Tera welcomes the co-creator of Connection Codes, Echo Hill Vetter. She’s a trauma informed coach as well as a parenting and lead coach. Today they’re discussing the power of beliefs and how they shape our identities, often keeping us in what Echo calls a "tiny little box." As they talk about the emotional weight of Election Day, they explore why differing perspectives can feel threatening and how fear plays a central role in our reactions. Tera and Echo discuss the impact of generational experiences and challenge you to approach differing beliefs with curiosity rather than judgment. Tera shares her own journey toward openness, encouraging you to stay connected to yourself and others, even when it feels uncomfortable.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Connect with Echo Hill Vetter:

Echo Hill Vetter’s Substack | Letters from Nashville: https://substack.com/@echohillvetter

Echo on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/echohillvetter

Schedule 1:1 Coaching or Group Coaching with Echo: https://calendly.com/echohillvetter

Echo’s LinkTree: https://linktr.ee/echohillvetter

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Election Day Reflections and Emotional Intensity
• 00:01:58 - Exploring How Beliefs Shape Identity
• 00:03:22 - The Role of Fear in Feeling Safe
• 00:04:43 - When Beliefs No Longer Fit
• 00:08:19 - Echo’s Personal Journey with Shifting Beliefs
• 00:10:13 - Finding Connection through Curiosity
• 00:14:58 - Using Emotional Awareness to Bridge Differences
• 00:20:33 - Discovering Common Ground Through Shared Fears
• 00:27:15 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Tool for Connection
• 00:30:47 - Final Reflections on Staying Connected

The Connection Codes Team are talking about the topic of male sexuality and vulnerability. With insights from listener feedback and an open discussion, they take a look at the hidden messages men receive about sex and desire—messages that create shame and emotional distance. Dr. Glenn and Phyllis share personal experiences and clinical observations on how societal pressures force men to conceal their struggles, while Tera brings a fresh perspective on how these issues affect marriages. Together, they discuss how acknowledging and unpacking these messages can lead to healthier connections and break down emotional barriers.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters:

• 00:00:00 - Starting the Conversation on Male Sexuality
• 00:00:49 - Listener’s Challenge Sparks a Deep Dive
• 00:04:01 - Untold Stories and Hidden Experiences
• 00:05:27 - The Influence of Cultural Messages
• 00:12:34 - Unpacking Lust and Attraction
• 00:21:45 - Navigating Purity Culture’s Impact
• 00:31:54 - Biblical Takes on Lust: A Fresh Look
• 00:36:59 - Understanding the Greek Roots of Lust
• 00:38:06 - When Does Lust Become Sin?
• 00:39:08 - Attraction Stories That Shape Us
• 00:42:23 - What It Means to Be "Missing" in Marriage
• 00:45:05 - Surprising Insights from Pre-Marriage Talks
• 00:50:00 - Honest Conversations in Pre-Marriage Counseling
• 00:56:08 - How Honesty Reshapes Relationships
• 01:03:14 - Wrapping Up with Core Emotion Reflections

Tera and Phyllis talk about overcoming long-standing taboos around sexual exploration in relationships. They discuss listener questions about intimacy and vulnerability, reflecting on personal stories of breaking through fear and shame. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication, mutual trust, and being adventurous in the bedroom—whether that means trying pole dancing, exploring phone sex, or simply processing long-held fears. This episode challenges listeners to move past societal judgments and find what works for them and their partners, pointing out that every couple’s journey is unique.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 Introduction: Girl Time Vibes
• 00:00:50 Welcome to the Connection Codes
• 00:01:36 Unveiling a Listener's Email
• 00:03:26 Phyllis’s U-Haul Truck Adventure
• 00:05:12 Pushing the Boundaries in Sexual Adventure
• 00:07:44 Freeing Yourself from Shame and Judgment
• 00:12:52 Opening Up: Boundaries and Personal Comfort
• 00:14:10 Why Communication Is the Key to Intimacy
• 00:18:26 Chair Dancing: Phyllis’s Unexpected Confidence Boost
• 00:20:27 Staying Intimately Connected Across Distance
• 00:21:47 Girlfriends Sharing Bold Relationship Tips
• 00:23:34 Facing Shame and Embracing Vulnerability
• 00:24:03 The Joy of Fiction: A Surprising Tool for Sexual Exploration
• 00:26:32 From Theater to Bedroom: Removing Barriers
• 00:28:19 Self-Awareness: A Pathway to Sexual Exploration
• 00:31:00 Adventure in the Bedroom at Any Age
• 00:35:21 Processing Emotions Surrounding Sex
• 00:42:34 How to Build Safety and Curiosity in Relationships
• 00:44:13 Final Thoughts and Encouragement