0:08 Welcome to the life against the grain podcast. I'm your host, Nikki Marie, a wife, mother, mental health advocate, and generational wellness coach. If you aren't ready to redesign your life according to your desires and your morals, but you feel trapped by the constraints of society and inherited beliefs, then you are in the right place. I want this podcast to serve as a safe space to explore, evaluate and envision your own blueprint for life. So let's get into it. 1:02 hello, hello, hello. Come on in, take off your shoes, relax and stay at while I'm your host, Nikki Marie and today is going to be a little different. We will be diving into what a generational wellness coach is and how I can help you in today's episode, generational wetness. 1:21 As you've already heard, I am a generational wellness coach. And what that means is my role as a generational Wellness Coach is to help people uncover limiting beliefs and things that they learned over the course of their lives, from family or society that are keeping them stuck, then to show them how to implement healthier habits. So they can live the life that they want to pass on to future generations and help past generations heal from an example of these limiting beliefs or things that we learned throughout our lives from family and society. 2:02 Take a woman as an example, that wants to become the top person in a field that's filled with men, but decides not to go for it decides not to try. Because all her life, she heard women are meant to do this certain thing, or women are not supposed to show up in this space. So that would be something that has been inherited a value that has been inherited from previous generations in society, that they no longer work for us now in society, and may have applied before. But Today's a new day, and things are different. And her limiting belief was passed on from her previous generation. And now it's affecting her current generation. And then by that she's going to go ahead and pass on that same belief, that same feel to a future generation. Therefore, repeating the cycle over and over again and never breaking it. And I'm here to help people identify that cycle, take what works for them, and keep it and take what doesn't work for them and does not apply and let it go. It's okay to let go ideas that people are telling you that have been here before you if they do not serve you if they do not have any application to your life. And if you don't believe it, it's okay to not believe in the same thing that somebody else believes him. Because you are the one who gets to live your life. And you're the one who lives your decisions. So no one else can tell you, your life is supposed to look like this. They can advise you like, Hey, I did this. This is what I went through. This is the feelings I had. And this was the outcome. And if that whole process works for you, and it leads you to exactly where you want to be, then go for it. If it does not, then you need to stop, reevaluate and create your plan. This topic is very important to me. Because not only am I a woman trying to make my own mark on this world, I am a mother. I'm a mother of three children, one of which is a girl. And I do not want her believing that she has to be limited because of what other people say what other people think what society is trying to lie to her about. I want to be that example. I want to implement better habits for her and for my son's so that they could create an even better life than the ones they have now. 4:39 And one of my own personal generational beliefs that I used to believe and that I'm worked through and realized that it wasn't true and it was actually hurting my life is crying or vulnerability was a weakness. 4:54 Guys, I'm a Puerto Rican woman from Brooklyn, New York. 5:00 So being soft in that environment made you a target being vulnerable, being emotional made you a walking target. So you had to keep a tough exterior. And an I don't give a fuck attitude in order to survive through the day in order to not have people come at you in order to feel good by the end of that day and feel strong. Even until today, when I'm hurt Emotionally, I get angry, and I want to break things. Crying is not the first thing that comes into my mind, because I have been conditioned to not show weakness. I've been conditioned, that even though I'm a girl, that that's not what I should be doing, I should get over it, I should just keep moving, I should not let things bother me. That's what was taught to me. And with those mindsets, and those lessons that I was learning throughout life, it made me create walls between me and other people or opportunities that I wanted to go for. Because I didn't want to look weak, or I didn't want to look a certain type of way, I didn't want to become a target. So I would stop myself, because of everything around me told me not to believe in that situation for myself. But as I grew up, I was seeing ...
