Episodes

  • Episode 9: On do-overs

    Episode 9: On do-overs
    Jun 13 2025
    We’re backkkkkk! Catch up on what we each got up to during our month-long break and how successful we were on our accountability goals (Spoiler: Someone may need to lay hands on Esther at this point). We also took a trip down memory lane and discussed the things we might do differently if we had to go through high school all over again. Enjoy the episode and feel free to share your own thoughts on what you would do differently!

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    1 hr and 15 mins
  • Episode 8: Strictly Platonic? ft. Koj (SubmaRoach)

    Episode 8: Strictly Platonic? ft. Koj (SubmaRoach)
    May 16 2025
    This week, we’re joined by our very first guest, Sayo a.k.a Koj from Submarine and a Roach podcast! Together, we wade into the murky waters of intimacy in mixed gender friendships, asking the age-old question: Can men and women really be just friends? Esther believes proximity and strong boundaries are key to keeping romantic feelings at bay. Sayo gets why some people might raise an eyebrow, and claims that men can’t be trusted. Mofi highlights the constant shadow of romantic suspicion that tends to follow platonic friendships (even in queer spaces) which makes it hard to be close without it being questioned. And Aisha asks: so what if there’s attraction and you act on it? She challenges the binary thinking around intimacy and friendship, emphasising that people should define these connections on their own terms.

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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Episode 7: The Joys and Woes of Living in the Diaspora

    Episode 7: The Joys and Woes of Living in the Diaspora
    May 2 2025
    In this episode, we explore the layered experiences of life in the diaspora. From the transition out of Nigeria to life in Canada and the UK, we unpack what it means to carry your culture with you and how that culture shifts in new environments. We talk about boarding school life post-Nigeria, navigating the clash between Nigerian and Western values, and the unique challenges of raising children with a sense of identity that spans continents. Esther shares why she prioritises her daughter learning French over Yoruba, while Mofi opens up about her deep need to return to Nigeria regularly even when her queer identity complicates that connection. This episode is about reconciling love for home with the realities of building life elsewhere and how we stay connected, even from afar.

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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • Episode 6: Are you settling or compromising?

    Episode 6: Are you settling or compromising?
    Apr 18 2025
    What does it really mean to settle in love, career, or life? In this episode, Aisha, Mofi, and Esther unpack the tricky layers of settling. Aisha wonders if the matter of settling is something we only decide on after-the-fact when we’ve seen how things turn out. Mofi brings in the role of privilege, pointing out how LGBTQ folks often face more limited options and harsher consequences, yet still take bold risks. Esther shares her hard line on never settling in marriage, but acknowledges that in careers, sometimes survival has to come first. We ask: Are we projecting our own values when we judge someone else’s choices? Is settling always a bad thing or could it just be making the best decision with what you’ve got?

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    1 hr and 14 mins
  • Episode 5: Much Ado About Bad Break-Ups

    Episode 5: Much Ado About Bad Break-Ups
    Apr 4 2025
    Breakups can be dramatic and sometimes just plain ridiculous. In this episode, we’re sharing our pettiest and messiest break-up stories, from the final straw that made Mofi swear off men, Esther’s sudden shift from lover girl to her brief experimental phase, and Aisha's never-ending break-up saga (seriously, the timing couldn’t have been worse). Plus, we discuss the songs that get us through heartbreak and play a round of Would You Rather that forces us to make some impossible choices.

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    1 hr and 4 mins
  • Episode 4: On Community & Difficult Decisions

    Episode 4: On Community & Difficult Decisions
    Mar 21 2025
    In this episode, we talk about the realities of adulting and how unsustainable it feels for 3 of us. Aisha shares some unexpected news with us and we give her some advice on a dilemma she’s navigating. Esther is dreaming about how to opt out of the grind of life, and Mofi is struggling to balance everything with the 24 hours we have. We chime into the conversation about community and discuss what we think about the “inconvenience” of it all. Should an element of community building be inconvenience? Join us as we discuss adulting, community and making difficult decisions.

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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • Episode 3: On Past Identities & Present Roles

    Episode 3: On Past Identities & Present Roles
    Mar 7 2025
    In this episode, we share our thoughts on the controversial topic of marrying someone who was once your secondary school teacher—yikes or yay? We then explore some of the complexities of being seen through the lens of our former selves, before discussing how we meet (or don't meet) family expectations.

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    1 hr and 1 min
  • Episode 2: On Roads Not Taken

    Episode 2: On Roads Not Taken
    Feb 21 2025
    In this episode, Esther shares the excitement of landing a new job - but the struggle with time management is real. Mofi takes us back to her teenage years and the moment she had her feminist awakening. And Aisha gets reflective about her PhD journey and the unexpected turns of life. What if we had all the answers? What if we actually figured out balance, purpose, and passion? Join us as we unpack the "what ifs" of career, identity, and growth.

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    1 hr and 12 mins
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