Hey everyone, and welcome back to the Divorce Devil Podcast! 👋 If you'reover 40 navigating the wild world of divorce recovery, you're in the right place. I'm David, and with me as always is my amazing co-host, Rachel, and today we are diving deep into something super important that no one talks about: The nonlinear effects of divorce recovery. The truth that comes with bumps, valleys and dips!

Forget the idea that healing is a straight line from A to Z. 🙅‍♂️ This ain't a simple recipe, folks! We're here to tell you that it’s OK to feel like you're on a rollercoaster 🎢, with moments of clarity followed by unexpected setbacks, or even just that sense of being stuck somewhere! In this episode, we get brutally honest about why that's normal.

We're unpacking:

• The Myth of Linear Healing: Why you feel like you should be "over it" already. 🙄

• Real-Life Examples: Times where we and others have faced unexpected emotional hurdles. 🤕

• The "Drunken Toddler with a Crayon" Analogy: 🖍️ Yup, healing can be that chaotic.

• Navigating Triggers: Birthdays, anniversaries, that one song... 🎶

• The "Revenge Body" Phenomenon: 💪 Is it healthy? Is it just a phase? We debate. 🥊

• Sad But Horny Spirals 😭➡️😈 And is there anything wrong with needing connection? (Plus the weighted blanket discussion.)

• Why Forgiveness Is F**king Hard: 🤬 (Especially when Barbara is involved! 😅)

• The Importance of Self-Compassion: ❤️ Treating yourself like you'd treat a friend.

• When to Seek Help: 🤝 Recognizing when you need a therapist, a doctor, or just a damn good friend.

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Whether you're feeling lost, confused, or just plain exhausted, know that you're not alone. We've been there, we've messed up, and we're still figuring it out. This podcast is for anyone who needs a dose of reality, a few laughs, and a reminder that healing is a journey, not a destination. 💯

Barbara’s Forgiveness Website:

-https://www.forgivenessmadeeasy.co.uk/

So, grab a drink 🍺 (or a crayon 🖍️), strap in, and let's get real about divorce. If you are ready for the journey, Subscribe to the channel to find some helpful tips and videos.

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💔 Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast Episode 224! 💔

Hosted by David and co-host Rachel, this episode dives deep into the emotional rollercoaster of divorce recovery. We’re tackling one of the toughest challenges: how to avoid becoming cynical during your healing journey and how to recognize when you’ve truly healed.

🎙️ What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

• The 3 stages of divorce recovery: chaos, rebuilding, and thriving.

• How to handle setbacks without losing progress.

• Why cynicism creeps in and how to stop overthinking everything.

• Tools and strategies to help you move forward faster after emotional triggers.

• How to know if you’ve healed enough to embrace new relationships or friendships.

  
  

🌟 Key Takeaways:

Healing isn’t linear—it’s a journey filled with ups, downs, and unexpected detours. Whether you’re dealing with financial stress, emotional triggers, or the lingering pain of betrayal, this episode offers practical advice and relatable stories to help you navigate the process.

💡 Our Favorite Moments:

• Rachel’s hilarious take on becoming “Mrs. Kravitz” (you’ll laugh AND relate!).

• David’s insights on why healing is about progress, not perfection.

• The importance of setting boundaries and letting go of toxic relationships.

  
  

✨ Why This Episode Matters:

Divorce can feel like the end of the world, but it’s really just a new beginning. By embracing the healing process, you can rebuild your life, rediscover your worth, and create a future filled with hope and happiness.

💬 We Want to Hear From You!

What stage of divorce recovery are you in? Have you struggled with cynicism or setbacks? Share your story in the comments below—we’d love to support you on your journey!

👉 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you never miss an episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast. Let’s heal together! 💖

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Welcome to Divorce Devil Podcast, where hosts David and Rachel dive deep into the challenges of divorce recovery for those over 40. In this episode, we tackle one of the most common struggles after divorce: emotional baggage. Whether you're fresh out of a marriage or years into your healing journey, this episode is packed with relatable stories, actionable tips, and a sprinkle of humor to help you move forward.

💔 What is Emotional Baggage?

Emotional baggage is the invisible weight we carry from past relationships, childhood experiences, and unresolved pain. It can sneak into new relationships, friendships, and even your daily life, holding you back from living your best life. But here's the good news: you don’t have to carry it forever.

🛠️ What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• How to identify the emotional baggage you're carrying.

• Practical exercises to unpack and release the pain.

• Why setting boundaries is essential for healing.

• How to embrace your independence and rediscover yourself.

• The importance of intentional healing and self-care.

Rachel shares her personal journey of discovering her identity after a 24-year marriage, while David offers insights into how emotional baggage can impact new relationships. Together, they explore how to lighten your emotional load and create space for new beginnings.

✨ Key Takeaways:

• Healing is a process, not a destination.

• Letting go of the past doesn’t mean forgetting—it means learning and growing.

• You deserve to live a life free from the weight of old pain.

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🎙️ Relatable, Real, and Raw:

This episode is filled with metaphors (hello, luggage and suitcases!) to make the concept of emotional baggage relatable and easy to understand. From packing for vacations to unpacking the emotional clutter of divorce, David and Rachel keep it real with their candid conversations and lighthearted banter.

💡 Your Next Steps:

• Take inventory of your emotional baggage. What’s worth keeping, and what needs to go?

• Start small—set one boundary or let go of one painful memory today.

• Remember, healing takes time, and it’s okay to ask for help.

💬 Join the Conversation!

What emotional baggage are you ready to let go of? Share your thoughts in the comments below! Let’s support each other on this journey to healing and happiness. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell 🔔 so you never miss an episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast.

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🌊 Welcome to the 'Don't Pick the Scab Podcast,' Episode 222! 🌟

In this heartfelt episode, host David and Rachel reflect on the emotional journey of divorce recovery. . Returning to old traditions like a vacation at the beach, Rachel shares the struggles of revisiting the past while creating new memories in the present.

Are you struggling with letting go of your pre-divorce life? Do you feel stuck between cherishing old memories and building a new future? You’re not alone. ❤️

Rachel opens up about finding peace in the chaos of divorce, navigating the loss of old traditions, and embracing new ones with the people who matter most. She shares how the first vacation without his ex-spouse became a turning point—learning to balance nostalgia with the promise of new beginnings. 🌅

💡 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

✔️ It’s okay to miss your old life while moving forward.

✔️ Learn how to create new traditions that work for your current reality.

✔️ Finding peace is possible, even after the most difficult transitions.

✔️ How self-reflection and acceptance can help you heal.

Rachel’s journey is a reminder that life after divorce isn’t the end—it’s a chance to redefine yourself, embrace new opportunities, and find joy in the little moments like sitting on the beach or hearing the waves crash. 🌴

What are your new traditions after divorce? What traditions from your past do you cherish? Let’s start a conversation in the comments! 💬👇

Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more real, relatable insights into life after divorce for people over 40. Let’s heal and grow together. 🌟

#DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #NewBeginnings #HealingAfterDivorce #SelfReflection #LifeAfterDivorce

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Rachel is on vacation this week. She’ll be back on the mic next week. 💔 Divorce can feel like the end of everything, but it doesn’t have to be. In this powerful episode of the “Divorce Devil Podcast,” host I sit down with Jody Bruns, founder of the Divorce Lending Association and a pioneer in divorce mortgage planning. With over 35 years of experience in finance and real estate, Jody has helped thousands of professionals and families navigate the complexities of divorce with clarity, strategy, and compassion. 🚀

Jody’s personal journey through divorce inspired her mission to educate others, create innovative solutions, and empower families to make smart financial decisions during one of life’s toughest transitions. She’s trained nearly 10,000 professionals and written a national certification for divorce mortgage planning, transforming how divorcing couples handle real estate and finances.

🏡 Key Takeaways from This Episode:

• Why keeping the family home may hurt more than it helps.

• How emotions could derail your financial stability (and how to avoid it).

• The biggest myths about real estate during divorce—and why they could cost you.

• Why “legal options” don’t always align with “mortgage options.”

• How divorce planning can set you up for success, not stress.

Jody also shares real-life stories of people who turned their post-divorce lives around by embracing strategy over emotion. Learn how one mom avoided becoming “house poor” and how another client avoided costly mistakes by understanding the relationship between divorce agreements and mortgage qualifications.

📘 About Jody Bruns:

Jody is the author of "A House Divided" and an expert in family law, tax planning, and finance. She’s dedicated to helping people see divorce not as the end, but as an opportunity for a brighter, more secure future.

🔥 Why This Episode Is a Must-Listen for Divorcing People Over 40:

Whether you’re keeping the house, selling it, or unsure of the next step, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you navigate the financial realities of divorce. Stop relying on Google for answers that may be wrong—get the insider knowledge you need to move forward with confidence.

💡 Pro Tip: Don’t let emotions cloud your judgment. Treat your divorce like a business decision to protect your future.

📣 Join the Conversation!

What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced (or are facing) in your divorce journey? Drop your thoughts in the comments below—we’d love to hear your story and help you move forward. 👇

🔔 Don’t forget to LIKE AND SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode of the “Divorce Devil Podcast.” Your recovery starts here! 💪

#DivorceRecovery, #DivorcePlanning #RealEstate #DivorceSupport #HealingAfterDivorce

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🎙️ Divorce Devil Podcast – Episode 220! Hosted by David and Rachel, this episode dives deep into the raw truths of divorce recovery for people over 40. Yesterday, Rachel turned 51, and it made her reflect on the journey of rebuilding life after divorce.

✨ Why We Do This:

This podcast is a safe space where we unpack the complexities of healing, growth, and rediscovering purpose after divorce. Whether it's navigating new chapters, reflecting on core memories, or learning from past mistakes, we’re here to remind you that you’re not alone.

Key Takeaways....

• Birthdays and milestones as markers of growth 📅

• The emotional rollercoaster of post-divorce life 🎢

• Why reflection is key: "What did I learn this year?" 🤔

• How the podcast helps us heal while helping others 🎙️

• Breaking societal expectations of men "not having feelings" 💔💪

• Finding hope and purpose through shared stories 🌟

Divorce is tough, but healing is possible. Whether you're navigating the early days of separation, dealing with co-parenting challenges, or trying to rediscover yourself, this episode offers insights, stories, and laughs to remind you that it’s okay to feel, to cry, and to grow.

🔥 Why Listen?

After 220 episodes, we’ve learned that healing is a journey, not a destination. Sometimes, it’s messy. Sometimes, it’s funny. But always, it’s real. Together with my co-host and guests, we’ll show you that even in the darkest times, there’s hope.

💬 Join the Conversation:

We’d love to hear from you! What’s been your biggest challenge or breakthrough during your divorce recovery? Drop a comment below and let’s build a community of support and understanding. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe to help others find this message of hope.

👉 New episodes every week! Subscribe now and start healing with us.

#DivorceRecovery #MenOver40 #HealingAfterDivorce #LifeAfterDivorce #EmotionalHealing #SelfGrowth

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Divorce recovery can feel like navigating a minefield, especially for men over 40. In this episode of the Divorce Devil Podcast, your hosts Rachel and David dive into the 7 Deadly Sins of divorce recovery and how to avoid stalling in them. 🚧

From emotional turmoil to financial pitfalls, we explore the most common mistakes people make post-divorce—and, most importantly, how to heal and thrive. 🌟 Whether you're dealing with a co-parenting nightmare, struggling with your identity, or feeling isolated, this episode has you covered.

🔥 Here’s what we’ll cover:

1. Letting Emotions Drive Decisions: Why reacting out of anger can cost you in court—and with your kids. 💢

2. Social Isolation: The dangers of retreating into your basement (and how to re-enter the world). 🙈

3. Neglecting Professional Support: Why therapy isn’t just for “losers” and how it can help you win. 🛋️

4. Mishandling Finances: Avoiding financial nightmares, from hidden credit cards to tax surprises. 💸

5. Ignoring Identity Issues: Rebuilding your sense of self after being a husband for so long. 🌱

6. Neglecting Physical and Mental Health: Why self-care is the foundation of your comeback. 🏋️‍♂️

7. Rushing Into New Relationships: How to heal your wounds before jumping back into the dating game. ❤️‍🩹

David and Rachel share personal stories, real-life examples, and candid advice (with a side of humor 😅) to help you navigate the pain and chaos of divorce. He’s been through it, and now, They’re here to guide you.

💡 Key Takeaways:

• Divorce doesn’t define you—it’s just one chapter in your life.

• Your kids’ well-being is more important than your need for revenge.

• Small steps lead to big wins in your healing journey. 🏆

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Whether you’re navigating custody battles, rebuilding your career, or just trying to figure out who you are now, this episode will help you find clarity and strength. 💪

👉 What has been the hardest part of your divorce recovery journey? Share your thoughts in the comments below—we’d love to hear your story!

🎧 Subscribe to the Divorce Devil Podcast for more raw, real, and relatable divorce recovery advice for people over 40..

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Welcome to the "Don't Pick the Scab Podcast" with your hosts, David and Rachel! 🎙️ In this illuminating episode, we discuss a vital aspect of divorce recovery for men over 40: the importance of setting boundaries. 💔

Going through a divorce can leave you feeling lost in a state of "limbo," where you may not know what to do or how to move forward. One of the most powerful tools you can have during this challenging time is the ability to set clear boundaries. 🛡️

Boundaries help you take control of your life and emotions. They allow you to define what is acceptable and what is not, which is essential for your mental and emotional well-being. In this episode, we dig into:

✔️ Why boundaries are crucial during and after a divorce.

✔️ How to identify areas in your life where setting boundaries is necessary.

✔️ The role boundaries play in protecting yourself from further hurt and disappointment.

✔️ Tips for communicating boundaries effectively to others, including ex-partners and family.

We share personal stories and insights about navigating through the emotional turmoil that comes with divorce. 🌈 By learning to say "no" and putting your needs first, you reclaim your sense of self and pave the way for healing. Remember, it’s not selfish to prioritize your health; it’s essential for your recovery. 💪

💬 Join the Conversation!

Have you struggled with setting boundaries during your divorce? We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments below. Let’s support each other on this journey! 💬

👇 Don’t forget to like 👍, subscribe 🛎️, and share this episode with anyone who might benefit from it. Together, we can empower more men over 40 to heal, grow, and thrive after divorce. 💌

#DivorceRecovery #Boundaries #MenOver40 #EmotionalHealth #SelfCare #DontPickTheScabPodcast #HealingJourney

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