EP 58: Do I Have Imposter Syndrome? How Do I Know if I Am Self-Sabotaging Myself? CONTACT ANGIE: Podcast: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifepodcast Website: https://www.angietoninirogers.com IG: @angietoninirogers FB: https://www.facebook.com/angie.toninirogers Community: http://bit.ly/whollymadelifefbgroup Email: angietoninirogers@gmail.com Wholly Made Life™ IIDEAA Framework Journal: http://bit.ly/IIDEAAjournal Wholly Made Life™ Short Assessment: http://bit.ly/shortassessment Angie’s Coaching Menu: visit website at www.angietoninirogers.com What's up ladies I'm back. well, listen. So I am totally doubting my abilities and feeling like a complete fraud. Yeah. I said it… a complete fake phony fraud. Have you ever felt that way? That's about what we're gonna talk about today in today's episode, I've been away for so long, but I'm back and I have missed you guys. So let's get into today's episode about being a fake a phony. What's up ladies. I am back, back back. And I first wanna thank a friend of mine named Rochelle, because she has been on me on me, on me sisters. Listen, you guys need accountability partners in your life. Like I have, I've got this girl, this friend of mine, Rochelle, who asks me almost every time that she sees me. Are you ever gonna do a podcast episode again? And I'm like, girl. Yes, but I don't know… things. Life has just crazy. It's happened and I've dropped off guys. It's August and I am pretty sure it's been since December, since I have posted, it has been a wild and crazy year. And so you heard what I said when I said the intro, which was feeling like a fraud, a fake, a phony, right. Well, that is exactly what we're gonna talk about today. And I will go into in some future episodes about what's been going on in this past year and what I've been doing. But I just wanted to first thank and give a shout out to Rochelle because I know she'll hear this and I want to thank you my friend for being on top of me and accountability because we need that. We need that in our lives. And I am so thankful that I have a close group of ladies that hold me accountable to do and say what it is I am meant to do and say, okay, so let's talk a little bit about feeling like a fraud, doubting your abilities and that kind of thing today. I'm talking about duh duh imposter syndrome. So how many of you guys have heard of imposter syndrome? It is loosely defined. It's about doubting your abilities, feeling like a fraud, a fake, a phony, it, it actually disproportionately affects very high achieving people, high achieving people and those people in, and I'm, I'm one of those people in case you didn't know it, you find it difficult to accept your accomplishments. And so many question, whether or not they're deserving of accolades or accomplishments or things that they've done, right? So imposter syndrome, it's an internal experience. So it happens inside. It's like a, you know, that, that negative self talk that happens. It's believing that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be. So others are saying that you're competent, but you really in your hood and your emotions in your heart, you don't feel like you're very competent. You're competent. This is it's usually narrowly applied to highly achieved people. It does have links to perfectionism and you guys know my history with perfectionism and unbecoming perfectionism, right? So it is usually tied to that, but it can hit anybody. Anybody can feel this way. At any point in time, it's basically experience of feeling like a fake, a phony. You feel like as if any moment, you're gonna be found out that you are a total fake, you're a total fraud. Like you don't belong where you are, you don't deserve what you've got. And you've basically just gotten there through dumb luck which by the way, I don't believe in luck, I believe in blessings. But it can affect anyone, no matter their social status, no matter their work background, their skill level, their degree of expertise. It can hit anyone at any time. Some of the common signs of imposter syndrome are an inability to assess your own competence and skills really see those for what they are. It is attributing your success to external factors other than yourself and you know, on this podcast, you know, God, right. It's it's me and God. Okay. it thinking about the fact that, well, that wasn't me. That was something else. Okay. You berate your performance, you downplay what you've done to get the accomplishments that you've, you've experienced. You fear that you won't live up to expectations. You overachieve, you overcompensate for things. Oh my Lord. This is speaking to me so much because in my past specifically, and then very recently, I had a overwhelming feeling of this, these symptoms, which are defini definition of imposter syndrome. You sabotage your own success. You doubt yourself, you set very challenging goals. And then you feel like you have a right to feel disappointed when you ...
