In this episode, we sit down with the thoughtful and deeply grounded Rob Kowalski, an eighth-grade humanities teacher at Parish Middle School in Dallas, Texas. Rob shares his journey through education—from growing up in New Jersey and being shaped by powerful mentors to becoming the kind of teacher who helps students feel seen, safe, and inspired, even during the challenges of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Rob talks about why relationships—not just academics—are at the center of his teaching philosophy. He opens up about the importance of vulnerability, the role of curiosity in learning, and why he believes education should evolve to better reflect the needs of today’s students. His reflections are honest, practical, and full of heart.

Whether you're an educator, a parent, or someone who cares about how kids grow and thrive, this conversation offers meaningful insights into what it looks like to lead with connection and purpose.

💥 Impactful Takeaways:

• Relationships come first—students learn best when they feel seen, safe, and valued.
• Vulnerability is a strength—modeling it invites students to do the same.
• Curiosity is a nervous system tool—it calms, connects, and fuels learning.
• Education needs a redesign—shorter days, real-world skills, and more joy.
• Middle schoolers are navigating high-stakes emotions—teachers must meet them there.
• Don’t coast—students deserve educators who keep evolving and asking, “How can we do better?”

00:00 “Let’s Keep Asking Questions” – Opening Quote
00:45 Welcome to Oxygen for Educators
01:09 Introducing Rob Kowalski
02:35 Rob’s Impact on Sophia During COVID
04:00 Rob’s First Year at Parish and Teaching in a Pandemic
06:00 Building Connection Through a Screen
07:45 Why Rob Became a Teacher
10:19 The Petty School Experience and Early Influences
13:15 Career Journey: From Boston to Dallas
14:50 Teaching, Coaching, and Being a Stay-at-Home Dad
17:06 Returning to the Classroom with Purpose
19:29 Why Content Isn’t the Point—Relationships Are
20:55 Teaching Relevance in a TikTok World
22:55 Vulnerability and the Courage to Evolve
23:55 The Challenge of Making History Feel Real
25:57 Understanding the Stakes for Middle Schoolers
28:03 Using AI and Tech to Stay Relevant
29:47 Designing a Better School Model
31:03 What School Could Look Like in 2025
33:01 Real-World Skills, Curiosity, and Joy
35:04 Rethinking Curriculum and Student Fit
38:15 Cherishing Childhood and Slowing Down
40:59 Practical Shifts Educators Can Make
42:23 Taking Pressure Off Students
44:09 Fit Over Prestige in School Choices
46:06 Creating Space for Wonder and Balance
48:23 The Many Hats of a Teacher
50:11 Empathy for the Middle School Experience
52:30 Grace, Humor, and the Joy of Teaching
56:13 Reflections on Mistakes and Growth
58:01 COVID, Connection, and What We Learned
59:24 The Return to Normal and What We Missed
01:00:07 Advice for New Educators: Build Relationships
01:01:34 Finding Your Tribe and Belonging
01:03:03 What Students Remember Most
01:04:04 Rob’s Family and the Empty Nest Ahead
01:04:51 Final Reflections and Gratitude
01:05:35 Hosts Reflect on Rob’s Wisdom and Joy

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SUMMARY

In this episode, we sit down with the wise and wonderful Dr. Laura Lockhart to talk about something every educator wrestles with—how we show up for ourselves and others when things get hard.

From the way we talk to ourselves, to understanding our triggers, to breathing through stressful moments, Dr. Lockhart brings so much heart and practical wisdom. We explore how self-awareness and self-compassion can shift everything—from how we manage conflict to how we connect with students (and ourselves).

She shares powerful takeaways from her journey and research, like why overusing your strengths can actually burn you out, how delaying your response can improve outcomes, and why relationships are the true heartbeat of education.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in fight-or-flight or been your own harshest critic (hi, educators 👋), this conversation will breathe life back into your day.

• Talk to yourself like you would to a friend—because self-compassion is key to your well-being.

• Breathe to remind your nervous system you're safe—it’s a powerful tool we often overlook.

• Know your triggers—you can’t manage what you don’t understand.

• Overusing your strengths leads to depletion—balance is essential.

• Strong relationships are the nucleus of proactive conflict management—connection comes first.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Self-Talk and Compassion
03:08 Introduction to Dr. Laura Lockhart
06:05 Dr. Lockhart's Educational Journey
09:06 The Importance of Relationships in Education
12:06 Proactive Conflict Management
14:54 Self-Awareness and Well-Being
17:55 Dissertation Insights on Conflict Management
20:47 Understanding Triggers and Hot Buttons
24:12 Constructive vs. Destructive Behaviors
27:11 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion
29:47 Mindfulness Techniques for Educators
47:55 The Power of Breath and Nervous System Regulation
51:03 Understanding Triggers and Responses
52:11 The Importance of Community in Learning
55:30 Navigating Struggles Together
57:02 Strategies for Self-Awareness and Conflict Resolution
01:01:30 The Role of Self-Compassion in Education
01:03:59 Reflections on Strengths and Depletion
01:08:59 The Centrality of Relationships
01:13:55 Delaying Responses and Mindful Interactions

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SUMMARY:

In this conversation, Brent shares his journey from ministry to education philanthropy, offering deep insight into the role of love, community, and collaboration in transforming education. Set against the backdrop of Fort Worth’s innovative philanthropic efforts, the discussion explores how addressing both social needs and academic performance is essential for student success.

The episode sheds light on the realities educators face in today’s political climate, the emotional toll of social media, and the urgent need for community support and authentic connection in schools. Brent and the hosts highlight the power of high expectations, equity, and pronoia—the belief that the world is conspiring for good—to reshape the narrative in education. Through stories and insights, they call for a collective responsibility to support educators and ensure every child is seen, supported, and given the chance to thrive.

TAKEAWYS:

• “Love is such an essential ingredient in the mix.” True educational impact starts with love—for students, for the work, and for one another.

• “We don’t have to choose between those.” Social needs and academic performance are not competing priorities—they must be addressed together.

• “The world is conspiring for you.” In a time of uncertainty, embracing pronoia can help educators and students stay grounded in hope.

• “It's borderline criminalized to even talk about it.” Navigating today’s political climate requires courage and a commitment to honest conversations about student needs.

• “There’s a community out there that values your work.” Educators are not alone—when communities come together, lasting change is possible.

CHAPTERS

00:00 The Power of Love in Education
03:54 Brent's Journey into Education Philanthropy
06:51 Understanding the Role of Philanthropy in Education
11:30 Bridging the Gap: Philanthropy and Educators
19:10 Collaborative Approaches in Philanthropy
26:10 The Importance of Academic Performance and Social Needs
32:22 Integrating Love into Education
38:27 Expectations and Bias in Education
39:48 Navigating Expectations and Curiosity
40:45 The Impact of Social Media on Personal Well-being
48:11 Challenges in the Education System
54:18 Focusing on Kids Amidst Political Turmoil

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