Episodes

  • Dear Damona: Friends with Exes & Chemistry Cooler

    Dear Damona: Friends with Exes & Chemistry Cooler
    Oct 1 2024
    Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for love, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I feel like my partner isn’t matching my efforts. How can I get him to be more of a caretaker? I want to stay friends with my exes but I find it incredibly painful. Am I self sabotaging? I thought we had fun but they said they didn’t feel chemistry…what went wrong? An ex once said my lack of questions was a red flag, but I think it's a difference in communication styles. What do you think? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact Only 1 spot left for VIP coaching this fall. Is it you? Register for an intro call at DamonaHoffman.com/introcall and find out! TIMESTAMPS Intro (00:00:00) Managing expectations in relationships (00:01:28) Communicating needs in relationships (00:02:02) Are love languages real? (00:05:25) Self-sabotaging in friendships (00:06:44) Navigating chemistry and attraction (00:10:50) Flirting techniques to enhance attraction (00:12:17) The impact of date venues on chemistry (00:15:49) Communication Styles in Dating (00:18:11) Questions as Indicators of Interest (00:19:13) Nervousness and Connection (00:20:12) Red Flags Revisited (00:21:22) Interpreting Signs and Signals (00:22:26) Inclusivity in Dating Advice (00:23:35) The Importance of Follow-Up Questions (00:24:43) Engagement in Conversations (00:25:51) Listener Interaction Invitation (00:26:59) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    29 mins
  • Therapy-Speak & Is it The Apps

    Therapy-Speak & Is it The Apps
    Sep 24 2024
    Kiaundra Jackson, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, unpacks how therapy language is influencing our dating lives and shares why it’s essential to move beyond labels to truly thrive in our relationships. She also shares the telltale signs of toxic relationships. Our dear Damona question this week is: I've used them all, but none seem to be a good fit. Is it me or the apps? Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator for a limited-time-only for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program Submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Toxic Relationships (00:00:00) Guest Introduction (00:02:05) Rise of Dating Burnout (00:02:25) Importance of Healthy Relationships (00:03:10) Modeling Healthy Relationships (00:04:18) Personal Accountability in Relationships (00:06:10) Elements of Healthy Relationships (00:07:24) Taking Inventory of Past Relationships (00:10:10) Signs of Toxic Relationships (00:11:37) Understanding Narcissism (00:12:42) Manipulation vs. Healthy Goals (15:13) Setting Boundaries (17:20) Handling Triggered Reactions (19:28) Recognizing Relationship Dynamics (24:30) The Importance of Slow Love (28:47) Healing from Toxic Relationships (00:31:11) Unpacking Emotional Luggage (00:31:32) Rushing into New Relationships (00:31:54) The Process of Unpacking (00:32:33) Recognizing Healthy vs. Toxic Traits (00:33:18) When to Share Personal History (00:34:06) Finding the Right Time to Share (00:35:00) Ongoing Conversations About Baggage (00:37:54) Unpopular Opinion on Relationship Work (00:39:03) Perspective on Relationship Challenges (00:39:57) Invitation to Deeper Connection (00:40:17) Navigating Dating Apps (00:41:42) Understanding Dating App Experiences (00:42:11) Adjusting to Online Dating (00:43:17) Common Experience on Dating Apps (00:44:16) Finding New Dating Opportunities (00:45:21) Navigating Dating Apps (00:46:17) Understanding App Dynamics (00:47:18) Managing Expectations with Dating Apps (00:48:19) Addressing Dating Burnout (00:49:13) Upcoming Dear Damona Episode (00:50:13) Halloween Dating Horror Stories Call (00:50:13) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    53 mins
  • Coaching Session: Secret Affirmations

    Coaching Session: Secret Affirmations
    Sep 17 2024
    Take a sneak peak into a private coaching session with our listener, Staci, as Damona identifies the dating loops and myths that are keeping this single mom from experiencing the relationship she desires. Along the way, Damona shares quick tips and takeaways that you can apply right away to your own dating dilemmas. Ready to break free of your dating loops? Get Damona’s signature online program, The Dating Accelerator today for 10% off using the code PODCAST10 at DamonaHoffman.com/program submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com TIMESTAMPS Introduction to the Coaching Session (00:00:00) Damona's Experience (00:01:00) Staci's Introduction (00:03:14) Goals for the Session (00:04:08) Staci's Dating History (00:05:10) Burnout from Dating Apps (00:06:43). Impact of the Pandemic (00:08:17) Self-Discovery in Dating (00:09:13). Shifting Perspectives (00:10:21) Dating App Dynamics (00:11:35) Choosing vs. Being Chosen (00:13:56) Dating After 50 (00:15:25) Challenges in Conversations (00:17:10) Understanding the Texting Trap (00:18:08) Developing a Texting Strategy (00:18:46) Breaking Free from Canned Responses (00:20:01) Recognizing Exhausted Energy (00:20:57) Exploring Offline Dating (00:25:01) Finding Connection in New Experiences (00:26:14) Mindset and Clarity on Dating Goals (00:27:48) Affirmations and Attraction (00:28:35) Visualizing the Ideal Partner (00:32:31) Exploring Fitness as a Dating Venue (00:34:04) Flirting Skills (00:37:08) Flirting Formula (00:37:41) Roleplay Practice (00:39:19) Challenge Accepted (00:41:01) The Power of Touch (00:41:33) Living Vision (00:44:53) Flirting and Connection (00:45:59) Feeling Inspired (00:46:42) Closing Thoughts (00:48:31) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    54 mins
  • Master Class: Overcoming Dating Burnout

    Master Class: Overcoming Dating Burnout
    Sep 10 2024
    Mayday! It’s a dating burnout crisis! Damona gives a master class about the causes, the current stats, and THE FIX for the apathy and frustration that many daters are feeling today. In this episode, you will learn: The #1 secret weapon for building connection How to reclaim your power and replenish after burnout Top tips for avoiding burnout on dating apps Insider secrets or offline dating Protecting your peace with friends and loved ones And, how to reframe your dating burnout and turn it into fuel for romance Want to learn more? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Dating Burnout (00:00:00) Defining Burnout (00:00:57) Complexities of Modern Dating (00:02:07) Zombie Dating Explained (00:08:11) Dating Hygiene Tips (00:09:25) Addressing Apathy with Empathy (00:11:57) Forming a Connector Circle (00:13:10) Saying Yes to New Experiences (00:14:14) Creating a Comprehensive Dating Plan (00:15:28) Tracking Progress in Dating (00:17:48) Finding a Dating Accountability Buddy (00:18:50) Quieting Naysayers (00:19:53) Reframing Dating Burnout (00:21:07) What’s inside the Book "F the Fairy Tale" (00:21:07) Listener Review Highlight (00:22:05) Encouragement to Share the Episode (00:22:05) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    24 mins
  • Dear Damona: Soberish & First Date Rut

    Dear Damona: Soberish & First Date Rut
    Sep 3 2024
    Damona dedicates this week’s episode to YOU! Whether you’ve listened to 12 seasons or 12 episodes, she is answering your toughest Dear Damona questions, like: I’m stuck in a first date rut. How do I turn things around to find lasting love? How do I delicately tell my match that family is important, but relationships need to be a priority too? There’s a big drinking culture where I live. How do I meet singles who share my more laid back vibe? And, I’ve done the work, but I can’t seem to attract someone who’s done the same. Is it time to lower my standards? Find Damona and submit your questions on any of the socials @DamonaHoffman or by visiting her website DamonaHoffman.com/contact And, are YOU tired of being comfortably single? We are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! Sure, you’ve been fine on your own but just imagine how the RIGHT person could add to your life… If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    33 mins
  • Too Hot to Handle & Inner Intimacy

    Too Hot to Handle & Inner Intimacy
    Aug 27 2024
    Brenden Durell, intimacy expert on Netflix's Too Hot To Handle, guides us towards a deeper connection within with exercises that he practiced on the show and inspired by his intimacy retreat. Our Dear Damona question this week is: I find myself falling for men who either go all in or don’t give me the time of day. How can I change my pattern? Follow Brenden on Instagram @BrendenDurell and be sure to check out his work at BrendenDurell.com Look out for his “Inspired Intimacy Challenge” on socials and the Intimacy in the Jungle retreat in October. And, we are enrolling NOW for Damona’s signature group coaching program, The Dates & Mates Method! If you’re ready to create a dating plan and date differently this fall, then this is the time to sign up. Don’t miss out on a limited number of spots in this annual program. Learn more at DamonaHoffman.com/method TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Intimacy (00:00:00) Mirror Work Begins (00:00:09) Understanding Intimacy (00:00:13) Brendan's Background (00:02:05) Location and Energy (00:02:41) Premise of "Too Hot to Handle" (00:04:19) Evolution of Brendan's Role (00:06:00) Mirror Exercise Explanation (00:08:05) Impact of Reality TV (00:10:07) Apologizing to Oneself (00:11:23) Historical Context of Mirrors (00:12:23) Power of Self-Forgiveness (00:14:26) Intimacy Retreats (00:16:49) The Connection with Mother Earth (00:18:00) City Slicker vs. Nature (00:18:18) Walking Through Discomfort (00:19:17) Presence in the Moment (00:20:22) Reframing Time Pressure (00:24:51) Rites of Passage Experience (00:26:08) Intimacy in the Jungle Retreat (00:28:46) Embracing the Unknown (00:30:09) Renegotiating Commitments (00:32:35) God Exists in Everything (00:34:00) Exploring Intimacy Across Cultures (00:34:46) Curiosity in Personal Growth (00:35:52) Demystifying Intimacy (00:36:40) Reframing Perspectives on Pleasure (00:36:51) Listener's Dating Struggles (00:38:49) Prioritizing Self-Love (00:40:02) Understanding Relationship Patterns (00:41:08) Setting Boundaries in Dating (00:42:39) The Importance of Inner Intimacy (00:45:26) Invitation to Join the Program (00:46:32) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 mins
  • TherapyJeff & Down to DM

    TherapyJeff & Down to DM
    Aug 20 2024
    Jeff Guenther, AKA TherapyJeff on Instagram, joins Damona in the premiere of Season 12 of Dates & Mates for a state of the date address! They cover all phases of the dating journey from clarifying what you’re seeking to first dates, defining the relationship and even planning for the dreaded breakup. The Dear Damona question this week is: What’s the best way to reach out to someone new on LinkedIn? Be sure to follow Jeff on Instagram @TherapyJeff and grab a copy of his new book, Big Dating Energy, on shelves now! And get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS Introduction to Season 12 (00:00:00) Overview of the Episode (00:02:06) Introducing Therapy Jeff (00:04:29) Jeff's Book Release (00:05:00) Collaborating with an Ex (00:06:47) Personal Insights in the Book (00:08:48) Clarifying Deal Breakers (00:12:04) Understanding Relationship Needs (00:15:18) The Role of Fears in Dating (00:18:31) Dating Apps Discussion (00:20:07) The Impact of Dating Apps on Love (23:20) The Shift in Dating Dynamics (23:41) Boundaries with Technology (24:27) The Need for Healthy Relationships (27:48) Imagining Ideal Dating Apps (28:16) Cultural Changes in Dating Apps (29:39) Tips for Long-term Relationship Survival (30:19) Navigating Conflict in Relationships (31:59) Communication After Intimacy (33:10) Creating Sexual Energy (35:24) Understanding Breakups (36:45) Ethical Breakup Practices (39:05) The Value of Planning in Relationships (41:38) The Intimacy of Breakup Conversations (43:09) Listener Question on LinkedIn Outreach (44:02) Introduction and Connector Circle (00:46:04) Sliding into DMs (00:46:59) Approaching on LinkedIn (00:48:11) Navigating Online Connections (00:49:19) Promoting the Dates & Mates Method (00:50:16) Call for Listener Questions (00:51:13) Wrap-Up and Guest Teaser (00:52:06) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    55 mins
  • Dating Solutions: The Communication & Trust Pillars

    Dating Solutions: The Communication & Trust Pillars
    Aug 13 2024
    We all hope to feel something special on that first date, but true love takes time, and so does trust. Damona debunks The Chemistry Myth and The Soulmate Myth while offering real solutions to today’s dating troubles. Based on themes from her new book, F The Fairy Tale, this episode highlights The Goals Pillar and The Values Pillar in a conversation between Damona and love and relationship experts, Carol Allen & Katherine Woodward, in one of the top panels from the F the Fairy Tale Forum last year. Be sure to follow Carol on Instagram @CarolAllenAstrologer and get a special discount on her annual personal success calendar at DamonaHoffman.com/mycalendar And, be sure to follow Katherine on Instagram @KatherineWoodwardThomas and check out her work at KatherineWoodwardThomas.com Get Damona’s bestselling book “F the Fairy Tale” in ebook, audiobook, and hardcover everywhere books are sold (FtheFairyTaleBook.com) This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get convenient, online therapy with BetterHelp. Visit BetterHelp.com/DATESANDMATES today to get 10% off your first month. TIMESTAMPS (00:00:00) Introduction to the Episode (00:01:07) Transition to Communication and Trust (00:02:04) The Chemistry Myth (00:03:05) Introducing Guests Katherine and Carol (00:03:56) Insights on Communication (00:06:45) Astrological Compatibility Discussion (00:10:10) Understanding Relationship Dynamics (00:14:23) Scarcity Mindset in Dating (00:18:08) Listener Questions and Support (00:19:13) Dating Fatigue at 26 (00:20:10) Late Bloomers in Love (00:22:19) Faith and Trust in Dating (00:24:09) Top Dealbreakers in Relationships (00:25:42) Self-Reflection in Relationships (00:27:54) Abundant Mindset Tips (00:29:31) From Wallflower to Proficient Dater (00:30:12) Strategic Dating Approach (00:32:27) Promoting Personal Success Calendars (00:33:20) Book Reviews and Community Engagement Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    35 mins