Invalidation? Isn’t that just a fancy word for feeling sorry for yourself?

Show Notes

Byron Katie's worksheet for self-coaching:  https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

00:00 - Intro + What is invalidation?
05:45 - How did the topic of invalidation come up?
08:00 - The dark cloud of invalidation and what it feels like
09:30 - Thinking of the worst-case scenario - is it preparedness or is it a self-defeating
12:50 - Reframing dark thoughts into questions and try to answer them as objectively as possible.
15:55 - Invalidation of the feelings of invalidation, self-compassion, and invalidating others
18:13 - Magda shares a real-time example of a trigger during this conversation and examines it with Tracy as an opportunity to grow and feel good in her own skin.
21:51 - The opportunity presented by invalidation
23:00 - Invalidation doesn't serve us. What happens if we don't get over it?
26:10 - How to unstick yourself, and the first self-reflection question.
27:38 - Tracy and Magda's answers to the question
33:02 - Compliments
33:55 - Self-reflection questions

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Self-Reflections
1. When there's a sense of invalidation, what is it that I'm feeling invalidated about and where is this coming from?
2. What is it that I need to give myself right now?
3. No one can reject you unless you're rejecting yourself. Are you rejecting yourself?
4. Have a conversation with someone who is a good listener or self-journal about the issue to bring it out of your head so that you can look at it with objectivity.