Arejay discusses various tools for forgiveness work. She recommends starting with the Buddhist prayer of forgiveness. She then shares other practices mentioning Ho'oponopono, writing letters of forgiveness, and having forgiveness conversations. These methods aim to break the bonds of guilt and shame by fostering self-compassion and understanding.

Arejay discusses the concept of taking control of one's experiences, particularly emotional ones, rather than relying on external factors. She emphasizes the importance of internal change and active participation in shaping one's experiences. Arejay suggests that individuals should reflect on where they place responsibility for their experiences and consider what actions they can take to change them.

Arejay discusses the importance of setting boundaries, particularly for those who have historically lacked them due to people-pleasing behaviors. She emphasize learning to say "no" unapologetically and understanding that boundaries are personal guidelines, not controls over others' actions. Arejay notes that boundaries may initially be disrespected, especially by those close to you, and stresses the importance of being prepared to take action if boundaries are violated. She advise on balancing grace with firmness, considering the severity of the boundary, and being willing to walk away if necessary. Boundaries are primarily for guiding one's own behavior and interactions, not for changing others' behavior.