MEN - DON’T TRY TO PARTNER WITH A WOMAN WHO DOESN’T NEED YOU!

Men need to be needed.

Men want to be useful.

Men’s esteem is intricately connected to them making themselves into the kind of men who are useful to the people around them. All people — your family, your friends, your bosses and employees, your parents, your brothers, your children, and also your woman.

This need is not some kind of a weakness. It is sane and healthy interdependence. It means you belong to your tribe. You belong to your family. You belong to your loved ones.

Your use to others is how you bond with others.

If you disconnect from this good and healthy need, you will create failure in your life in a multitude of directions:

You will make yourself into the kind of man who is useless to anyone and everyone around you.

This will make you into a loner. Men will not feel much pull to have you as a friend.

Women, most certainly will not be attracted to you.

Nor will you be productive or generative in society.

Nor will you be able to generate value and money and wealth.

The healthy esteem of a man is contextual. We build our value in the context of how we are connecting and what we are providing to the people in our tribe.

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Your connection with your woman is no exception to this. In fact, a thriving connection to your woman ought to be the centerpiece of your usefulness, your competence and your contribution.

Your woman should pick you because you are tremendously useful to her.

She should pick you because her life is better with you than without you.

She should pick you because you are able to bring riches into her life that she cannot bring into her own life.

If all that is in place, she will look up to you if she is a gracious and balanced woman. She will acknowledge the contribution you are making to her life. She will acknowledge how valuable you are to her. This acknowledgment is an integral part of her respect for you.

You should earn this respect. You should aim to inspire this respect in her.

If you are failing to inspire this respect in a particular woman, proceed no further with her.

If you are failing to inspire this respect in all women, you need to look at your own life and do better. Build a fuller and richer life to invite a woman into. Make yourself more useful to others, including women.

If you are proud of who you are and the life you are leading, then, when you are with a particular woman who acts as if you are brining nothing special into her life, move on; that’s not your woman.

If you stumble upon a woman who on principle declares, ‘I don’t need no man’, please keep moving. You don’t need to take offense at her stance. You don’t need to argue with her. Please don’t try to change her mind.

Rest in your inner wisdom and self-knowledge that you need to be with a woman who needs you, who admires you for what you bring to her, because she can’t bring those aspects to her own life. You need to be with a woman who respects you for your strengths, abilities and your contributions to her life.

Any and all women who fall out of this important parameter, please move away from those women. Don’t try to partner with them. Even if they are making advances for partnership towards you while in this attitude, do not start a relationship with them.

The vast majority of women in the world today are stuck in their GIRLFRIEND archetype and in their MODERN WOMAN archetype. Both of these energetic configurations are shadowy energies tha

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