#204. Violet Witchel, aka the Dense Bean Salad Girl (my fav), earned a degree in economics and swam competitively in college—then walked away from it all for culinary school. What began as a single recipe turned into a viral movement and a nationwide pop-up series. In this episode, we talk about the courage it takes to choose a different life, how to follow an idea that makes no sense on paper, and what reinvention really looks like. For anyone questioning the plan they thought they had to follow—this one’s for you.

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#203. Is your relationship just going through a rough patch — or is it time to walk away? This week, I’m joined by relationship therapist and author Laura Caruso (The Empathy Deficit) for a candid conversation about love, conflict, and compatibility. We talk about how she dates as a therapist, what really happens in couples therapy, and how she personally handled a recent breakup. Laura breaks down the difference between healthy conflict and chronic struggle, and shares tools for navigating relationships where one partner is anxious and the other is avoidant. Whether you're single, dating, or deep in a long-term relationship, this episode is full of real talk and insight. We also touch on repair vs. rupture, attachment styles, and how to know if it’s worth working through.

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#202. In this solo episode, I’m breaking down everything I’ve learned from 10 years of creating content online — from blogging in 2016 to building a six-figure brand today. Whether your goal is to become a full-time influencer or just earn some extra income on the side, this episode is your permission slip to start. We’ll talk pivots, sustainable growth, the real ways people make money online (even with a small audience), and why you don’t need to be famous to build something powerful. If you’ve ever thought “I could do that…” — you can. Here’s how.

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