Have you ever felt the subtle pressure to be "fixed," "healed," or to present yourself as having all the answers? That pressure isn't just uncomfortable—it might be preventing your most profound transformation.

In this deeply reflective exploration, I challenge the fundamental notion that security and fixed identity represent human strength. The truth is quite the opposite: our natural state involves constant evolution, shedding masks when they no longer serve us, just as trees naturally release branches. When we grip these identities too tightly, we strangle our own becoming.

The conversation takes us through the concept of the liminal stage—that uncomfortable, ambiguous space between who we were and who we're becoming. This space appears across cultures and throughout history as a necessary phase of transformation, symbolized in everything from ancient initiation rites to Dante's dark wood. What's fascinating is how consistently these traditions incorporate voluntary discomfort as the pathway through liminality.

I share my personal journey through a profound becoming and how others have misinterpreted my openness about this process as brokenness. This misunderstanding reveals society's discomfort with authentic transformation and our collective avoidance of three essential elements: discomfort, ambiguity, and honesty what I call the "perfect trifecta" preventing transformation.

Whether you're questioning your identity, feeling lost in transition, or sensing the stirrings of personal evolution, remember: you're not broken. You're becoming. What if this moment you feel lost in is actually your next beautiful beginning? Join me in embracing the uncertain, uncomfortable magic of transformation.