Summary

In this conversation, Brian Banks and TJ Woodward discuss the power of healing shame and trauma. They explore the importance of reconnecting with our true selves and releasing negative self-talk. They emphasize the need to go beyond simply changing our narrative and instead delve deeper into the origins of our beliefs and energy. They also discuss the impact of shame on addiction and relationships, particularly for gay men. The conversation highlights the process of healing and integrating past experiences rather than trying to let them go completely. They emphasize the importance of being present with ourselves and allowing ourselves to feel and process emotions. The conversation explores the importance of building a relationship with our inner child and rebuilding trust with ourselves. It emphasizes the significance of doing the deeper inner work to improve our relationships and connect with others on a deeper level. The conversation also highlights the power of being present and feeling our emotions without intellectualizing them. It encourages unraveling the conditioning and expectations we have placed on ourselves and finding peace in the process of self-discovery. The conversation concludes with recommendations for starting the journey of self-exploration, including finding a community, reading books, and practicing meditation.

Keywords

healing, shame, trauma, self-talk, reconnecting, true self, negative emotions, addiction, relationships, gay men, presence, emotions, inner child, rebuilding trust, deeper inner work, relationships, presence, feeling emotions, unraveling conditioning, self-discovery, community, books, meditation

Takeaways

Healing shame and trauma involves going beyond changing our narrative and delving deeper into the origins of our beliefs and energy.

Shame is often a driving force behind addiction and relational issues.

Reconnecting with our true selves involves being present with ourselves and allowing ourselves to feel and process emotions.

Healing and integrating past experiences can lead to freedom and a shift in our relationship with ourselves and the world.

Reparenting our inner child and building trust with ourselves is crucial in the healing process. Building a relationship with our inner child and rebuilding trust with ourselves is essential for personal growth and improved relationships.

Doing the deeper inner work allows us to connect with others on a deeper level and experience profound transformation.

Being present and feeling our emotions without intellectualizing them is a powerful practice for self-discovery and healing.

Unraveling the conditioning and expectations we have placed on ourselves is necessary for finding peace and authenticity.

Starting the journey of self-exploration can involve finding a community, reading books, and practicing meditation.

Sound Bites

"We are really all carrying around this narrative that can keep us feeling stuck."

"When we feel disconnected internally, we look to the world to feel whole again."

"Blame is a really low form of consciousness, but accountability is like, no, this really hurt."

"Except this time you were not a great parent for most of this child's life and now you're having to build that relationship"

"It's okay to feel, right? It's okay to feel that it's safe for you now and I'm here for you."

"We're not as concerned with working on things in the external, because if it starts with the deeper inner work, then our relationships start to get much better."

Find the tools T.J. offers here:

www.tjwoodward.com