This week, I chat with Pepper Kat about Western society's difficulty in embracing physicality and sexuality. Pepper is an adult entertainer and podcaster who founded Design Your Dreamgirl to provide a space for all people to explore their desires with no judgment. Pepper and I discuss the spectrum of sexual fantasy, how shaming intimacy is the worst form of control, and why Sigmund Freud should probably be retired.

REFERENCES:
Pepper Kat’s website: https://www.pepperkat.com/

Spicy Spectrum Podcast: https://www.pepperkat.com/heartfelt-perspectives

Follow Pepper on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_pepper_kat_

Follow Pepper on Bluesky: https://bsky.app/profile/pepperkat.bsky.social

Follow Pepper on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/peppertheblackkat/

Follow Pepper on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100091550276924
Follow Pepper on X: https://x.com/BlackKatPepper

• (00:00) - Opening credits
• (00:37) - Show opening
• (01:32) - Introducing Pepper Kat
• (02:06) - From news producer to Design Your Dream Girl
• (04:04) - Acknowledging desires reduces assault
• (09:12) - Historical biases drive current views on sex
• (13:48) - The spectrum of desire
• (18:23) - Sex work keeps the world sane
• (21:53) - Embrace your physicality
• (26:59) - Voice as a method of affirmation
• (29:16) - Intimacy takes many forms
• (32:22) - Being confident neough not to lie to yourself
• (36:45) - Why not just change social norms?
• (41:29) - And it all comes down to control
• (48:02) - Who can call Pepper Kat?
• (50:47) - How to find Pepper Kat on the internet
• (52:27) - Spicy Spectrum Podcast
• (54:04) - Show closing
• (55:48) - Closing credits