In this weekly Sex and Intimacy Q&A, Dr. Rob Weiss and Tami answer participant questions about sex, intimacy, addiction, betrayal, and more. They offer resources for therapeutic separation, communication at every stage of recovery and reconciliation, and tools for practicing empathy with betrayed partners.

TAKEAWAYS:

[:24] Does my partner need to see a psychoanalyst first to get honest about his past?

[4:28] What resources are available for communication building in the later stages of recovery and reconciliation?

[9:17] How can I work to regain trust after recent relapses?

[13:35] How do I start the amends process with my betrayed spouse?

[17:43] Why do betrayers have to go to Porn Addiction 101 through Seeking Integrity?

[22:10] How can I handle my ex’s new girlfriend joining the family?

[24:30] What does loving detachment really look like?

[30:51] Can addicts and their partners heal outside the therapeutic setting?

[34:20] What is the correlation between sex addiction and OCD?

[36:41] How can I feel safe even though I have forgiven my partner?

[41:05] What tools can an addict use to practice empathy with their partner?

[42:25] What resources are available to get CSAT couples on the same page regarding key terms?

[47:00] My partner’s blameshifting and defensiveness is escalating in therapeutic separation, what should I do next?

RESOURCES:

Seekingintegrity.com

Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com

Sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Intherooms.com

Out of the Doghouse: A Step-by-Step Relationship-Saving Guide for Men Caught Cheating, by Robert Weiss

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency, by Robert Weiss

Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction, by Robert Weiss

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men, by Robert Weiss

Seeking Integrity Podcasts are produced in partnership with Podfly Productions.

QUOTES

• “Stop the problematic behavior first, then address the underlying issues.”

• “I’m never in the later stages of recovery. Recovery is something I will do for my whole life.”

• “Your living amends happens when you act differently.”

• “If the worst thing happens, what are you going to do to take care of you?”