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Gaslighting, Over-Explaining, and the Page of Swords in Tarot

Gaslighting, Over-Explaining, and the Page of Swords in Tarot

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This week on ⁠The Tarot Diagnosis Podcast⁠, I’m discussing a tender and often overlooked habit many of us carry: over-explaining. In this episode, I explore the psychological roots of this behavior through the lens of the Page of Swords, an archetype that is curious, alert, and sometimes altered by experiences of gaslighting or a lack of conflict resolution.


We’ll unpack how early experiences with unresolved conflict or emotional invalidation can lead us to constantly seek clarity, not just for understanding and being understood, but also for safety. I explore how the Page of Swords becomes the internal part of us that can't rest until everything has been said just right, and how that habit, while protective, can also be exhausting.


From there, we journey through the Swords court to see how our communication style evolves over time: from the anxious explaining of the Page, to the defensive urgency of the Knight, the discerning clarity of the Queen, and finally the peaceful detachment of the King. Each archetype offers insight into how we can move from over-explaining to grounded self-trust.


If you’ve ever sent a “just to clarify…” text, stayed up all night replaying a conversation (hello Nine of Swords), or struggled with the need to be understood perfectly, this episode is for you. I also share practical strategies and tarot prompts to support your healing, self-reflection, and emotional regulation.


✨ Tune in for a heartfelt, validating, and empowering exploration of communication, trauma responses, and the healing journey from the Page to King of Swords.


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It was a very personal and honest presentation by Shannon. She referenced many aspects of the causes from her own life and the resultant behavior of growing up in those circumstances. I recognized many of the traits Shannon identified in myself. Particularly the lonely aspect, the rehearsals in the mind, and the need to make sure things are explained fully so you are not misunderstood. There is also a sense of vulnerability here, the preparation of defensive actions to ensure you aren't betrayed 'again'. Listening to this episode gave me pause about my own posturing in life, getting used to being by myself a lot, being a culture of one, and identifying with concepts like self sovereignty as war footing, because you can never trust a human. I listened to this episode twice a few days apart and I am considering getting some therapy, some objective professional opinion and advice. Thank you, Shannon.

Shannon also spoke of children who are put into caring situations at a young age, developmental issues by being thrust into an adult reality early and for sustained periods, and also in relation to caregivers in a broader sense. Though Shannon did not mention it, I feel that this realm of vigilant experience could also include those who are in a co-dependent relationship with a mother, boyfriend, sister etc. From a Tarot perspective, in reference to codependency, the Page of Swords could be seen as an bound attendant holding a syringe, 💉

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