Episodes

  • Double Prescience about Controlling Chock & Rascal Pascal | Recap of Season Finale ep.s (x3) | Golden Bachelorette
    Nov 21 2024

    Dr.s Kay & Ray begin by checking in about their responses (and self-care) in the wake of the election, before they recap ep.s 7-9--both parts of the season finale & The Men Tell All--of the inaugural Golden Bachelorette season.

    Dr. Kay has been consistently concerned with Chock’s crassly controlling & “chocky” comportment, concern that continues through the comprehensive collective of crowning chapters. Dr. Ray pulled out of primordial, patriarchal, precognition that Pascal may prefer pre-60s (pre-50s?) for his primary partners.

    A little, alliteration, as you’ll allow… :)

    Dr.s Kay & Ray explore their 8 psychology-focused segments while recapping the Golden Bachelorette finale episodes, including what they imagine producers would do differently, if they were psychologists, and the fact there is NO mention of therapy (??) despite this group being perfectly suited to grief work and self-exploration (among other clinical activities). Although cohort effects suggest these castmates are not as comfortable discussing or attending therapy as the generations that follow, that makes it all the more powerful for the Bachelor franchise to normalize seeking therapy--particularly as they waded through so many psychologically-painful, traumatic themes this season.

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 42 mins
  • Repair, Whole-Object Thinking, & White-Presenting Privilege (bonus: Election!) | Award Show | Week of 11/4
    Nov 12 2024

    The Award Show is BACK, baby! After a few weeks of strictly recap episodes, Dr.s Kay & Ray bring back their realiTV awards! They review any and all of the reality TV they watched over the past few weeks, awarding moments and/or castmates with the same 6 awards (all with “test” in their titles)! The topics in the title came up in these episodes of reality television, providing us with fodder for accessible application of our understanding of them to funny and/or problematic interactions and representations.

    Dr.s Kay & Ray also discuss their emotions, thoughts, and self-care suggestions associated with the election last Tuesday for their check-ins portion at the beginning of the episode. Should you be happy with the outcome of the election, feel free to fast forward through the check-ins to about 20mins in.

    And the TESTosterboned (most patriarchal) award gooooes to… whom? Or, what? Hint: there seems to be a theme with the men in D.C.…

    What about the opposite award, the Bechdel TEST (most feminist)? Or the TESTimonial award (best confessional)? To which moments or whom did the remaining 4 awards go? To whom would you want them to go?

    Check out the episode to compare their choices to your own!

    This week, awards went to moments & castmates from the latest seasons of Love is Blind, Selling Sunset, Real Housewives of New York City, Real Housewives of Salt Lake City, and Golden Bachelorette, as well as past seasons of The Traitors and Summer House.

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    And Happy Birthday to our sound extraordinaire, Conner!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 26 mins
  • Misogyny & Victim-Blaming on the Reunion | Part 3 Recap of Love is Blind Season 7
    Nov 5 2024

    Dr.s Kay & Ray recap episodes 12-13, reviewing the weddings and the reunion of season 7 of Love is Blind. Tim saying, “Y’all want men to take you seriously and then act like this” (as if women don’t, at baseline, deserve to be treated equally), Nick Lachey telling Marissa not to date men who think her energy is too much (as if it were her fault that Ramses thought she was too much), Vanessa Lachey asking Monica if Steven’s cheating was a red flag (as if she should’ve known better than to date him, if she didn’t want him to do what he ends up doing), and all of the castmates repeatedly naming the cruel things Nick said about Hannah (while trying to get Nick to admit he said them, when there are other ways to hold him accountable) are just SOME of the problematic, victim-blaming & sexist statements that were made on the reunion.

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 12 mins
  • Consent matters even in romantic relationships! | Part 2 Recap of Love is Blind Season 7
    Nov 1 2024

    Dr.s Kay & Ray recap episodes 7-11 of season 7 of Love is Blind, integrating the rest of their six psychology-focused segments, such as “something we thought people would be discussing the next day, but weren’t” or “a psychology concept we wish more people knew about.”

    Next week, Dr.s Kay & Ray will cover the weddings and reunion before returning to an awards show episode!

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • Aggressive Hands, False Liberal Advertising & Anti-Black Racism | Recap of Love is Blind Season 7
    Oct 28 2024

    Dr.s Kay & Ray recap episodes 1-6 of season 7 of Love is Blind, after a brief update about yet ANOTHER Bachelor nation castmate who should have been weeded out in the casting process and yet remains in episodes that continue to currently air. Across this and the following podcast episode, Dr.s Kay & Ray incorporate the six psychology-focused segments, such as what sociopolitical topics arose in the episodes and what they would say to a client with a presenting concern that app. For example, they explore Leo’s use of power and control in his communication with others, as well as the microaggressions in Taylor and Garrett’s discussion about her ethnicity, referencing internalized racism, Anti-Black racism, and the model minority myth.

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 17 mins
  • Power Dynamics, Parent Shaming, & Girl Moms | Recap of ep.s 3-5 of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City
    Oct 26 2024

    Dr. Kay recaps the third, fourth, and fifth episodes of the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City season 15, incorporating the six psychology-focused segments. Segments include something Dr. Kay wishes more people knew about, and something Dr. Kay wanted to expand upon that they had mentioned in a previous podcast episode.

    Dr. Kay explores the many repair plotlines and rupture plotlines abounding, thus far, this season! She also addresses the lateral aggression between the NewBies.

    And, because Dr. Kay is solo podding while Dr. Ray is away for work, Dr. Kay's husband joined again for a game of "Would you Rather?"

    Wouldn't you rather join us as we attempt to reality test?

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 3 mins
  • Patriarchal Marriages, Bat Mitzvahs, & the two New B’s (newbies)! | Recap of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City Ep.s1-2
    Oct 21 2024

    Dr. Kay recaps the premiere episodes of season 5 of Real Housewives of Salt Lake City (RHOSLC). Across this and the following podcast episode, Dr. Kay incorporates the six psychology-focused segments, such as what sociopolitical topics arose in the episodes and what Dr. Kay would say to a client with a presenting concern that appears in the episodes.

    For example, Dr. Kay discusses Heather’s Ozempic journey and Meredith’s religious goals as sociopolitical topics, as well as what types of conversations might be helpful for the two New B’s (newbies!), were they to seek psychotherapy with Dr. Kay.

    Ever wonder what your therapist might say if they watched The Real Housewives franchises? Check it out!

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.


    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    53 mins
  • Boundaries, Rupture/Repair, and Use of Humor to Air Grievances | Real Housewives of NYC, Ep.2
    Oct 16 2024

    Dr.s Kay & Ray recap the second episode of the Real Housewives of New York, incorporating their six segments. Segments include something they wish more people knew about, and something people didn’t talk about the next day, despite Dr.s Kay & Ray thinking they would.

    What did you think about the Brynn-Erin repair conversation?

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    Reality testing is when we check an emotion or thought we’re having against objective reality.

    So, here in Reality Test, we’re going to be testing the thoughts, emotions, interactions, and producer antics of reality television against what we know, as licensed psychologists, about objective reality.

    Come Reality Test with us!

    Hosts: Dr. Kay & Dr. Ray
    Thank you to our sound extraordinaire, Connor!

    Instagram: @drkaypods @drraypods
    TikTok: @dr.realitv
    Facebook Page: Reality Test Pod
    YouTube Channel:
    @RealityTestPod
    Email:
    realitycheckpodding@gmail.com

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    42 mins