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How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

How Not to Screw Up Your Kids

By: Dr Maryhan
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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.


Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.


The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.


The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.


We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!


This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...

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Episodes
  • Bucket Emptying: A Little Bit of the Right Praise Can Go A Very Long Way

    Bucket Emptying: A Little Bit of the Right Praise Can Go A Very Long Way
    Jun 1 2025

    Confession time: I have put my kids’ artwork in the bin.


    Let’s face it, we can’t keep everything they do, and not everything they do will be successful or, in your opinion, praise-worthy.


    But praise isn’t just about the outcome; it’s not about winning or losing. Praise, when used at the right time and in the right way, can be super powerful at building confident, resilient children.


    In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five ways that you can give praise that will nurture skills, build character, and help you raise children who don’t fear failure and feel supported to try anything.


    So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



    Highlights from this episode:

    00:29 - Hacks

    02:43 - A whole splodge of nothing

    05:36 - Be specific

    06:49 - Effort over outcome

    11:01 - Celebrate the small wins

    13:26 - Hone in on skills




    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


    💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


    💚 mentioned in the episodes



    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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    17 mins
  • Diffusing Tantrums Without Losing It

    Diffusing Tantrums Without Losing It
    May 29 2025

    What do you do when you’re out in public and your child absolutely loses it?


    Dealing with tantrums can be a daily occurrence as parents, but have you ever been at the end of tether and lost your cool?


    You’re not the worst parent - we’ve all been there! And that’s why, in this episode, I’m going to help you deal with the meltdowns and the tantrums.


    You’re going to understand what can cause them, how you can prevent them, and what to do in the moment so that you can handle the situation like the pro you are.


    So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



    Highlights from this episode:

    00:38 - Tantrums are not just for toddlers

    03:26 - Why do tantrums happen?

    11:15 - How to prevent tantrums

    16:17 - Being aware of the triggers

    19:39 - Positive attention

    27:03 - Managing tantrums in the moment




    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


    💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


    💚 mentioned in the episodes



    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    37 mins
  • Bucket Emptying: My Child is Obsessed with Being First for Everything!

    Bucket Emptying: My Child is Obsessed with Being First for Everything!
    May 26 2025

    Does your child the one who always runs to the front of a crowd, or insists on being the first in the bath, or can’t wait their turn during a game?


    Don’t worry, because you’re not alone! Insisting on being first is a common challenge faced by parents, so in this bucket emptying episode I am going to explain the reasons why this happens, and give you some practical things you can do to address it.


    So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



    Highlights from this episode:

    02:03 - The biggest reasons for it

    05:20 - Seeing siblings as more capable

    06:56 - What can you do about it?

    12:47 - It’s about they feel about themselves

    15:53 - Descriptive praise and why it works




    💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


    💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


    💚 mentioned in the episodes



    DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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    19 mins
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