This conversation is a masterclass in why we abandon ourselves in sex and relationships, and how to feel safe being disliked, judged, rejected, or disagreed with.

Luis Mojica is a somatic therapist, trauma nutritionist, and founder of Holistic Life Navigation, where he teaches thousands of people around the world how to recover from stress and trauma. He uses whole foods, self-inquiry, and Somatic Experiencing as tools to find safety within yourself.

In this powerful, honest, and compassionate episode, Luis and I explored the roots of fawning, people-pleasing, and sexual appeasement… not as personal flaws, but as evolutionarily intelligent trauma responses rooted in survival.

You’ll learn how to discern discomfort from threat in the body, the nuanced ways we abandon ourselves in order to be liked, wanted, or validated, and how to create a real sense of inner safety and security.

This conversation also explores the unexpected beauty and brilliance of people-pleasing when reclaimed consciously, how trauma lives in the body, and how to build capacity for big sensations without falling into old patterns.

We discuss American cultural fragility around conflict, difference, discomfort, and diversity, the healing power of platonic intimacy, loving touch, and group witnessing, and some practical tools and somatic practices to come home to your truth and integrity.

You will also hear:

• What fawning really is, and why it’s not a defect to be fixed

• The nervous system roots of people-pleasing

• Sexual fawning and why we abandon ourselves in our most intimate relationships

• Discerning between discomfort, stress, and threat

• The brilliant and surprising gifts inside your people-pleasing pattern

• How trauma responses become personalities

• Somatic practices to feel safe and connected in your body

• Embodied boundary setting and congruence

• Cultural fragility, codependence, performative allyship, and co-dysregulation

• The difference between performance and presence in sex

• Conscious fawning vs unconscious manipulation

• Learning to expect connection instead of threat

• Expanding capacity & tolerance for rupture, conflict, and being different

• A guided practice to track tension, safety, and truth in the body

• A powerful pendulation technique to self-resource during a trigger

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Episode music credit:

“Sitar hip hop music” by DJ Operator