Why do we get defensive at work? Why do we shy away from difficult questions in interviews? And how do we develop the self-awareness so this doesn't hold us back? In my conversation with Stefania Montagna, we dive deep into the meaning of EQ, why it's important, and why to develop it.

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Resources from the podcast:

• Daniel Goleman's Emotional Intelligence Book
• The Coddling of the American Mind, Jonathan Haidt and Greg Lukianoff
• Write like a motherfucker, by Cheryl Strayed on The Rumpus

The quote by Rumi:

Beyond right and wrong there's a field, I'll meet you there.

Show notes:

[11:26] Stefania's experiences developing emotional intelligence
[13:45] Getting deep into emotional intelligence and what it means
[18:33] How to know if you are being reactive and measuring your self-awareness (and what does it mean when you are triggered often?)

[23:35] The role social media plays in reducing self-awareness
[25:30] Self-awareness during your interview, the desire to be right, and why you don't need the right answer
[28:00] Why it's triggering to be in an interview: The connection between work and belonging historically (supporting yourself economically)

[38:20] How interviewing is like dating + tips for feeling out the right role instead of overthinking it
[40:00] Interview coming up? Stefania's Framework to Identify Before-After Moments and tactics you can use today and building out your story and Elevator Pitch
[49:30] The "tell me about yourself" question and why you're doing it wrong

[52:00] How companies assess Emotional Intelligence in an interview / why people avoid conflict/ how to overcome this obstacle 
[1:02:50] Where we were 30-40 years ago, and the importance of honesty and vulnerability in the interview
[1:10:00] Making the same mistakes, re-learning painful lessons 

[1:12:30] The importance of humility
[1:17:00] Stefania's coaching focus and her tips on when you should get a coach

Questions, comments or feedback?

Email me at misha@carrus.io!