Has someone ever wronged you, and you can’t seem to get past it? Maybe you struggle with even wanting to forgive the person.

On this podcast episode of If You Really Knew Me, Ben & Kim talk about the seven steps of forgiveness and how it’s affected by our enneagram type and the process you walk through.

Feel free to reference this below in case you need more to chat about:

Forgiveness is something we ALL have to tackle. If you are struggling today, I encourage you to seek the Lord. Only He can give you the strength you need to be able to forgive others AND yourself.

WHAT FORGIVENESS IS (AND IS NOT)

• Forgiveness is giving up your right to hurt someone who has hurt you.
• Forgiveness does not diminish the wrong done against you.
• Forgiveness is not a denial of what happened.
• Forgiveness does not take away the consequences the other person will face because of his or her actions.
• Forgiveness is an act and a process. Even when a person decides to forgive another person, feelings of relief or healing are usually not immediate. Forgiving someone can be difficult and uncomfortable.
• Forgiveness is not weakness. It is the most powerful thing you can do. It breaks the hold that has been put on your life. Refusing to forgive allows the person or thing that was hurtful to you to continue to hurt you.
• Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. Forgiveness does not require you to become a “doormat.”
• Forgiveness does not require you to open yourself up to the offender to be hurt again.
• Forgiveness does not wait for the offender to apologize or earn forgiveness in some way.

WAYS TO CONNECT

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If you’re not sure where to start but want to know more, refer to Ep 2 - The Enneagram Explained

Info credit: Beth McCord (Your Enneagram Coach)

Hosts: Kim Willey and Ben Sorrells

Ben is a Certified Enneagram Coach through YEC and Beth McCord

Helpful Links:

Discover your Enneagram Type: Here's one that we like! YEC Enneagram Type Assessment

Learn about all 9 types: 9 Types Overview

In-depth Enneagram Courses: YEC Enneagram Courses

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In this insightful episode of "If You Really Knew Me," hosts Kim and Ben welcome Pastor Larry Davis, an experienced leader in managing change within church communities. The episode delves into the complexities of change, likening it to a grieving process, and discusses how different personalities navigate change.

Pastor Larry introduces his book, "Grieving the Loss of the Church You Love," highlighting how understanding the emotional aspect of change can aid in smoother transitions. The conversation also explores the Enneagram types, offering personalized strategies for handling change effectively.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

1. Change and Grief Connection: Change often triggers a sense of loss, similar to the stages of grief. Recognizing this can help individuals and communities navigate transitions more effectively.

2. Understanding the Why: Addressing the underlying reasons for resistance to change can transform perceptions and facilitate acceptance.

3. Enneagram Insights: Each personality type processes change differently. Understanding these differences can lead to more empathetic and effective leadership and support.

4. Leadership in Change: Effective leaders should practice active listening, validate emotions, and tailor their approach to suit individual needs and the collective goal.

5. Spiritual Perspective: Embracing change can lead to spiritual growth, as it mirrors the death, burial, and resurrection process inherent in Christian faith.

RESOURCES

Engage with these resources to deepen your understanding of managing change both personally and within your community.

Pastor Larry Davis's book "Grieving the Loss of the Church You Love"

Visit PastorLarryDavis.com for further insights and resources

WAYS TO CONNECT

Newsletter: Subscribe for further information about enneagram types and regular updates from the podcast. Visit our website, wearethebridge.org/enneagram, to subscribe and find more episodes, resources, and show notes.

Social Media: Follow us for updates and more encouraging content:

**Instagram**:@enneagrampodcast

**Facebook**:@enneagrampodcast

Email: Have questions or suggestions? knewme@wearethebridge.org

Subscribe and Review: Don’t forget to subscribe to us on your favorite podcast platform and leave a review to help others discover the show.

Would you like to have YOUR question answered and maybe even featured on a future episode? Submit your enneagram question to knewme@wearethebridge.org

If you find this information helpful to you, SUBSCRIBE and journey with us.

If you’re not sure where to start but want to know more, refer to Ep 2 - The Enneagram Explained

Info credit: Beth McCord (Your Enneagram Coach)

Hosts: Kim Willey and Ben Sorrells

Ben is a Certified Enneagram Coach through YEC and Beth McCord

Helpful Links:

Discover your Enneagram Type: Here's one that we like! YEC Enneagram Type Assessment

Learn about all 9 types: 9 Types Overview

In-depth Enneagram Courses: YEC Enneagram Courses

Please share If You Really Knew Me with a friend if you enjoyed this episode. If You Really Knew Me is still growing, and your positive review and 5-star rating would help.

The Bridge Podcast Network is made possible by generous support from The Boardwalk Plaza Hotel and Victoria’s Restaurant on the boardwalk in Rehoboth Beach, Delaware - Open 7 days a week, year-round - Learn more at https://boardwalkplaza.com

Feedback, or Show Ideas? Send an email to knewme@wearethebridge.org

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