In this episode, we dive into one of the most delicate yet essential discussions families need to have: aging and finances. It’s not just about planning for the future—it’s about ensuring clarity and peace of mind for everyone involved. Many parents assume their children are only interested in their inheritance, while adult children are more focused on logistics—whether their parents are financially secure, who will make decisions, and what kind of support will be needed.

At the same time, adult children often think their parents only want to talk about maintaining independence or that they’re unwilling to discuss financial matters. In reality, many parents want to share their wishes but struggle with how much detail to provide. Some are hesitant because they fear their preferences may be ignored or overridden. Others want to pass on their financial values, ensuring their wealth is used to support family members or causes they care about.

The key to bridging these communication gaps is to approach the conversation with curiosity rather than control. Keeping discussions casual and starting with shared goals—like ensuring the family is prepared—can help ease tension. If starting the conversation feels awkward, using a real-life example (or even a made-up one) can make it more natural. A financial professional can also be a valuable resource in facilitating these discussions, helping to clarify complex topics like estate planning and long-term care preferences. Amy explains how this might work.

A structured yet informal family meeting with a financial advisor can ensure that everyone understands the financial landscape, responsibilities, and expectations. Whether it’s deciding who will handle the bills, managing digital assets, or simply settling who gets a sentimental ceramic cat, these discussions help eliminate surprises and prevent misunderstandings down the road.

The bottom line: these conversations don’t have to be overwhelming. By starting small, approaching with curiosity, and focusing on shared goals, families can navigate aging and financial planning with confidence. And if it all feels too daunting, professionals like Amy Walls at Thimbleberry Financial are available to help guide the process.

To get in touch with Amy and her team at Thimbleberry Financial, call 503-610-6510 or visit thimbleberryfinancial.com.