What if the person you trusted most turned out to be living a double life?

In this gripping, raw, and deeply courageous episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with Amanda Quick—author of The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—to unravel the unthinkable: what happens when the man you married, the father of your children, is arrested for trying to purchase underage girls.

Amanda shares her story with jaw-dropping honesty, walking us through the emotional rollercoaster of betrayal, trauma bonding, courtroom battles, and reclaiming her voice after years of manipulation and gaslighting.

This isn’t just true crime—it’s a masterclass in resilience, motherhood, and choosing yourself when the world expects you to stay quiet.

💥 If you’ve ever questioned your instincts, felt stuck in a toxic relationship, or needed proof that healing is possible—this episode is for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• What it’s really like to discover your partner’s darkest secrets

• The truth about trauma bonding—and why it’s so hard to leave

• How Amanda fought a high-conflict custody battle against a convicted sex offender

• Why the system often fails survivors—and how she found loopholes to protect her kids

• The emotional toll of keeping the family together at all costs

• How one psychic session changed everything

• Reclaiming identity, sexuality, and joy after betrayal

• Why Amanda wrote The Sex Trafficker’s Wife—and what she wants every woman to know

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 00:47 The Night Everything Changed

• 01:52 The Shocking Arrest

• 03:36 Unraveling the Truth

• 07:14 The Aftermath and Legal Battles

• 11:42 Struggling with Reality

• 17:07 A New Beginning

• 26:34 Custody and Conflict

• 36:49 Signs of Danger

• 37:59 Reporting the Incident

• 40:27 The Rock Bottom Moment

• 42:06 Seeking Unconventional Help

• 48:15 A Renewed Sense of Purpose

• 51:14 Legal Battles and Final Decisions

• 53:30 Life After the Divorce

• 57:30 Healing and Moving Forward

• 01:12:55 Raising Awareness and Final Thoughts

Connect with Amanda

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandaquickhealing/

• TEDx Talk: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UXSgN-AqMzk

• https://www.thesextraffickerswife.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

Is reading smut mental cheating? Or is it the secret weapon to a more empowered, pleasure-filled life?
In this juicy, no-holds-barred episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with erotica author and podcaster Ruan Willow to explore the world of erotic romance, female desire, and why stories that turn women on are about so much more than sex.

From reclaiming "dirty" words to using fiction as foreplay, Ruan breaks down how smut, sensual stories, and sex-positive conversations can actually heal shame, unlock confidence, and transform relationships.

Whether you're new to erotic lit or a longtime lover of open-door romance, this episode is a spicy invitation to rethink what turns you on—and why that’s more powerful than you’ve been told.

💥 If you've ever felt guilty for what you like, or wondered if you're "too much"—this one is for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Why reading smut isn’t mental cheating—and might actually save your sex life

• The difference between porn and erotic romance (and why women crave the latter)

• How erotica helps women reclaim pleasure, power, and their own damn fantasies

• The healing power of fiction for trauma, shame, and even religious conditioning

• What most men misunderstand about women’s desires

• Why sexual empowerment is mental health, period

• Consent, kink, and the truth about ethical non-monogamy

• Ruan’s top writing tips—and how her characters lead the story (and the sex)
  
  

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 00:50 Ruan Willow's Journey into Erotic Romance

• 01:55 Debunking Myths About Erotic Romance

• 04:32 Writing Explicit Content: Challenges and Creativity

• 16:01 The Healing Power of Erotic Literature

• 21:51 Exploring Pseudo Incest in Literature

• 23:40 Family Reactions to Writing Romance

• 24:19 Diving into the 'Oh Fuck Yeah' Podcast

• 27:48 Impact of Podcasting on Writing

• 28:54 Writing About Non-Monogamous Relationships

• 32:54 Upcoming Erotic Romance Projects

• 35:06 Normalizing Sexual Conversations

• 39:21 Connecting with Fans and Final Thoughts

Connect with Ruan

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillowauthor/

• X: https://x.com/ruanwillow?lang=en

• Podcast: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/oh-fck-yeah-with-ruan-willow-1592675

• Books: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

Most men think they’ve got sex all figured out… but what if that confidence is exactly what’s keeping them from mind-blowing connection?

In this candid and wildly eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah is joined by Dallas Bluth, founder of Black Box Dating, to explore why so many men misunderstand what truly turns women on—and how they can flip the script for good.

From porn culture and rushed foreplay to emotional unavailability and outdated masculinity myths, this convo dives into the core of male sexuality, desire, and how to create actual intimacy (that leads to the hottest sex of your life).

💥 If you’ve ever thought “I’m doing everything right… so why isn’t it working?” — this one’s for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The biggest mistakes men make in bed

• Why slowing down changes everything

• What women actually mean when they say they need to feel safe

• The #1 mindset shift that makes sex hotter

• How porn rewires expectations and performance

• The real role of emotional intimacy in physical pleasure

• Tangible ways men can step into secure, grounded masculinity
  
  

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

• 00:58 Defining Really Hot Sex

• 02:14 Male vs. Female Perspectives on Sex

• 02:40 Understanding Male Sexuality

• 06:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection

• 16:27 Foreplay in Relationships

• 20:38 Acts of Service and Masculinity

• 34:19 Setting Standards in Relationships

• 46:20 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships

• 48:18 Desensitization and Addiction

• 49:47 Emotional and Sexual Escalation

• 50:42 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy

• 55:06 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships

• 58:18 Challenges in Married Life

• 01:01:32 Reigniting Passion in Long-Term Relationships

• 01:04:40 The Role of Masculine Energy

• 01:16:25 Creating Lighthearted and Carefree Experiences

• 01:26:59 Conclusion and Contact Information

Connect with Dallas

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dallas.bluth/

• Website: https://dallasbluth.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com