This week, we’re digging into self-compassion—not just as an idea, but as a practice we’re actively building at home.

Our starting point: “We will teach you compassion by practicing compassion with ourselves first; then with each other.” Because if we want to raise kind, resilient kids, it starts with how we treat ourselves.

We each took Dr. Kristin Neff’s Self-Compassion Test 💝 to see where we’re growing—and where we’re stuck. Greg thinks about self-compassion often, but practices it poorly. Danielle scored high on self-kindness and self-judgment. We talk through what that means and how we’re each working to shift.

Then we each designed a small experiment:

• 🟨 Danielle’s Pause Pass: a little laminated card she holds up when she’s overwhelmed. It’s her way of saying: “I’m not shutting down. I’m resetting.”
• 🧠 Greg’s Public Naming: saying out loud when he’s starting to veer off track, so he can catch himself before spiraling.

We also explore the difference between tender and fierce self-compassion, how our kids absorb the way we talk to ourselves, and why this modeling really matters.

Because the way we treat ourselves teaches our children how to treat themselves.

• 🎧 Listen to Episode 13: Compassion
• 💝 Take the Self-Compassion Test (under 5 minutes)
• 🟨 Make your own Pause Pass – a simple visual tool for “I need a moment.”
• 📘 Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown – where our definition of compassion begins