That Hoarder: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding

By: That Hoarder
  • Summary

  • Hoarding disorder is stigmatised and people who hoard feel vast amounts of shame. This podcast began life as an audio diary, an anonymous outlet for somebody with this weird condition. That Hoarder speaks about her experiences living with compulsive hoarding, she interviews therapists, academics, researchers, children of hoarders, professional organisers and influencers, and she shares insight and tips for others with the problem. Listened to by people who hoard as well as those who love them and those who work with them, Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder aims to shatter the stigma, share the truth and speak openly and honestly to improve lives.
    © 2023 Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with @ThatHoarder
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  • REMIX: The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding
    Apr 4 2025

    Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket

    Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe

    Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/

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    40 mins
  • #182 What are "towards and away moves" and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall
    Mar 28 2025
    • Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket
    • Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe
    • Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/

    Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices.

    • Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves
    • Definition and explanation of the concept.
    • The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder.
    • Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions.
    • Examples in a Hoarding Context
    • Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos).
    • Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues).
    • Explanation of how values influence these moves.
    • Role of Values in Decision Making
    • Importance of determining personal values.
    • How values affect choices and provide motivation.
    • Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values.
    • Cognitive Fusion
    • Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion.
    • The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions.
    • Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts.
    • Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism
    • Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations.
    • The struggle between personal values and societal pressures.
    • The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance.
    • Recognising Towards and Away Moves
    • Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves.
    • Importance of awareness in decision-making processes.
    • Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning
    • The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation.
    • Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning.
    • How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours.
    • Making Changes and Addressing Moves
    • Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves.
    • Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes.
    • Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions.
    • Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves
    • Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification.
    • Challenges faced by individuals with attentional deficits.
    • Votes for the Person You Want to Be
    • Connection between choices and self-identity.
    • Concept of actions as votes for future selves.
    • First Steps to Take More Towards Moves
    • Starting with value clarification exercises.
    • Questions to help determine what’s important personally.
    • Encouragement to explore inner motivations and experiences.
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    45 mins
  • #181 Past influences and future possibilities: cause and effect and hoarding disorder (plus Podcasthon)
    Mar 21 2025
    • Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket
    • Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe
    • Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/
    • Podcasthon
    • Mind, the mental health charity
    • Support Mind

    During a recent drive with a perfectly curated playlist, I had a revelation about cause and effect, particularly how our past behaviours and experiences contribute to both our challenges and our successes. I talk about having a compassionate understanding of how we've arrived at our current situation and how small, mindful actions today can shape a more positive future. The episode also features a discussion on Podcasthon and highlights the UK mental health charity Mind.

    • Explanation of Podcasthon: A week where podcasts highlight a charity.
    • Mind Charity: Focus on the mental health charity Mind in the UK.
    • Audio Clip: Sharing a video of Mind's work, with a translation of a Welsh sentence.
    • Cause and Effect Discussion
    • Insight through Music: Personal anecdote about creating a playlist for a long drive.
    • The role of personal actions in positive outcomes.
    • Life and Hoarding: Exploring causes of both positive and negative outcomes in life.
    • Factors influencing hoarding: Trauma, scarcity, and mental health challenges.
    • Behaviour evolution: Hoarding behaviours becoming normal over time.
    • Impact of Life Experiences
    • Examining past experiences and their contributions to current behaviours.
    • Considering past without judgment as a way to understand hoarding.
    • Facing Reality
    • Objective Assessment: Evaluating the current state of living conditions.
    • Navigating feelings like anger, sadness, and bitterness.
    • Future Implications
    • Positive Actions: How they can shape a better future.
    • Accountability and Responsibility: Recognising the impact of present actions.
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    30 mins

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Enjoying your podcast very much.

It is better to do this together. My biggest issue is giving away things that has something to do with my kids. My thinking: ‘I think maybe my sister could use this with her kids if she will ever have any down the road…oh I love this my son played so much with this!’ Or ‘ I could sell this.. this was so expensive!!’….just sad!.. I need you… Thank you!

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Could not do this alone

My partner of 5 years left me, partly because of my hoarding and partly for other ptsd and ocd related difficulties. I fell into a pit of despair and shame and felt so alone. It catalyzed my taking in the hoard. It’s been deeply disheartening, alienating, and just so heavy. I found this podcast and for the first time in my struggle I feel so seen ❤️‍🩹 she has such a deep self awareness and brought to my art the weight of the emotional and psychological aspects of hoarding. I’ve made so much progress and when I get stuck or my roommate launches me into a downward spiral of negative self talk by refusing to see the progress I go to this podcast.

I’m almost at the point of self acceptance that I’m considering speaking out about it on social media and extending my hand to anyone else in my community who fights this secret battle. It’s been so hard to feel like I can’t talk to anyone about it or ask for help and if I ever get through this I want so badly to help others as this woman has helped me.

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Informative, compassionate, and proactive.

This is such a fantastic podcast. I appreciate the compassion, humor, reflection, the topics and proactive outlook. The presentation is so well organized and so helpful. It's just so refreshing to hear representation by someone who experiences the disorder rather than being the passive subject of others scrutiny and analysis. This podcast is exactly the kind of dialogue that is needed to destigmatize hoarding disorder.

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