10 Shame’s Disguise: People-Pleasing, Perfectionism & Proving Yourself

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Today’s episode is one that I think hits close to home for so many of us on this healing journey. We’re talking about shame—but not the loud, obvious kind. We’re talking about the quiet shame. The kind that hides in things we thought were just part of our personality: people-pleasing, perfectionism, and proving ourselves constantly.

[00:50.178] What Shame actually is.

[01:52.876] The ways Shame shows up.

[02:04.276] People-Pleasing.

[04:06.008] Perfectionism.

[06:12.829] Proving.

[08:52.018] Ways to help heal.

[11:49.730] Affirmations for Healing

[16:23.933] I Love You.

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9 The Duality of Control - Part 2: The Illusion of Control

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Last week we started our discussion on The Duality of Control and what it looks like to be controlled in our relationships, and how it quietly steals pieces of who you are. This week we’re doing a 180. And we’re going to look in the mirror and see how being controlled, has turned us into trying to control everything.

[01:23.786] The Illusion of Control

[02:30.581] How Control Shows Up

[04:03.233] What control looks like in my life.

[12:12.402] How to learn to let go.

[15:16.610] Affirmations for Healing

[18:32.249] I Love You.

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8 The Duality of Control - Part 1: Being Controlled

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This week we’re going to discuss what it looks like to be controlled in a relationship, how it affects us, and how we can heal from it. Next week, we’ll discuss how being controlled causes us to be controlling.

[00:19.738] What does control look like in real life?

[03:04.237] Red Flags & Subtle Signs

[03:44.349] What control looked like in my life.

[11:09.294] The damage being controlled cuases.

[12:44.973] Affirmations for Healing

[15:46.801] I Love You.

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