In this transformative episode of The Coachable Podcast, Tori Gordon gets raw and vulnerable about her journey from self-abandonment to sacred partnership. She shares the specific inner work, spiritual devotion, and practical steps that led to manifesting her divine partner Kyle. This isn't your typical manifestation story—it's a deep dive into the psychological, emotional, and energetic preparation required to call in true love. Tori reveals how she stopped outsourcing love and attention to others, built unshakeable self-trust, and learned to stop negotiating with people who couldn't meet her fully. She discusses the importance of grieving past relationships, releasing emotional debris, and becoming an energetic match for the love you desire. This episode is essential listening for anyone seeking sacred partnership, struggling with abandonment wounds, or ready to embody their worth in relationships.

What You'll Learn

Foundation Building [0:00 - 15:00] • Why you must become the queen before meeting your king • How to stop outsourcing love and attention to others • The difference between external validation and internal worth • Practical steps to treat yourself like the love of your life

Self-Trust & Boundaries [15:00 - 30:00] • How to build unshakeable trust with yourself • Why keeping commitments to yourself matters in relationships • How to stop negotiating with people who can't meet you • The art of saying no to "almost" and "potential"

Healing & Release Work [30:00 - 45:00] • How to heal abandonment wounds without guarantees • The importance of grieving past relationships fully • Releasing emotional and energetic debris from past lovers • Why forgiveness is essential for calling in new love

Energetic Alignment [45:00 - 60:00] • Why you attract what you ARE, not what you want • How to become an energetic match for divine partnership • The role of spiritual devotion in manifesting love • Preparing your field for sacred partnership

Host: Tori Gordon Tori Gordon is an Award-Winning Content Creator, Trauma Informed Breathwork Facilitator, and High Performance Coach. As one of TikTok's Top 100 Female Creators, her work reaches nearly 1 million people worldwide. She's been featured on NBC, Fox News, CBS, Yahoo News, and Business Insider. The Coachable Podcast was named Top 5 Podcasts to get you through COVID-19, and Tori was recognized as one of the Top 10 Female Mindset Coaches by Yahoo News in 2020. Connect with Tori •

Website: [torigordon.com] • Instagram: [@thetorigordon] • TikTok: [@thetorigordon] • YouTube: [Tori Gordon] • Podcast: The Coachable Podcast on all platforms

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Welcome back to another powerful episode of The Coachable Podcast! In this episode, host Tori Gordon sits down with James Silvas, a master coach specializing in sports psychology, personal mastery, men's work, and deep heart leadership. This marks his second appearance on the podcast, and as always, he brings a wealth of insight and wisdom.

James shares his journey from chasing external success to discovering the deeper path of mastery, devotion, and clarity. Through powerful storytelling and reflection, James delves into the practices that have shaped him into the leader he is today, emphasizing the importance of being committed to the process rather than focusing solely on outcomes.

In this episode, you'll hear about:

The Shift from Ego to Truth: James explains how moving from a desire to be the world's best to simply being his best has allowed him to focus on meaningful, authentic goals that resonate deeply.

Clarity and Leadership: The best leaders are not the loudest, but the clearest. James dives into how clarity, patience, and surrender to the process lead to mastery in all aspects of life—be it business, relationships, or personal growth.

Mastery vs. Status: James and Tori discuss the difference between playing the status game versus the mastery game—how one is rooted in external validation and the other in continuous, lifelong growth and refinement.

Surrendering to the Divine: At the heart of mastery is a deep connection to something greater than ourselves. James talks about how devotion to the craft, whether it’s business, relationships, or personal development, creates a space for divine energy to move through.

The Power of Yes and No: Understanding when to say yes to exploration and when to say no to what no longer serves you is a key practice in mastering your life and staying true to your values.

If you've ever felt torn between pursuing external recognition or finding a deeper sense of purpose, this conversation will offer clarity and insight into how you can step into a life of true mastery. Whether you're leading a team, growing a business, or navigating personal transformation, the principles James shares are invaluable for anyone on a journey of self-discovery.

As James shares, “Mastery is a continual chipping away of what doesn’t serve. It’s about surrendering to something bigger than yourself and letting the practice move through you.”

🎧 Tune in to hear how you can begin your own journey of mastery and devotion!

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

The role of clarity in becoming a masterful leader

How mastery is about continual growth and refinement, not perfection

The difference between playing the status game and the mastery game

The spiritual element of mastery and surrendering to something greater

How to make empowered choices in your life and leadership

Resources Mentioned:

James’ Website: www.jamessilvas.com

Instagram: @james.silvas

Connect with Tori: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetorigordon

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/thetorigordon

Personal Website: www.torigordon.com

THANK YOU SPONSORS!:

Anywhere Clinic: A mental health resource that has been a game-changer for me. Visit Anywhere Clinic to learn more about virtual psychiatric care, ketamine therapy, and emotional mastery. Visit www.anywhereclinic.com/tori to book your initial consultation.

If you’re tired of being stuck in indecision and want to start making aligned, confident choices, reach out to me! DM me the word “decide” on Instagram and let’s talk about how we can work together in my high-performance leadership coaching program.

Share the Love:If this episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram. Let me know what you took away from this episode! I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway and how you plan to step into your personal power and start making decisions from a place of alignment. ✨

Stop proving and start being! In this transformative episode of the Coachable podcast, I share the profound shift that changed everything in my life—from stepping away from hustle culture and boss babe mentality to embracing softness, feminine embodiment, and true self-discovery. If you’re feeling burnt out, overworked, or stuck in the cycle of proving your worth, this conversation is for you. Join me as I reveal how leaning into vulnerability, surrender, and co-creation unlocked true freedom, deeper intimacy, creativity, and personal liberation. It’s about choosing wholeness over hustle, embracing your authentic self, and redefining success on your terms.

Together, we’ll explore the balance of masculine and feminine energy, the power of receiving, and how to integrate these polarities for a life of alignment and fulfillment. Packed with practical advice, profound insights, and actionable strategies, this episode is your guide to breaking free from old patterns and reclaiming your joy, purpose, and radiance.

This is a conversation you need to hear! If you’re ready to shift your mindset, prioritize self-love, and step into true empowerment, hit play now. Don’t miss this chance to transform your life from the inside out!

#shadowwork #feminineembodimentcoach #masculineenergy #nurturingyourmind #empowermentdefinition

CHAPTERS:

00:00 - Intro

01:23 - Why I'm Making This Episode

09:58 - Masculine vs Feminine Energy

14:05 - Women Prioritizing Masculine Energy

19:57 - Shifting from Masculine to Feminine Energy

25:26 - Understanding Masculine Energy

34:24 - Exploring Feminine Energy

43:18 - The Shadow Feminine Concept

45:10 - Life's Response to Internal Shifts

49:20 - Embracing Our Medicine

52:10 - Working with Tory Privately

55:10 - Closing Words

Resources Mentioned:

Anywhere Clinic: A mental health resource that has been a game-changer for me. Visit Anywhere Clinic to learn more about virtual psychiatric care, ketamine therapy, and emotional mastery. Visit www.anywhereclinic.com/tori to book your initial consultation.

If you’re tired of being stuck in indecision and want to start making aligned, confident choices, reach out to me! DM me the word “decide” on Instagram and let’s talk about how we can work together in my high-performance leadership coaching program.

Connect with Tori: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thetorigordon

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/thetorigordon

Personal Website: www.torigordon.com

Share the Love:If this episode resonated with you, I’d love for you to share it with a friend or take a screenshot and tag me on Instagram. Let me know what you took away from this episode! I’d love to hear your biggest takeaway and how you plan to step into your personal power and start making decisions from a place of alignment. ✨