In this conversation, Pam and Caroline discuss how to set boundaries in relationships affected by addiction. They emphasize the importance of leaning into discomfort, deciding what actions to take, and enforcing boundaries. They also discuss the need for patience, communication, and self-care when setting boundaries. The conversation covers various examples of boundaries, such as not giving money, blocking phone numbers, and setting curfews. They also provide tips on how to say no and use 'I' statements. The hosts highlight the need for individualized boundaries and the importance of safety and emotional well-being.

• "When you're setting these boundaries, there's a mental process that goes with it and a grieving process that goes with it. Because when you set a boundary with somebody, you're changing the whole dynamic of your relationship, and you're letting go of what you thought your relationship was going to be." ~ Pam Moleta

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RESOURCES:

Plutchik's Wheel of Emotions: Feelings Wheel - https://www.6seconds.org/2022/03/13/plutchik-wheel-emotions/

Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow%27s_hierarchy_of_needs

Jefferson Fisher – Attorney with lots of 1-2 minute videos on how to handle different difficult
situations, people and conversations. https://www.facebook.com/justaskjefferson/ #JustAskJefferson

Loewhaley – Great 1-2 minute videos on how to set boundaries and handle different situations,
people and conversations at WORK. “How Do I Professionally Say…..?”
https://www.facebook.com/loewhaley/

Sharon Martin, PhD – Great free blog, newsletter and resources on how to set healthy
boundaries and other mental health issues. https://www.livewellwithsharonmartin.com/

Day ONE Journaling App – Free app downloaded from Apple and Google Play
https://dayoneapp.com/

The Well Minded Podcast (Sober Soul Recovery) – Great podcast on a variety of recovery topics
from the substance user’s perspective is invaluable for family members!!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-well-minded-podcast-with-master-therapist-lynn-
matti/id1357979104