If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m not addicted… I just use it to relax,” that's a sign you might want to listen to this episode...

Most men don’t realize what porn is actually costing them… until it’s already showing up in their sex life, motivation, or relationships.

Today I'm joined by porn addiction recovery coach Jeremy Lipkowitz - to explore how porn use (even when it seems “normal”) might be quietly draining your vitality, confidence, sexual performance and your connection to what really matters... AND to help you identify whether or not you have a problematic and/or addictive relationship with porn...

In this episode you'll hear personal stories from both of us... (we were both addicted), you'll get new ways to think about sex and arousal, and you'll get practical tools you can start using today - to transform any behavior you want INTO a healthy choice that supports the life you want to live.

To be very clear: this conversation is NOT going to shame you or guilt trip you - it's here to help us men navigate one of the most alluring and destructive forces on the planet (porn). For that, we need awareness, compassion, discernment and strength.

Thanks for being here. Let's get into it!

-Taylor

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WORK WITH JEREMY :
🔸 Unhooked Academy (90-Day Porn Reboot)
🔸 Youtube
🔸 Instagram

WORK WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course (September 2025)
🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)
🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025)
🔸 FREE 7-Day Semen Retention Challenge

EPISODE TIMES & TOPICS:

00:00 Welcome to the Sex Upgraded Podcast
01:12 Jeremy’s Story: From Porn Addiction to Mindful Manhood
03:39 How Porn Warps Sex, Intimacy & Motivation
07:27 Waking Up: Recognizing the Addiction Pattern
11:27 Lust vs. Desire: One Drains You, One Fuels You
14:58 The Subtle Costs of Porn You’re Not Noticing
24:33 Why Willpower Alone Doesn’t Work
28:49 Addiction is a Coping Mechanism, Not a Moral Failing
33:30 Build Strength Through Mindfulness & Equanimity
39:30 Jeremy’s Meditation Practice That Changed Everything
47:02 A Simple, Daily Mindfulness Practice for Recovery
53:47 The Porn Test: Are you Addicted?
59:57 Porn, Objectification & Reclaiming Conscious Eros
1:06:01 Why Men Need Brotherhood (Now More Than Ever)
1:12:30 The Antidote to Numbness is... Connection
1:17:57 Final Reflections & Resources to Go Deeper

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If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything “right” but still not getting the sex, connection, or fulfillment you want ⚠️ - this conversation might blow something wide open for you.

🔴 🎥 - You can also watch this interview on Youtube.

In today’s episode, I interview Traver Boehm about the Nice Guy archetype — where it comes from, how it messes with your sex life, and what it really takes to reclaim your confidence, power, and desire as a man (and why WOMEN WANT THIS).

Traver doesn’t hold back. You'll hear raw personal stories, practical mindset shifts, and deep truths about what makes a man truly attractive — to women, to the world, and most importantly, to himself.

This is one of those episodes that might sting a little, especially if you see yourself in the patterns we’re talking about. But it’s also packed with insight, clarity, and actionable guidance that can help you start showing up with more honesty, sexual confidence, and grounded presence — starting now.

CONNECT WITH TRAVER:
🔸 Instagram
🔸 Kill the Nice Guy Course
🔸 Uncivilized Podcast

WORK WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 Orgasmic Mastery Course
🔸 Liberate Your Lifeforce Retreat (August, 2025)
🔸 Advanced Somatics & Leadership Training for Men (October, 2025)

EPISODE TOPICS:
0:00 Intro
01:28 What the “Nice Guy” Archetype Actually Means
04:00 Why Being ‘Nice’ Doesn’t Get Your Needs Met
06:04 Traver’s Origin Story: Where Nice Guys Come From
11:59 Attachment VS Authenticity: The Conflict
16:14 Covert Contracts: The Hidden Deals That Sabotage Sex & Connection
20:26 The “No Women in the World” Thought Experiment
24:58 Story: Not Needing Anything Makes You Magnetic
32:50 Real vs. Fake Intimacy: What Happens When You Self-Source First
35:45 ACTION STEP: How to Make Your Life Amazing
40:54 Wants vs. Needs vs. Longings – A Reframe for Men
51:20 The Role of Brotherhood and Men’s Groups in Healing
01:06:57 Why Porn Hooks Nice Guys – And What It’s Really Doing to You

#menswork #mensmentalhealth #mensgroup

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So many men get it wrong in the bedroom... Trying to be nice... Unsure of how to take the lead... And even ashamed of their own desire... If you've ever felt these ways, you’re not alone (and I have to regularly work on this too). In this episode, Layla Martin and I dive deep into how you can sexually unleash your primal masculine energy - in a way that’s bold, conscious, attuned, and deeply sexy.

🔴 🎥 You can also watch this episode on Youtube.

In this episode you'll discover why women crave a man’s powerful presence - one that combines focus, strength, desire, the ability to ravish with care... And you'll discover how to embody it in a way that transforms your sexual relationships and ignites desire.

You'll also learn a transformative practice Layla calls “fuck and kill to consciousness,” which will probably be really confronting for you - in a good way... It's an exercise to help you integrate your raw, primal instincts and channel them into connection, confidence, sexual pleasure and leadership in the bedroom.

This episode is your invitation to stop holding back, to own your power unapologetically, and show up as the man you’re truly capable of being — magnetic, present, powerful and unforgettable. Join us!

❤️‍🔥 CONNECT WITH LAYLA:
🔸 The Tantric Mastermind for Couples (Upcoming in 2025)
🔸 Layla’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Layla’s Podcast "This Tantric Life"
🔸 Layla’s Instagram

🔱 CONNECT WITH TAYLOR:
🔸 The Orgasmic Mastery Course (February 2025)
🔸 Taylor’s Youtube Channel
🔸 Taylor’s Podcast "Sex Upgraded"
🔸 Taylor’s Website

#sexualleadership #menshealth #personalgrowth

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