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LOVERS by shan

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 Lovers by Shan is an education-first space where listeners come to better understand their own intimate lives through the life lessons and expertise of others. Shan Boodram’s mission is to empower everyone to be their own intimacy expert in the bedroom and beyond by treating guests of the podcast as educators in their own right.

Past guest include Kelly Rowland who taught us about being a sensualist. Becky G who shared the importance of healthy love in an unhealthy body. Kerry Washington who warned about the dangers of keeping secrets. Kamie Crawford who taught us about the joys of breaking up. Jesse Reyez who reminded us that it's alright to admit you're the one who let a good one get away.

When we paused in 2023 we had 5.1 million listeners and 8 million YouTube views. Excited to see how many lives we can impact in 2025 with our fresh look and approach.All Rights Reserved Hygiene & Healthy Living Relationships Social Sciences
Episodes
  • S2 Ep122: Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan

    S2 Ep122: Go Where you are Celebrated, Not Just Tolerated ft. Kennedy Ryan
    Jun 4 2025
    From fatphobia to racism to ageism and ableism, Kennedy challenges the norms around love, desirability, and who gets to be the “main character.” This one’s for anyone who's ever felt left out of the story — and is ready to take the pen back.

    Bestselling romance author Kennedy Ryan (Before I Let Go, Reel) sits down with Shan to talk about what happens when women stop shrinking themselves to be chosen. From rewriting the stories we’ve inherited about sex, love, and partnership — to questioning why women with standards get labeled as “too much”

    Kennedy opens up about what radical self-worth actually looks like, and why romance should always center women’s pleasure. This episode is a love letter to anyone who’s ever been made to feel like they’re asking for too much. Kennedy shares her love story of being married to Sam for over 20 years while raising their autistic son.

    This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today:
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/community


    Follow Kennedy on Instagram
    https://www.instagram.com/kennedyryan1
    Get her latest book https://kennedyryanwrites.com/


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    51 mins
  • S2 Ep121: Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha

    S2 Ep121: Having the Sex I’d Want My Daughter to Expect with Xosha
    May 28 2025
    What kind of stories do we pass down through the way we love?

    Actor and mom Xosha Roquemore sits down with Shan to talk about sex, self-worth, and how becoming a mother shifted everything. It starts with one question she asked that stopped us both: “Have the kind of sex you’d be proud to tell your daughter about.”

    We talk about the early messages she got about sex, how sexual coercion showed up in her past, and why that experience still needs more language. She shares a fun one-night stand story and how even casual sex can feel good when it comes from choice, not pressure.

    Xosha also talks about single motherhood, not as a hardship, but as a privilege. Being a mom has made her sharper, clearer, and way more intentional about who gets access to her.

    This episode is sponsored by Lovers by Shan. Join the community today!
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/community

    Follow Xosha on socials
    https://www.instagram.com/xoshro/

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    1 hr and 5 mins
  • S2 Ep120: It Doesn’t End With Him - Jessie Woo on Love and Pursuing Great Sex After Sexual Assault

    S2 Ep120: It Doesn’t End With Him - Jessie Woo on Love and Pursuing Great Sex After Sexual Assault
    May 21 2025

    Reclaiming Intimacy: Jessie Woo’s Journey Beyond Trauma. Comedian and media personality Jessie Woo joins Shan for a powerful conversation about healing, love, and rediscovering sexual joy after surviving sexual assault. Jessie shares her painful story of her assault and her joyful story of her relationship with Jay Allen aka Mr Easter.


    Now Jessie is on the path to reclaiming pleasure and building healthy relationships, offering hope and practical insights for anyone on their own journey of recovery. This episode explores the complexities of intimacy after trauma, the importance of self-love, and why your story doesn’t end with someone else’s actions.


    At the end of the episode, trauma expert Jimanekia Eborn joins us to discuss why sexual assault is a community issue plus she give her hot take on the Diddy trial and some people’s harmful comments about Cassie.


    How do you reclaim love and pleasure after trauma? How do you support survivors in your life?


    We discuss these questions PLUS we have a free resource for sexual assault survivors and those navigating grief called The Grief Registry.


    Content Warning:


    This episode discusses sexual assault and trauma. Listener discretion is advised.


    If you or someone you know is a survivor of sexual assault, resources and support are available. Visit RAINN.org or call 800-656-HOPE.


    Thank You Jessie Woo
    https://www.instagram.com/thejessiewoo/
    Jess a Couple Things Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCmu_OLDekKoPr-TgAY8lYIg



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    1 hr and 9 mins
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I love this conversation. John Gotham says after 15 minutes of interacting with a couple, he is able to predict within 90% certainty whether the couple will 1. Stay together 2. Dissolve 3. Stay together HAPPILY. I feel like I am in a relationship similar to that of your parents. It is often "tumultuous" but we are utterly committed. I would love to hear more discussion around this topic. Is commitment enough when there's so much grief along the way, or is it possible for two opposites to transcend from commitment to... mutual balance? I am a long-time follower since early YouTube days, and I talk about your work all the time. Thank you for the thoughtful conversations and research you bring to my life. I love what you do and who you choose to be- often through public and vulnerable example. #respect
P.S. Thank you Bryan and Olivia for your openness and candor!

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I LOVED this episode ! It spoke to me directly as a woman who is learning about CNM and what I personally identify with. This episode (like All episodes in the Lovers and Friends podcast) are EXTREMELY knowledgeable Funny down to earth and MOST importantly to me, a SAFE SPACE. Please anyone who’s interested in sexuality Listen to this Podcast you won’t be disappointed!

CNM or Poly people

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Thank you for this podcast! I love your podcasts soo much. This helped me have a different perspective of the guys I’ve been dating, especially because I’m in my late 20’s and it feels like no guy wants to commit yet won’t leave me alone and I’m like whyyy me lol. makes me realize that sometimes it’s not that deep and it is what it is dating in your 20’s 😂😅

Different Perspective

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Lovers and friends only got on my radar after following Mr/MrsKevOnStage but I am all in!!

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You can tell the team who help make this podcast really enjoy working together. Shan Boodram has put together a unique format and dives into very intriguing conversations with her guests.

5-star

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loved it I listened to it twice. I love learning from shan and appreciate how she makes me feel like I should be talking about everything with my partner.

absolutely amazing

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Everyone of your episodes are so put together, and so thought out well, I don’t know how anyone could beat that!

Love you SHAN

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