At their core affirmations are good things they help us frame our minds to see things differently and so much more.

At their core affirmations are good things they help us frame our minds to see things differently and so much more.More times than not, I have seen that affirmations do not work for me. And there is a good reason for it. The structure of an affirmation follows this:

• How you say it
• When you say it
• What you say

There is so many different ways that this practice is taught. For instance some say you need to say it 3x a day and others say once is enough. And then there is the How and What you say. You must act as if it has already happened with the energy of elation. There is nothing wrong with affirmations. They are simply a tool like anything else. But if it's not working for you like me, then I have a good idea to why that might be. It's that you are not believing what you say.

I tell a personal story about how I learned to write affirmations from a gifted spiritual mentor. Every time I would offer my own created affirmation she would critique it and say that my words were throwing off the energetics. I created a belief that "I am no good at writing affirmations." I internalized this and as you can probably see that this underlying belief sabotaged my affirmations NOT because I was using the wrong words.

As I mention, these critiques from my mentor was triggering my PERFECTIONIST. Once this lovely block is activated well, no matter what words I write were going to help this. There is another part to why affirmations weren't working and that is not enough emphasis was being made on the Energetics of the affirmations. What is the energy behind what I am saying?

My Mentor would make tweaks and edits to my affirmations. I could read it of course but I never truly believe it because the words she came up with weren't my own. As Empaths, we must believe what we say. "Fake it 'til you make it" is an idea that is lost on us because deep in our hearts we DON'T believe it. Even if we truly want it.

Later I met another coach who had a beautiful way through this debacle of not believing your affirmations but how you can make them work for you. She offered this simple phrasing that you can attach to it: A part of me wants to believe ...(add your desired outcome).This feels so much better than trying to "trick" myself that I already HAVE it when I know I don't. As I reveal in this podcast I still hold tightly to the belief that I am not a good affirmation writer! And that brings me to the point that I believe firmly, if it doesn't work for you then you don't have to keep trying to make it work.

With an overactive perfectionist at play I know that no matter what this won't work for me, or maybe I am not getting it in the way I thought. The thing that is really important to note is that you can use other ways of creating magic that are beyond a well written affirmations. Nowadays, I use my oracle cards and psychic abilities, follow my intuition as my primary tools for manifesting whatever it is want to call in, experience, or feel in this life. I really believe in them and I know that is why they work.

The bottom line of this episode is here to tell you to:

"Use your intuition, feel into what tools will work for you, and know that if you don't believe 'em, then they'll never gonna work anyway."

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