Exploring the concept of Peter Pan Syndrome, especially in the gay community. 🏳️‍🌈
• Discussing the impact of societal norms and the lack of traditional responsibilities like children on the syndrome's prevalence. 👶🚫
• Reflecting on the pursuit of fun vs. the necessity of embracing adulthood responsibilities. ⚖️✨
• The role of social media in portraying an eternal youth lifestyle and its real-life implications. 📱💡
• Personal anecdotes and observations on the desire for youthfulness, cosmetic procedures, and the culture of circuit parties. 🎉💉
• Debating the complexities of relationships, the desire to settle down, and considerations about having children in today's society. 💑🤔
• Embracing a bit of Peter Pan while finding balance and growing up without losing the essence of fun and youthfulness. 🧚‍♂️❤️

Show Notes:

[00:00:22] The hosts discuss the concept of Peter Pan Syndrome, especially in the gay community. 💭
[00:01:19] Adam ties the syndrome to the lack of traditional responsibilities, like children. 👶🚫
[00:02:34] Ryan mentions the pursuit of fun and balance in life. ⚖️✨
[00:03:14] A lively discussion about social media portrayal and real-life implications. 📱💡
[00:10:34] The conversation shifts to the desire for youthfulness, cosmetic procedures, and the quest for physical perfection. ❤️🔍
[00:14:02] Delving into the culture of circuit parties and the drug use associated with them. 🕺💊
[00:22:33] Exploring family dynamics and the perception of the "gay Peter Pan" within families. 🏠👀
[00:25:29] Personal revelations and accepting some level of Peter Pan Syndrome in themselves. 🧚‍♂️💬
[00:27:47] Discussion on relationships and the difficulty of settling down within the Peter Pan context. 💑🤔
[00:31:25] The hosts debate the practicality and desire for having children in today's society. 👨‍👨‍👦
[00:33:01] Closing thoughts on embracing a bit of Peter Pan while finding balance in life. 🤸‍♂️❤️
[00:44:44] Episode wrap-up with reflections on staying young at heart and the importance of fun. 🎉👋

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Dive deep into the wild world of gay dating with Adam, Blaine, and Ryan in Season 3, Episode 16 of "Coffee with Gays." From heartfelt breakups to the thrilling chase of new connections, this episode uncovers the raw truths of dating within the gay community. Laugh, cringe, and maybe even shed a tear with us as we share our personal dating stories, advice, and the occasional mishap. Plus, don't miss our taste test of a new caffeinated beverage that's perfect for any time of day check them out at @drink.alldae

🌟 Highlights:

- Adam's journey back into the dating scene
- The complexities of gay dating compared to other relationships
- Our very first sponsor introduction @drink.alldae – and a taste test!
- The ups and downs of using dating apps from Grindr to Archer
- Tips on making a great first impression and dating etiquettes
- A deep dive into what really turns us off on a date
- 💬 Want to join the conversation? Drop your dating story or advice in the comments below!

Show Notes for Description:

0:00 Introduction to Gay Dating Unhinged
0:17 The Freedom of Dating Post-Breakup
2:07 The Complexity and Challenges of Gay Dating
2:16 Our First Sponsor and Taste Testing
7:33 Discussing Dating App Dynamics
19:15 The Importance of Respect and Communication in Dating
25:17 Blaine's "Boy Tornado" 😂
34:55 Tips for a Successful Date
49:02 Adam's Personal Dating Stories
1:04:58 Expanding Dating Horizons Beyond the City

Remember, the journey through dating is as much about discovering ourselves as it is about finding someone else. Join us as we lay it all out on the table in this heartwarming and hilariously candid episode of "Coffee with Gays."

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We chat with Ashliegh, who courageously stepped into her truth as a lesbian at 32! 🌟 After a life-changing decision to leave her heterosexual marriage of 8 years, Ashliegh's journey is a powerful testament to finding happiness at any age. 🏳️‍🌈💖

Join Adam, Blaine, and Ryan for an unfiltered discussion about Ashliegh's first year out, including her vibrant experiences at Pride and navigating new territories in lesbian relationships. 🎉🏳️‍🌈 She's learned A LOT...we even learned new things! Expect honest, heartfelt, and sometimes explicit conversations about love, life, and laughter in the our greater community. 🚫🔞

Disclaimer: This episode contains unfiltered discussions, including topics on lesbian sex and personal experiences. Listener discretion is advised.

Show Notes:

• [00:00] 🎬 Introduction to Ashliegh and the episode's theme.
• [01:26] 🌈 Ashliegh's inspiring story of coming out at 32 and leaving her husband.
• [03:45] 🎭 Delving into Ashliegh's background and her path to self-discovery.
• [06:19] 💞 Exploring the world of lesbian dating and relationships.
• [09:05] 🏳️‍🌈 The emotional journey of coming out to friends and family.
• [11:20] 🚀 Embracing a new identity and the challenges and joys it brings.
• [14:01] 🌟 Gaining insights into lesbian culture and community.
• [17:01] 🤔 Comparing gay and lesbian dating experiences.
• [19:54] 💖 Ashliegh's personal growth and pursuit of happiness.
• [22:24] 🌍 Breaking down societal perceptions and stereotypes.
• [25:07] 🎉 Celebrating Pride: Ashliegh's vibrant experiences in her first year.
• [28:30] 🌈 Future aspirations and dreams.
• [30:00] 🎙️ Closing thoughts and reflections.

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Dive into a candid conversation with Adam, Blaine, and Ryan as they explore the intersection of faith and gay life. From Southern Baptist roots to Catholic conundrums, they're not holding back on their personal journeys and the challenges they've faced. 🤠🙏

Get the real scoop on Jesse Duplantis and Kenneth Copeland's extravagant lifestyles, and find out why Prestonwood Baptist Church's Christmas show stands out from the mega-church crowd. The guys share their unfiltered experiences with LGBT acceptance in churches, blending heartfelt stories with their signature sass. 🛩️🏳️‍🌈

Join us for an episode that's as thought-provoking as it is entertaining, filled with honest reflections, a bit of shade, and that's as fabulous as it is faithful. 🎉💬

🎙️ [00:00] Introduction: The episode opens with the hosts introducing the topic of church and religion, emphasizing an intellectual discussion about their experiences and views.

🌈 [02:00] Backgrounds in Religion:

- Ryan shares his upbringing in non-denominational Christianity with Southern Baptist influences, highlighting his involvement in youth group activities.
- Adam, identifying as more conservative, discusses his Catholic background and current non-religious stance.
- Blaine talks about his journey through various Christian denominations, including Southern Baptist and Nazarene, and his involvement in more radical churches.

🤔 [12:00] Prestonwood Baptist Church: The hosts express their admiration for Prestonwood Baptist Church's Christmas show, noting its community focus and contrasting it with other mega-churches.

✈️ [26:00] Jesse Duplantis & Kenneth Copeland: The conversation shifts to Jesse Duplantis and Kenneth Copeland, with a critical discussion on their extravagant lifestyles, including their private jet purchases. The hosts discuss the issue of financial exploitation in some churches.

🏳️‍🌈 [22:00] LGBT Acceptance in Churches: The hosts share personal experiences of acceptance and rejection in various churches, highlighting the progress and challenges within religious communities.

🤝 [30:00] Respect and Understanding in Religion: The hosts emphasize the importance of respect and understanding in religious discussions.

👬 [34:00] Being LGBT and Christian: Ryan shares his journey of reconciling his queer identity with his Christian faith.

👂 [38:00] Listening and Compassion in Faith Communities: The hosts reflect on the power of listening and showing compassion within faith communities.

👋 [42:00] Closing Remarks: The episode concludes with a light-hearted conclusion and a teaser for the next episode, emphasizing the importance of being open to different beliefs and perspectives.

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Gurl, join us on 'Coffee with Gays' as we spill the tea on social media fakes! 🎉 We're dissecting FaceTune fails, influencer lies, and those 'too perfect' online lives. 🤳✨ From 'Never Have I Ever' to diversity talks, we're keeping it real and hilarious. Ready for some truth bombs? Let's go! 🌟🔍

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00:12] Unmasking fake social media personas. 📸🤡
• [00:01:00] The craze of online feature exaggeration. 🤔💭
• [00:01:26] Celebrating our diverse friend circle. 🌈👯‍♂️
• [00:02:42] 'Never Have I Ever' game insights. 😏🙈
• [00:06:19] The real impact of social media on self-image. 🤔💭
• [00:07:00] Instagram's unrealistic beauty standards. 📱🌐
• [00:09:05] The contrast between online images and reality. 🎭👤
• [10:12] Hilarious catfish and FaceTune stories. 🙊😂
• [14:01] The pressure to maintain a perfect online image. 📸🔄
• [17:01] Masculinity in the digital age. 🔥👨
• [19:54] Navigating LGBTQ+ relationships. ❤️‍🔥👬
• [21:01] The truth behind influencer lifestyles. ✈️📸
• [24:00] The dilemma of social media vs. personal relationships. 💑🚫
• [28:30] Embracing authenticity in a filtered world. 🌟💖
• [30:00] Our public life as a couple and fashion fun. 👬👯‍♂️
• [32:00] Debunking 'perfect' relationships on social media. 🏰💔
• [35:00] Discussing materialism vs. love. 💸❤️
• [38:03] Observations from local social scenes. 🍻👀
• [39:09] Trends and party culture insights. 👢🎉
• [41:12] The gap between online personas and real life. 🎭👥
• [43:00] The challenge of genuine interaction in the digital era. 👥📱
• [45:05] Expanding our journey to TikTok and YouTube. 🎥🌐
• [47:00] Choosing real-life experiences over online presence. ✈️🌍

Tune in for a blend of real talk, laughter, and shade! 🌟🎙️

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Kick-starting Season 2 of "Coffee with Gays," we've revamped our pod and we're here with a fresh look, new artwork, and a mission to break the mold of what a gay podcast can be. Diving into online deception, calling out social media giants and dating apps for spam profiles and catfishing. This season amplifies our authenticity.

We'll probe tech companies' role in user safety, need for transparency in content moderation, and delve into the political landscape, focusing on Jeff Jackson, a Democratic Senator Congressman from North Carolina. Also important topics like Section 230 which governs social media giants hasn't been updated since 1996!

We'll discuss existing laws, tech companies' responsibilities, and end with a chat about dating and relationships in the internet era. Grab your coffee, join us in this unapologetic journey through the gay community. Let's redefine the conversation together.

Show Notes:

00:00 - Season kick-off 🎉.
1:00 - Rebooted ethos: Raw conversations 💬.
3:00 - New artistic vibe; Art appreciations 🎨.
4:15 - Core issue: Catfishing, digital platforms’ duty 🐟.
5:00 - Adam's Grindr scare 😱.
10:00 - Ryan's fake Instagram ordeal 📸.
11:59 - Roy's Story: Global identity hijack 🌎.
14:00 - Call for identity verification ✔️.
15:00 - Up next: Closeted gay man's take 🎧.
16:00 - Elon Musk's bot-fight pitch 🤖.
16:35 - Social media, fake profiles bond 💔.
18:20 - Bot networks allure 💰.
19:00 - Tearing into Facebook, Zuckerberg 😡.
21:17 - Political rage: Outdated lawmakers 👴.
22:00 - Props to Mitt Romney's step aside 👏.
22:47 - Outdated Section 230 📜.
24:00 - Dating apps, fake profiles link 💑.
25:15 - Underage access: A glaring loophole 😲.
25:50 - Catfishing: Stark deception 🎣.
26:45 - Social media transparency push 🔍.
27:37 - Section 230 revisions 🛡️.
28:30 - ID debate: Social media vs voting 🆔.
29:00 - Congressman Obernolte's tech ignorance 🤦.
30:21 - Jeff Jackson spotlight 🗳️.
31:40 - Call for term limits, tech-savvy leadership 🔄.
35:00 - Next episode preview: Digital fairytales 🧚.

Tune in to "Coffee with Gays" as we shred social media deception facade, gearing up for more raw banter. 🎙️

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