Can kids you plan to have ever be safe around an uncle who chased a trans child with a chainsaw and put your fiancé on a kill list? It's Feedback Friday!

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• Your fiancé's uncle is dangerously unstable, lives with his grandparents, abuses his dog, threatens neighbors, attempted to attack a trans child with a chainsaw, and put your fiancé on a literal "hit list." Would raising children anywhere near this ticking time bomb of a human being be an irresponsible dereliction of parental responsibility?
• Your 27-year-old daughter has a master's degree but refuses to leave home, has no interest in dating, shows hoarding behaviors, and sits on your bed every night to "emote" about her life. The lack of alone time is driving a wedge between you and your spouse. How do you push her out without breaking her?
• The couple you've grown close to over two years has just revealed their relationship began online when he was 23 and she was 14 — a situation serious enough to trigger a deportation. Now they're 30 and 21, leaving you torn between your moral concerns and the meaningful connection you've built. Can you reconcile your ethical unease with the value you place on these long-standing friendships?
• Your mature 15-year-old daughter doesn't want to spend her court-ordered 75 days a year with her controlling father who restricts her freedom and communication. She'd rather pursue summer school, work, and volunteering. You support her wishes but can't afford a lawyer, and ignoring the custody agreement means contempt of court. What happens when the system fails the very child it's meant to safeguard?
• Recommendation of the Week: Instruments of a Beating Heart
• The cold, uncaring machinery of the workplace demands your undivided attention despite the sudden death of your best friend. Surrounded by painful reminders and well-meaning but clueless colleagues, how do you honor grief and survive the 9-to-5 grind when your emotional support system is the very person you've lost?
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Of Boys and Men author Richard Reeves explains how we can address men's modern struggles without undermining women's gains.

• Men are falling behind in multiple areas — education (60/40 female/male college ratio), mental health (40,000 male suicides annually), and economically (wages for men without college degrees have remained flat since 1979).
• Society often overlooks men's struggles due to fears that addressing them might diminish focus on women's issues, creating a false "either/or" narrative when we need an "and" approach.
• Traditional male roles as breadwinners have diminished without being replaced by expanded roles, leaving many men feeling lost and vulnerable to extremist ideologies.
• Increasing social isolation affects men disproportionately, with 15% of men under 30 reporting they don't have a single friend, contributing to mental health challenges.
• Men can overcome these challenges by connecting with other men, developing meaningful friendships, pursuing their own authentic path, and recognizing there's nothing wrong with being male. Building supportive male relationships and communities is essential for well-being and can counteract isolation while providing positive models of masculinity.
• And much more...

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Bananas: nutritious treat or geopolitical nightmare? Jessica Wynn unpeels the shocking truth behind our favorite fruit on this week's Skeptical Sunday!

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by Jessica Wynn!

• The United Fruit Company (later Chiquita) wielded extraordinary power in the early and mid-20th century, orchestrating military coups in Honduras and Guatemala, and influencing US foreign policy to protect its interests. This corporate empire even played a role in events leading to the Bay of Pigs invasion and Cuban Missile Crisis.
• In 1928, Colombian banana workers protesting for basic rights like real currency payment and decent housing were surrounded by military forces and massacred. While the government claimed 47 deaths, other accounts put the toll at around 3,000 — a stark example of the violence underpinning the industry.
• Even today, banana workers face inhumane conditions including chemical exposure, poverty-level wages, and suppression of union activities. The industry has been linked to child labor, sexual exploitation, and human rights abuses across Latin America.
• The banana industry uses more agrochemicals than almost any other crop sector, with about 85% missing their target and contaminating workers, communities, and ecosystems. Monoculture farming depletes soil, threatens biodiversity, and pollutes water systems, even damaging coral reefs.
• Despite this troubling history, consumers can make positive choices by seeking out bananas from ethical producers like Equal Exchange, Coliman, Earth University, and Organics Unlimited/GROW. These brands prioritize sustainable practices and fair treatment of workers, allowing us to enjoy this nutritious fruit while supporting systems that benefit both people and our planet.
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Your 105-year-old aunt has vanished into the elder care system while a relative keeps her whereabouts a secret. Can you find her? It's Feedback Friday!

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• Your 105-year-old great-aunt Giulia has vanished after her son (your point of contact) passed away. His daughter refuses to tell anyone where she placed Giulia and won't respond to your family's desperate attempts to connect. To what lengths should you go to find an elderly relative who might not even know you're looking for her? [Thanks to attorney Corbin Payne for helping us answer this one!]
• Your cousin's ex-wife unexpectedly reached out to "apologize" about your childhood molestation by her ex-husband (your cousin). While you've worked hard to heal through therapy and build a wonderful life, her message feels oddly timed and potentially self-serving. How do you respond to someone dredging up painful memories for unclear motives?
• You work at a credit union where your micromanaging boss is actively preventing your career advancement. She's furious you applied for an internal position without her permission and seems determined to keep you under her control despite your excellent performance. How do you maneuver your way through corporate politics when your superior is playing a power game?
• Your older brother has autism and still lives with your parents at 27. They've provided minimal support for his independence, and your mother has been emotionally pressuring you since you were 16 to take full responsibility for him when they can't anymore. How do you balance caring for your brother while prioritizing your own new family?
• Recommendation of the Week: Crystal "rock" deodorant
• Your roofing company fired you right before paying your five-figure commission and claimed you had no employment contract (and therefore no non-compete clause). What happens when you decide to call all your clients, explain the situation, and bring them to your former employer's biggest competitor?
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David Eagleman explains why counterfeiting works, how our empathy fails, why mind reading remains elusive, and if we'll ever upload our minds to computers.

• Dr. David Eagleman worked with the European Central Bank on anti-counterfeiting measures, and his research revealed that most people don't notice security features on bills. His key recommendation was to use faces rather than buildings for watermarks since our brains have specialized neural real estate for recognizing faces, making counterfeit detection easier.
• Research shows our brains have less empathy for people we consider part of our "outgroup." FMRI studies demonstrated that even simple one-word labels (like religious affiliations) can trigger this differential response in the brain's pain matrix when witnessing someone experiencing pain.
• True mind reading via brain scanning is likely impossible in our lifetime. While we can decode basic sensory input (like visual or auditory cortex activity), actual thoughts involve complex personal experiences, memories, and creative combinations that would be impossible to capture without knowing someone's entire life history.
• Uploading a human brain to digital form presents enormous technical challenges and philosophical questions. The computational requirements exceed our current global capacity, and questions about identity (is the upload "you" if your physical body dies?) remain unresolved. Brain plasticity would also need to be captured for the upload to remain dynamic.
• Understanding our brain's natural tendency toward ingroup/outgroup thinking gives us the opportunity to consciously overcome these biases. By recognizing our shared humanity and finding common interests with those different from us, we can build bridges across divides and develop greater empathy for all people. This awareness can help us make more compassionate choices in our daily interactions.
• And much more...

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Feng Shui: ancient wisdom or modern woo? On Skeptical Sunday, Dave Farina unpacks how "chi" and "energy" get misappropriated in the name of interior design!

Welcome to Skeptical Sunday, a special edition of The Jordan Harbinger Show where Jordan and a guest break down a topic that you may have never thought about, open things up, and debunk common misconceptions. This time around, we’re joined by Is This Wi-Fi Organic?: A Guide to Spotting Misleading Science Online author and host of the Professor Dave Debates podcast (as well as the Professor Dave Explains YouTube channel), Dave Farina!

• The ancient Chinese practice of Feng Shui centers around three principles: commanding position (placing main furniture strategically in relation to doors), bagua (an "energy map" dividing spaces into eight areas representing aspects of life like wealth and career), and the five elements (earth, metal, water, wood, and fire) used to address specific needs.
• Terms like "energy," "frequency," and "vibration" have precise scientific definitions but are repurposed in Feng Shui with vague, mystical meanings. In physics, energy means "capacity to do work," while frequency refers to cycles per unit time—not the nebulous concepts suggested in mystical practices.
• Feng Shui conflates subjective aesthetic choices (appropriate for an art form like interior design) with objective claims about physical reality. While interior design is guided by aesthetic criteria, Feng Shui makes unfounded assertions about "chi," luck, and energy flows that lack empirical evidence.
• Many reported benefits of Feng Shui likely stem from placebo effects — feeling more energized because you expect to feel more energized in a particular arrangement. This psychological phenomenon explains why believers experience results while skeptics don't.
• Strip away the pseudoscientific claims, and Feng Shui contains genuinely useful design principles. Many of its recommendations—like keeping entryways clear, creating balanced spaces, and mindfully arranging furniture — make intuitive sense and can genuinely improve your living environment. These aesthetic guidelines can be appreciated and applied without embracing unfounded mystical claims, allowing you to create harmonious spaces based on practical design wisdom rather than magical thinking.
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A friend slept with a mentally ill patient, got caught in a web of manipulation, and calls you judgmental for questioning her ethics. It's Feedback Friday!

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• You discovered your friend, a physician, had a 2.5-year affair with a mentally ill, drug-addicted patient. When the relationship turned abusive and eventually was exposed, your friend lost her job and had her medical license suspended. Now she's accusing you of victim-blaming when you express concern about her ethics. Where's the line between accountability and compassion?
• Your immigrant parents were physically and emotionally abusive, and you played a key role in raising your siblings. Now your family treats your husband warmly while maintaining a cold relationship with you. Your husband, who relies on your support with his own difficult family, doesn't stand up for you. How do you navigate this painful dynamic?
• Your company of 15 years is relocating headquarters to a major metropolis, and you must decide whether to move with them or stay put. Only 10-20% of employees are expected to relocate, and the severance package requires staying until a specific date. Do you jump ship now, or wait it out in a potentially deteriorating work environment to secure your severance?
• Recommendation of the Week: Baylen Out Loud
• You previously wrote in about being catfished by your wife's cousin's boyfriend who was using his ex-girlfriend's photos. Now there's been a major development: the cousin discovered his messaging and kicked him out, revealing his pattern of using those photos to "test" men's fidelity. Despite these red flags, you're still drawn to him and considering pursuing a connection. Is this worth the risk?
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FBI veteran Scott Payne takes us into the world of undercover ops: infiltrating biker gangs, near-death moments, and the psychological toll of betrayal.

• Scott Payne worked undercover for the FBI infiltrating The Outlaws motorcycle gang, forming relationships with dangerous criminals over an 18-month period to gather evidence on crimes including drug trafficking, stolen vehicles, and potential connections to murder.
• Scott's undercover work involved serious personal danger, including a harrowing experience where he was strip-searched in the basement of the gang's clubhouse while wearing recording devices that could have gotten him killed if discovered.
• The psychological toll of undercover work is significant — Scott describes forming genuine friendships with targets that he ultimately had to betray, as well as physical and mental exhaustion that led to a breakdown during the operation.
• The FBI has developed safeguards for undercover agents' mental health, including psychological assessments and contact agents who provide support and maintain the agent's connection to their real identity during long undercover operations.
• Success in undercover work depends on authenticity and adaptability. Rather than completely fabricating a persona, Payne maintained aspects of his true self while adjusting to his environment, allowing him to build believable relationships and respond naturally in high-pressure situations. This approach — staying true to your core self while adapting to challenging circumstances — can be applied in many professional and personal situations requiring resilience.
• And much more...

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