In this episode, we explore the quiet power of joy: what it is, why it matters, and how it can radically shift the way you live and lead.

You’ll learn the difference between happiness and joy, discover why joy is essential (especially in seasons of overwhelm or uncertainty), and uncover what actually happens when you begin to make space for it in your daily life.

We talk about:

• What joy really is (and how it differs from happiness)

• Why it’s more than just a “nice to have”

• How to add more of it to your life

• The powerful shifts that happen when you start living with joy

This episode will leave you feeling lighter, clearer, and more connected to what matters most.

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Over the years, I’ve done a lot of things because I thought I should, especially for my dad (who passed away 12 years ago when this episode airs!). But that one word, “should,” has carried more weight than I ever realized. In this episode, I share why I decided to remove “should” from my every day life and how that one shift has allowed me to take my power and voice back.

If you’ve ever felt guilt for not doing enough, shame for not being farther along, or pressure to be someone you’re not, this will be a good episode to listen in to.

• Why “should” is so heavy and what it’s really costing you

• The hidden connection between “should” and guilt, shame, and external pressure

• How “should” disconnects you from your truth and your joy

• 5 simple but powerful ways to start releasing the word “should” today

1. Catch it in the moment — Notice when you say or think “should” and ask, “Says who?”

2. Replace it with empowering words — Like “choose,” “want,” or “need”

3. Reflect daily — Ask, “What did I feel I should do today?” and “What did I actually want or need?”

4. Practice out loud — Invite a loved one to help you shift your language

5. Listen to your body — Notice how “should” feels tense, while “want” feels safe

Removing “should” doesn’t mean avoiding responsibility. It means living from a place of freedom instead of fear. As someone committed to helping others move from impossibility to freedom, this practice is foundational—for me, and maybe for you too.

When you stop living by “should,” you:

• Free your voice

• Strengthen your boundaries

• Make space for clarity, joy, and authenticity

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Have questions or thoughts about this episode? I’d love to hear from you.

Connect with me at maryvalloni.com or email mary@maryvalloni.com.

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After nearly 5 years, The Mary Valloni Show is back with new direction and new focus.

In this relaunch episode, Mary shares the full story behind the podcast’s evolution, from its beginnings in 2017, to the pause in 2020, and now to a powerful return in 2025. Whether you’re a longtime listener or brand new here, this episode will help you reflect on your own seasons of pause, transition, and renewal.

You’ll hear how Mary’s vision has expanded to helping purpose-driven leaders like you rediscover joy, gain clarity, and walk in freedom—without the pressure, perfectionism, or burnout.

• Why the podcast paused and what’s changed since

• A renewed focus on joy, clarity, and freedom

• What you can expect from upcoming episodes

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