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In this episode, John discusses how to overcome shame to gain access to your inner world and achieve inner peace. He explains the crippling nature of shame, its dual nature, and how it affects our mental health. John shares his personal journey with childhood PTSD and his years-long quest to understand mental illness and trauma. He emphasizes the importance of disempowering shame to empower oneself and offers practical steps to bypass shame and unlock one's true potential.

00:00 Introduction to Overcoming Shame
00:11 Understanding the Nature of Shame
00:17 The Dual Nature of Shame
00:56 Personal Journey and Motivation
01:49 Shame's Role in Mental Health
03:28 Shame in Public vs. Private Spaces
04:31 Shame as a Barrier to Inner Work
07:42 Disempowering Shame
08:33 Objective Observation Exercise
13:03 Conclusion and Next Steps

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Transforming Your Life by Overcoming All or Nothing Thinking

In this episode, John delves into the pervasive issue of all-or-nothing thinking, a mindset that can impede progress in various aspects of life including weight loss, relationships, and career goals. John discusses the origin of this mentality, often rooted in childhood experiences and perfectionism, and offers practical strategies to identify and overcome it. He emphasizes the importance of setting realistic, incremental goals and maintaining a presence with one's objective reality to facilitate meaningful progress. John also explains how reframing moderate efforts as valuable can break the cycle of shame and extreme attempts followed by failure. For those interested, he offers coaching resources and invites viewers to join a new community focused on personal freedom and inner work.

00:00 Introduction to All or Nothing Thinking
00:47 Meet Your Coach: John Oakes
01:51 The Impact of All or Nothing Thinking
02:18 Real-Life Example and Resources
03:07 Understanding Human Behavior
04:50 The Roots of Perfectionism
07:43 Breaking the Cycle of Shame
10:20 Practical Steps to Overcome All or Nothing Thinking
12:32 The Importance of Moderate Solutions
19:06 Staying Grounded and Moving Forward
22:51 Conclusion and Community Invitation

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In this episode, John takes viewers through five key shifts essential for healing from PTSD: moving from survival mode to seeking what you truly want, transitioning from rule-based to values-based living, fostering hope rather than relying solely on prediction, surrendering control to embrace internal motivation, and transitioning from resistance to acceptance. John emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance and inner peace in overcoming trauma and living an authentic life. He also touches on practical steps to aid in this transformation process.

00:00 Introduction and Personal Journey
00:18 Five Key Shifts in Healing from PTSD
00:39 Understanding the A/B Dichotomy
02:29 From Rule-Based to Values-Based Living
05:45 Shifting from Prediction to Hope
09:18 Control vs. Surrender
11:02 Resistance to Acceptance
12:26 Bonus Shifts: Self-Acceptance and Inner Peace
15:08 Conclusion and Call to Action

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