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Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey

Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey

By: Lisa Harper
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Helping to change the conversations we have with our loved ones about aging and life decisions. Each episode contains information to help you and your family work through the "not ready yet" conversation of aging.

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Episodes
  • Interview with Michael Pankow, CEO of Veterans Mortgage of America (Part One)
    Jun 17 2025

    In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper speaks with Michael Pankow, a seasoned mortgage professional, about reverse mortgages. The conversation aims to demystify reverse mortgages and encourage proactive financial planning for aging individuals and their families. They discuss the fundamentals of reverse mortgages, including eligibility, benefits, and common misconceptions. Michael emphasizes the consumer protections in place, the importance of planning ahead, and the options available for heirs.

    Takeaways

    • A reverse mortgage is a non-recourse loan, meaning borrowers will never owe more than the home's value.
    • Reverse mortgages can help cover home modifications and in-home care costs.
    • A reverse mortgage allows seniors to tap into home equity tax-free.
    • Eligibility for a reverse mortgage requires being 62 or older and living in the home.
    • HUD counseling is a requirement to ensure understanding and prevent elder abuse.
    • Consumer protections are in place to safeguard seniors and their heirs.
    • Heirs have multiple options when the borrower passes or moves into care.
    • The timing of obtaining a reverse mortgage can be crucial for financial security.
    • Many misconceptions about reverse mortgages stem from outdated information.
    • Proactive planning can prevent financial distress in later years.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Reverse Mortgages
    08:18 Myths vs. Facts about Reverse Mortgages
    13:14 Using Reverse Mortgages for Home Modifications
    17:33 The Financial Benefits of Reverse Mortgages
    26:35 Understanding Reverse Mortgages and Common Misconceptions
    30:01 Financial Assessments and Eligibility for Reverse Mortgages
    34:26 The Importance of Timing and Proactive Planning
    38:31 Empowering Families: Conversations About Future Planning

    Connect with Michael

    Michael Pankow, CEO
    NMLS# 220611

    Veterans Mortgage of America
    Licensed in all 50 States
    Company NMLS #407536

    916.296.7765 Cell

    Email: michaelpankow@veteransmoa.com
    Web: veteransmortgageofamerica.com

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    43 mins
  • Interview with Amy Cameron O'Rourke, Author of The Fragile Years: Proven Strategies for the Care of Aging Loved Ones
    Jun 3 2025

    In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper engages with aging expert Amy Cameron O'Rourke to discuss the complexities of caring for aging loved ones. They explore the concept of the 'fragile years,' characterized by a decline in physical and cognitive abilities, and the importance of recognizing signs of this stage. The conversation emphasizes the need for open communication, understanding grief, and navigating the healthcare system effectively. Amy shares insights on assisted living, home care, and the financial considerations involved in caregiving. The episode concludes with a focus on the importance of preparedness and having difficult conversations about aging and end-of-life wishes.

    Takeaways

    The 'fragile years' refer to a life stage where older adults experience a decline in physical and cognitive abilities.
    Recognizing signs of slowing down is crucial for effective caregiving.
    Listening and asking specific questions can help gauge an aging loved one's needs.
    Grief is a natural part of the aging process for both the elderly and their familes.
    Communication should be framed as a partnership rather than a role reversal.
    Understanding the healthcare system is essential for navigating medical challenges in aging.
    Assisted living facilities often operate under a social model rather than a medical one.
    Financial discussions about care options are vital and should happen early.
    Home care and home health services differ significantly in terms of coverage and care provided.
    Being proactive in planning for emergencies can ease the burden on families.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Aging Conversations
    01:19 Understanding the Fragile Years
    04:47 Identifying Signs of Decline
    07:40 Navigating Grief and Acceptance
    10:08 The Importance of Communication
    13:04 Medical Challenges in Aging
    16:56 Understanding Assisted Living vs. Home Care
    22:39 Financial Considerations in Care
    24:49 Multi-Generational Living Solutions
    27:48 The Role of Care Managers
    31:43 Preparing for Emergencies
    36:00 The Importance of Proactive Conversations
    40:44 Finding Peace in the Aging Process

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    43 mins
  • Interview with Janet Engel, Expert in Aging in Place and Occupational Therapy
    May 20 2025

    In this episode of Not Ready Yet: Curating Conversations for the Aging Journey, Lisa Harper speaks with Janet Engel, an expert in Aging in Place and Occupational Therapy. They discuss the importance of home safety modifications, the role of technology in enhancing independence for seniors, and practical tips for families to support their aging loved ones. Janet shares insights on fall prevention, the significance of lighting, and essential home modifications like zero-step entrances. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in addressing the challenges faced by older adults as they navigate aging.

    Takeaways

    Aging in Place begins at age 40, as vision starts to deteriorate.
    Falls are the leading cause of injury and death among older adults.
    Increasing lighting in the home can significantly reduce fall risks.
    Smart home devices like Alexa can enhance safety and independence.
    Creating a zero-step entrance is crucial for Aging in Place.
    Occupational therapy focuses on helping individuals maintain independence in daily activities.
    Bathroom safety modifications are essential for seniors.
    Temperature regulation is important for older adults' comfort and safety.
    Leg strength is a key determinant of quality of life as we age.
    Preventing falls can greatly improve the quality of life for seniors.

    Chapters

    00:00 Introduction to Aging Conversations
    01:10 Janet Engel's Journey in Aging and Home Safety
    02:41 Understanding Occupational Therapy
    03:55 The Importance of Fall Prevention
    05:07 Lighting Solutions for Aging in Place
    07:21 The Role of Technology in Aging
    09:34 Home Modifications for Safety
    14:27 Bathroom and Kitchen Safety Considerations
    19:16 The Importance of Leg Strength
    24:42 Creating Zero-Step Entrances
    29:37 The Not Ready Yet Conundrum

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    35 mins
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