Episodes

  • Hurt People Hurt People Part 2
    Nov 13 2024

    Healing Begins with Accountability

    Here’s the thing: healing is an inside job. And the first step for someone who’s hurting is to take responsibility. It’s easy to say, “I’m like this because of my past,” but it’s much harder—and way more empowering—to say, “I’m choosing to break this cycle.” Taking accountability doesn’t mean blaming oneself for the hurt they’ve experienced; it’s about recognizing that they don’t have to carry it forward.

    People who are hurting need to give themselves permission to unpack that backpack of pain. Whether it’s through therapy, self-reflection, or just the honest work of facing their wounds, healing takes courage. It’s not a quick fix, and it’s often messy, but each small step chips away at the walls they’ve built.

    Breaking the Cycle

    When hurt people choose to break the cycle, they not only free themselves but also those around them. They learn to trust again, to communicate without hidden barbs, and to love without conditions. It’s a journey, sure, but one that brings real freedom. Imagine going from a place of constant self-protection to actually connecting with others, to letting their guard down and embracing genuine intimacy.

    For those on the receiving end of someone’s unresolved pain, setting boundaries is key. You can’t heal someone else, but you can choose not to absorb their hurt. It’s okay to say, “I love you, but I won’t allow your hurt to hurt me.” Boundaries give everyone space to breathe, to heal in their own time, and to build relationships on mutual respect rather than shared wounds.

    A Reminder of Empathy

    Ultimately, understanding that hurt people hurt people can make us all a bit more empathetic. This doesn’t mean excusing bad behavior or allowing mistreatment. But it helps to remember that sometimes, when people lash out, they’re dealing with more than what’s on the surface. There’s a lot of hurt behind that reaction, a story that’s often complicated, messy, and unresolved.

    And here’s a little silver lining: knowing that someone else’s pain might be causing their behavior helps us to approach them with compassion. Sometimes, kindness can be the first step in helping them see a different path, one where healing is possible.

    In the End, Healing is Worth It

    In a world where we’re all a bit bruised and battered, choosing to break the cycle is a radical act of love. It’s saying, “I’ve been hurt, but I won’t let that define how I treat others.” When hurt people decide to heal, they reclaim their power. They no longer have to live reactively, spreading the pain they once endured. Instead, they can live with purpose, compassion, and openness.

    So, the next time you encounter someone who’s lashing out, remember that there’s a story there—a story that may be full of hurt, but also one with the potential for healing. And maybe, just maybe, we can all be a little gentler with each other as we navigate our individual journeys, carrying our pasts but not letting them dictate our futures.

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    11 mins
  • Hurt People Hurt People Part 1
    Nov 12 2024

    Hurt People Hurt People: The Ripple Effect of Pain

    Alright, picture this: you’re at a party, having a good time, maybe even chatting with someone who seems cool. But suddenly, someone comes along, says something unnecessarily harsh, or perhaps even starts a bit of drama out of nowhere. You’re left wondering, “Why did they do that? What’s going on?”

    We’ve all had these moments—when someone’s actions sting nd the sting doesn’t quite make sense. That’s where the concept of “hurt people hurt people” comes in. Let’s dive into why people who’ve been through pain sometimes spread it around like confetti (except, not the fun kind). So grab a coffee, get cozy, and maybe wear a little armor, because this ride goes through some real-life rough patches.

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    14 mins
  • Why Marriages are Crumbling?
    Aug 21 2023
    Since past years, we have seen a huge rise of divorces particularly in Asian communities. In Asian communities, divorces are shunned upon & marraiges are a community event. Now the outlook is changing but still the stigma still exists especially for a woman. Even in the west, being divorced is still look down upon. This short podcast, we will discuss what is causing this sudden increase of divorces. Please connect with me on Instagram- Pdeistyping, to add your viewpoint & If you want to feature on my Podcast. Untill next time, remember your mind is beautiful & you are you, say it back !
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    12 mins
  • Letting Go is a Gift
    Aug 19 2023
    Letting go of someone you loved is a Gift you give yourself. When you have given your 101% to a relationship- be it love or a friend you had for a long time like a bestie even since childhood or toxic relatives & sadly in some people cases, even a parent. Everyone of us have a sad story to tell, will you be the Hero or a Forgotten one ? Will you have any regret when you are 60 ? Will you smile to yourself on your death bed ? ARE YOU THE HERO OF YOUR LIFE ? LET GO .... STEP INTO YOUR POWER
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    18 mins
  • Broken Heart Verses- Lying Outfits
    Aug 12 2023
    We all have a real life filter on - We are someone for the whole world to see & at home alone - we are a whole different being. We always hide out insecurities, I know I do too. We have to be filtered version in real world else mental asylums will run amok ! I would love that though 😂 anyways, I hope you enjoy this episode. Connect with me on instagram! Send me a voice note babies.
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    29 mins
  • Broken Heart Verses - The Hermit Hierophant
    Aug 8 2023
    I read out my book & explain the meaning behind the words. Some people say "oh your book is about heartbreak but i never been in love" ... really ? You dint have your heartbroken when a friend ditched you? You dint have a heart broken when a parent said something bad to you? My book deals with all those mental trauma. I had been through a major life changing hurt which I have overcome. I stand on the other side to cheer you on... on your healing journey.
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    20 mins
  • Of Online Trolls, Ogres & Dementors
    Aug 5 2023
    Why People Together People
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    26 mins
  • Say Hello to My Brain & Me
    Aug 4 2023

    I have a book out, have a look on amazon with my name.

    Let's navigate our mental health without the stigma & without judgements.


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    3 mins